Introduction: How difficult is it for poor people to cross class? See what everyone has to say.
1. Too little relative time and too much burden
Relative time: Two people have the same time, but you have to use some necessary time on unnecessary things.
Poor people need to make money to support their families, and they simply cannot have too much time to think about problems, let alone plan for the future.
Three meals a day fill up the life of a poor housewife. She is not thinking about what to eat for lunch, what to buy, or how to take care of her children.
Poor men have no time except working hard to earn a meager amount of money to support their families.
02. The difference in knowledge is too big and the strength is not enough
A poor person’s thinking ability must be limited, and he will never have more knowledge than a rich person.
What will the parents of a poor child teach him? How to cook? Buy groceries? Anything without any breakthrough in thinking will make it difficult for him to break through this tradition.
The traditional way of thinking will make a person unwilling to make progress. What will a poor and a rich child do if you give them 10,000 yuan at the same time?
Poor children will buy food and entertainment, and soon the money will disappear. And what about the children of rich people? They may buy books to improve themselves.
2. Class is something invisible and intangible, but it actually exists around us. In an era where polarization is becoming more and more serious, it is increasingly difficult to change classes. The poor lack resources and have few contacts, which leads to the solidification of thinking patterns. This is a very bad thing. For children from poor families who want to change their class, the only fair thing is to study hard, pass the college entrance examination and enter a first-class university, and then read a lot of books and integrate study and life. Only after a long period of hard work can they cross the class, but it is also You can only move forward among the closest strata.
3. Don’t even think about crossing class if you don’t have an adventure.
Through education?
Don’t tell me that knowledge changes destiny. The educational resources possessed by the rich are not comparable to those of the poor, so they are losing at the starting line in terms of educational resources. Even though there are many poor people who have overcome many obstacles and squeezed into the single-plank bridge of college entrance examination, after graduating from undergraduate degree, should you join the work to reduce the burden on your family, or should you continue to study? Under very smooth circumstances, going to college at the age of 18 requires at least four years for a bachelor's degree and five years for a master's degree. Can a poor family support the high tuition and living expenses? Can a poor family support a family where the male labor cannot create value for the family before the age of thirty?
Through career?
With no capital, no resources, and no connections, how can you start a business to change your destiny? A rich person loses every time, and a poor person loses every time.
Take the civil service examination and go to work for a job. You only get a small salary every month. Do you want to make a fortune? Don't use your imagination, be careful to get through the prison. You still have to take care of your originally poor family and want to buy a house? It probably takes a lifetime.
Through marriage?
Unless you are really as good-looking as Pan An, and a rich girl really recruits you to marry you, it is possible to cross the class, but the chance is slim, just like buying a lottery ticket.
However, there is no need to belittle oneself. Not only the poor, but also the middle class find it difficult to cross the class. Many middle class people even accidentally cross the class downwards instead of upwards.
In life, don’t overestimate yourself, or be careful that the gap in your heart is too great.
4. The hardship of the poor is doomed from the moment they are born, because the starting line is already at the bottom. There is really no more vivid way to describe the social strata in the shape of a pyramid. People at the bottom have to climb up and climb up one stratum after another. We can know how difficult this process is!
The poor Poverty is not only material scarcity, but also directly affects spiritual hardship and psychological state. Good materials can lead to a high-quality educational environment, broader insights and a larger life pattern. These are all important factors that influence individuals on their way to success. In addition, whether you admit it or not, the self-confidence of children in a good material environment is likely to be much better than that of children in a poor material environment. Although this is not absolute, it is a very high probability. The economic base determines the superstructure! One of the conditions for success is self-confidence. They dare to show themselves in various social situations and dare to believe in their abilities.
Although these advantages are difficult to possess under material scarcity, poverty is also a double-edged sword. It can temper a person's will as hard as steel; it can temper a person's resilience and endurance like a galloping spirit. As indomitable as running water. A strong mind that is not afraid of hardship and perseverance can stand tall in poverty. Poor people with a snail's spirit can slowly climb up with a strong mind and eventually reach their destination, but the process is more difficult and longer than others. .
/5. Many people doubt themselves because of poverty
- Spirit Escaper
I don’t know if you have noticed this phenomenon. Many people doubt themselves because of poverty. And doubt yourself. I once doubted myself. I am 32 years old and unmarried. My mother always urged me to go on a blind date and get married as soon as possible. She said she was almost depressed if I didn't get married. People my age have children who are five or six years old.
Sometimes I don’t know how to face my parents, because no one is wrong in this matter. So every time they said it, I nodded and never refuted it. Even though there was a storm of scoldings, I nodded. And my mother said anxiously: "I am like being roasted on the fire, and you are still like blowing a cool breeze, motionless."
I remember Jia Pingwa wrote this when she was in her 50s, saying no I no longer care about whether my salary is high, I no longer care about visiting leaders, and I no longer care about what others say. It makes me feel like a person who has aged before his time. I spend most of my time in the house, writing and painting... writing and painting... It has been like this for nearly 10 years.
In the past 10 years, I have become more fond of being alone, let alone interacting with others. In my sister's words, she has truly become a "nerd". Even so, I have never doubted myself. After 10 years of writing, I have become more and more confident.
And I also know that my persistence may be ridiculous in the eyes of some people. On the contrary, I thought his pursuit was ridiculous. There is actually no right or wrong in this, and everyone’s pursuit deserves recognition. I have some friends who are engaged in art. They will ask me: "Do you think I can make it if I insist on writing? Do you think I can have a future if I insist on painting?" Even friends who are in business will ask: "Do you think I can do it?" Is it possible to work in this industry? "You should also have such friends or customers around you. More and more people doubt themselves because of poverty or because the art they insist on cannot be realized.
And they all said, I love this thing. I said at the beginning that I am an older leftover man. There are only two reasons why there are more leftover men and more older women. One is that the self-view is too strong and it is difficult to allow one more person to enter the world; the other is that the financial burden is too heavy and cannot cope with the worries caused by starting a family. The secular view is that to be beautiful, women need money; if a man has money, he will naturally be confident. For me, I hope my confidence comes from my works, not money.
The emergence of self-media has made many people know me. Every day I see messages one after another, whether they are thanking or criticizing, I know that I am influencing some people with my thinking. Most importantly – I impacted myself. Just like I repeatedly tell people who engage in art, do you think Van Gogh was successful? They said yes. But when Van Gogh was alive, he was considered a failure by everyone.
It is true that a penny stumps a heroic man. In order to survive, many people force themselves to smile and even bend their waists to the ground. I won't criticize people who stoop like I did a few years ago, because you don't understand other people's world, because there is a kind of stoop called "enduring humiliation", "suffering hardships", and "for this family".
Most people who doubt themselves because of poverty are those who doubt whether they will make money. If you can't sell your work, you will think that you have no talent, and you will even doubt your own industry. I do not deny that the times will eliminate some industries, but you have to believe that the times will never eliminate interesting souls and interesting works.
Just like some people say that poetry has been marginalized, literature has been marginalized, the painting industry has been sluggish, and the career of singers is too competitive... Now is an era where fragmented entertainment comes first. Just one Douyin video can have tens of thousands of views. Many people want to become Internet celebrities and become rich overnight.
Compared to the marginalization of literature, I am more afraid that many people’s dream is to become an “Internet celebrity”. No matter how bad literature, painting, music and other arts are, they are still better than being addicted to playing mahjong or King of Glory. No one will refute this simple truth. One day people will look back at themselves. "Fashionable food and spicy food" will not be commonplace, but "gruel", "rice" and "noodles" will be things that will accompany you throughout your life.
And these things are not expensive. Even if you are poor, you can still afford it. So most of the doubts are due to your lack of understanding of yourself, your understanding of life, and your misunderstanding of life. If you don’t have grassland at home, don’t raise a horse. There is nothing wrong with sheep. If you have to raise a horse, I support you, but you have to think about any possible consequences, such as the horse being unhappy and eventually leaving.
Don't be poor. Doubt yourself. If you like literature, write well. If literature can't support you, do something else to support yourself. That's what I do, but I have never doubted that I can't write. I will be confused by those who say that I have a "talent" for writing. I have no talent. My talent is that I keep writing and thinking about how to write and how to draw.
I am. I will keep writing and say to others that you are welcome to come. I will also love a girl, but I will still stick to myself, because I don't want the "hidden love" type of love that many married relatives have. Having said that, marriage is actually about two people living together. There are some things that both husband and wife know very well but never talk about. I call this the "hidden love" type of love, so I really like and practice the "to the oak tree" love. How many people are there?
When my mother married my father, she didn’t have a wedding photo, and all the pigs used in the wedding were borrowed. People at that time were stupid and got married without anything. "Are people really stupid at that time? Many people today will say: "The love at that time was better, without such material ties.
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Having said so much, it’s enough to sum it up in one sentence: Don’t doubt yourself in front of life, and don’t doubt yourself in front of your lover. Poverty is not your fault, but lack of confidence is your fault. . I often think of what Confucius said about his student Yan Hui. Confucius said: "A virtuous person returns home with a basket of food and a ladle of drink. When he is in a back alley, he cannot bear his worries, but his happiness will not change when he returns." Xianzai returns. ”
Excerpted from the prose works of independent scholars and artists.