Men are all determined to leave their hometown, marching and fighting, leaving their hometown to take exams, relegating to exile, traveling in business, etc., all of which are parting, especially the separation of husband and wife and friends, which is long and distant, and transportation and communication are inconvenient. Only when they miss and wait, their mood will naturally be lonely and lonely.
Wandering about my mother and thinking about my husband were the only way for the literati at that time, but because they had nowhere to tell and couldn't complain, they left their feelings in poems and songs, whether it was correspondence or self-pity for entertainment. Over time, they also formed fixed style routines and image symbols, such as running water, willow trees, blooming flowers, waning moon, pavilion and so on.
In addition, in the traditional culture, with the cooperation of the dominant position of Confucianism, kindness and gentleness of Buddhism and Taoism, and compliance with nature, the hierarchical concept of men and women in ancient China is very obvious and profound. Under the general trend and background of the feudal monarchy, marriage is not voluntary, but more is already a "wrong thing" that parents are forced to do.
At the same time, it is bound to fight and refute in the "heart", and "free love" has become an extravagant hope for everyone, whether it is fireworks or harem, or private life and no fame. In short, the ancients, especially the literati, were far more than one "lover", and philandering became a "law". The so-called falling out of love intentionally and heartlessly caused women to be abandoned or abandoned. A family can't be a family, and love can't be loved. The pain of lovesickness and separation is inevitable, and sorrow will inevitably follow.
where will you go has always been a more "profound" memory than joining hands to grow old. Tragedy is always more touching than comedy, because it can pierce people's hidden fragility.
people, no matter when and where they are, no matter what their status and background, all want to get a kind of exclusive true love. Love is an eternal topic for human beings, whether in literature, art or life. Since ancient times, marriage has been a red line to maintain each other. Parting is also a wound that can't be ignored and avoided. Acacia, out of parting, comes from gathering.
In the process of on-off and on-off, laughing and cursing, sweet and bitter, love goes on and on, and human nature is endless.