May every day be a beautiful day for you.
The same life, different mentality, and completely different perspectives on things. We should be able to jump out and look at ourselves with an optimistic, open-minded and considerate attitude, look at ourselves and know ourselves; Don't be hard on yourself, more importantly, surpass yourself and break through yourself, because there is hope for a better life. The person who made you angry has gone away. Why are you still angry for him? The philosopher Kant said: "Anger is to punish yourself with the mistakes of others." . Jump out and look at yourself. You might as well look at yourself from another angle. You will realize that the bitterness, fatigue, happiness and comfort of life depend on one's mentality, which involves one's attitude towards life and feelings about things. Jump out and look at yourself from another angle, and you will face life calmly and never punish yourself with other people's mistakes again. When the pain comes, you might as well jump out and look at yourself from another angle, face this troubled life bravely, and then look for the reasons, lessons and methods to overcome the pain in the sad and barren land, so that the soul can make brave choices in the thorny mind and find the maturity of life.
Jump out, look at yourself from another angle, and you will be happy in your life. "Every day is a beautiful day", and your mind will be bright and there will be no troubles.
In other words, an old mother gave birth to two daughters. The eldest daughter married a businessman who sold umbrellas, and the second daughter worked in a dyehouse. This makes my mother sad every day. Fortunately, she was worried that her eldest daughter's umbrella would not be sold. It's cloudy, and the clothes in the second daughter's dyeing house can't dry. She is very sad. She was very sad on sunny and cloudy days, and soon turned white. One day, a distant relative came to see her, surprised at her aging and asked her why. She was not amused. The relative said, "You are happy when the umbrella of the eldest daughter sells well on cloudy days, and you should be happy when the business of the dyeing house of the second daughter is good on sunny days. In this way, you have something happy every day, and every day is a good day. Why don't you pick up happiness and sadness? " The old mother thought from another angle, "That makes sense!" From then on, she smiled and was happy every day.
People's life is bound to stumble, get angry when they are unhappy, or encounter natural and man-made disasters and so on. Whenever this time, how do we deal with it?
I remember a philosopher once said, "Our pain is not caused by the problems themselves, but by our views on these problems. This sentence is very philosophical, which leads us to liberation. Speaking of which, I think of another story:
In other words, in the summer evening, a beautiful young woman jumped into the river and was rescued by a white-bearded ferryman rowing in the river. The ferryman asked, "You are young, why did you commit suicide?" "I was only married for two years, and my husband abandoned me, and then the child died of illness. What pleasure do you think I have in living? " The ferryman listened thoughtfully for a while. He said, "How did you live two years ago?" The young woman said, "I was free and carefree at that time ..." "Did you have a husband and children at that time?" "No" "Then you were just sent back by the ship of fate two years ago. Now you're free again. Please go ashore ... "
The words sound just fell and the young woman had a dream. She rubbed her eyes, thought about it, and left the shore. Since then, she has never committed suicide. The young woman changed her mind. Because she looked at herself from another angle, she saw the dawn of life. Feel the power of freedom. Many times, all our sufferings and troubles are our own misjudgments based on the "experience" gained in previous lives. At this time, we might as well jump out and look at ourselves from another angle, so that you won't be depressed because of battlefield failure, shopping mall failure and frustrated love. I will not be carried away by fame and praise. Looking at yourself from another angle is a breakthrough, a liberation, a transcendence, a high-level indifference and tranquility, so as to gain the pleasure of freedom. Looking at the world from another angle, the world is infinitely broad; It's not safe to treat people from another standpoint. May every day be a beautiful day for you!
When the ideal and pursuit of life can't be realized, we might as well look at life from another angle. From another angle, there will be another philosophy and another view of doing things.
Hold the key to your happiness
A mature person should master the key to his own happiness. He doesn't expect others to make him happy, but he can bring happiness and happiness to others. Everyone has a "key to happiness" in his heart, but we often give it to others unconsciously!
A lady complained, "I am very unhappy because my husband is often away on business trips." "She handed the key to happiness to a former student. A mother said, "My child is disobedient, which makes me very angry!"! "! She put the key to happiness in the hands of her children. A man may say, "My boss doesn't appreciate me, so I'm depressed. The key was thrust into the boss's hand again. My mother-in-law said, "My daughter-in-law is not filial. I'm so unlucky! The young man walked out of the stationery store and said, "The boss's poor service attitude really makes me angry! 」
These people all made the same decision-that is, let others control his emotions!
When we allow others to control their emotions, we feel that we are victims and can do nothing about the status quo. Complaining and anger become our only choice. We began to blame others and sent the message: "You have caused my pain, and you are responsible for my pain!" " ! At this time, we entrusted this great responsibility to the people around us-asking them to make me happy. We seem to admit that we can't control ourselves and can only be piteously pushed around. Such people make others dislike approaching, even daunting.
A mature person can hold the key to his own happiness. He doesn't have to expect others to make him happy, but can bring happiness and happiness to others. He is emotionally stable and responsible for himself. Being with him is a pleasure, not a pressure.
The yogi teaches us to be our own masters and not to be influenced by the environment and material desires; The Bible teaches us to be "always happy, tolerant and grateful". "Where are your keys? Is it in someone else's hands? Go get it back!
The source of happiness comes from yourself, not others!
Be generous when you are frustrated.
Occasionally frustrated in life, it is inevitable, and it is always easy to get carried away by complacency; It's no use complaining about failure and dissatisfaction with reality. Everything should be solved by forgiveness.
As the saying goes, "Disappointment is often nine times out of ten. Isn't it sad to live like this? No. You know there's a proverb called "much trouble grinds". "We should have the belief that frustration is a tempering process, and even if it is not a cold day, the heart will not be cold. There is a saying that snow indicates a good year. The greater the snow, the richer the year will be.
"What is wider than the sea is the sky, and what is bigger than the sky is the human mind. No matter how hard life grinds people, how to compress you into a small box, but the space for thinking is infinite, and the vision of the soul is infinite and extremely broad, allowing you to gallop. Come and go freely, the charm of life is here!
If you stand tall, you can see far. Red, orange, yellow, green, blue and purple, colorful life, different colors; Sweet, sour, spicy and salty, with five flavors, each with its own taste; Seven emotions, endless. There is no plain sailing life. If your life has no setbacks, it will be too monotonous, boring and boring. Without the embarrassment and humiliation of failure, how can there be joy of success? Maybe you just can't stand the blow of human sentiment and failure, holding your head and lamenting. You have said that "nine times out of ten things go wrong", and you will meet them yourself. Then consider it a stone in front of you. Stand up straight and step on the gas! Maybe you will have a broader vision and an open-minded mind!
People are very kind, often tolerant to strangers, gentle to lovers, but forget to leave some for themselves. There is a useful saying, "Nothing". Always say a lot of "nothing" to others, or out of courtesy, or out of kindness, or out of melodramatic, or out of helplessness; Either you really don't care, or you have ulterior motives. Anyway, who makes life so unhappy? If you want to convince yourself, learn to say so. The days without sunshine are very melancholy. You should learn to say "nothing". Life without friends is lonely. You should learn to say "nothing". I am already very tired, and I need a sincere understanding to say "nothing" to myself and my tired mind. In this way, you are not allowed to indulge all your mistakes, but you are eager to extricate yourself; I'm not determined to forget all my regrets, but I refuse to indulge. It only works if you comfort yourself.
People are compassionate, and they will not be happy when they see others sad-except enemies-and will always come forward to persuade them. Advice comes from kindness, and words are very philosophical. However, those who listen may not listen, and those who listen may not follow suit, because the pain makes people numb. A woman writer said, "I don't advise anyone to do anything." To solve this problem, you need to untie the bell and tie the bell. A knot in my heart can only be solved by myself. The words of friends and good people are just catalysts. You are the decisive factor. 」
In short, setbacks are inevitable, so relax.
When frustrated, blame yourself for not choosing the right one.
When you encounter setbacks, no matter how much you blame others, it will be futile in the end. Then you can only blame yourself for not choosing well, because blaming yourself at any time is always the most wise and correct attitude towards life.
When we were young, whenever we accidentally fell down, our first thought was to find out what tripped us. We always blame others for putting things around, but if we can't find anything, we can blame the uneven road. Although doing that has no direct effect on relieving pain, it is a comfort to find someone to blame and prove that you are not responsible.
When we are growing up, whenever we encounter setbacks, we will always unconsciously find many objective reasons to excuse ourselves. When we really can't find the reason, we say that our lives are bad. We don't think it is absolutely naive to excuse ourselves in this way, because we are always deceiving ourselves again and again.
A friend who started a company in Shanghai a few years ago was "unlucky" recently, and his business was booming, and he suddenly failed repeatedly. Two vice presidents who had been loyal to him for many years left him and even "jumped ship" to a competitor's company.
In the midst of internal and external troubles, this friend did not seriously and timely reflect on himself. Instead, he blindly blamed his former comrades for betraying himself. So he indulges in anger and sadness, no longer trusts others, and easily loses his temper. The result is a vicious circle, and the whole company is distracted and in greater trouble.
In fact, there is something wrong with the company's operation. As the boss of the company, of course, he can't pass the buck at the beginning. Even if others betray him, he is the first person to use it improperly. If he always complains and blames others for all his faults, he will face greater danger. Fortunately, this friend finally woke up under the reminder of his family, began to admit his past mistakes in an all-round way, and objectively summed up his failures and lessons caused by stubbornness.
Complaining about others is actually a kind of cowardice, but also an immature performance, which covers up the reality that you can't face and leaves a hidden danger that you may repeat the same mistakes in the future. If you don't blame others objectively, new contradictions will arise. The strong in the true sense are not the lucky ones who are always smooth sailing, and they are bound to experience all kinds of pains and challenges. He who overcomes all difficulties must first overcome himself. The premise of defeating yourself is to reflect on yourself and only blame yourself.
It's a relief to only blame yourself. Because we refuse to admit our mistakes, it is nothing more than taking care of our own face and refusing to admit our failures. In fact, there has never been a victorious general in this world. When we bravely admit our mistakes, all our burdens and faces are quietly put down, which will make him relax. As the saying goes, "people who are good at summing up themselves will turn the lessons of failure into their own wealth."
Self-blame is a kind of power, and those who are used to blaming others will sooner or later incur resentment. A person who is brave in self-discipline is undoubtedly noble, so he will have the power to tolerate the whole world and let everyone admire his extraordinary demeanor and be willing to communicate. Self-blame is a state. In fact, even if others really have something to blame, it is useless to criticize too much. Anger can't solve any problems. Self-examination is the only feasible way, and there is no problem at all. The most invincible enemy in this world is actually yourself. If a person has reached the point where he has only one opponent left, he is actually invincible in the world.
Hide errors-errors, errors, errors
There is a young couple. After a month of marriage, the wife wanted to visit her family, so she invited her husband to go home with her. The wife said to her husband, "When we go home this time, we should be polite to our parents and relatives, not reckless or rude, okay?" The husband said to his wife, "Don't worry! I won't let you lose face, and I won't let your parents-in-law down. When I arrived at my parents' house, my wife and parents chatted about the recent situation, and my husband just looked around, walking here and shopping there.
Unconsciously, the husband came to the rice house and saw piles of white rice. Thinking that he was a little hungry, he grabbed a handful of white rice and stuffed it in his mouth. It happened that at this time, his wife also entered the room. The husband couldn't swallow the white rice for a while, and he couldn't spit it out.
His wife saw him in pain and asked him, "What's the matter with you? What's the matter? The husband couldn't speak at all. His wife was even more puzzled when she saw that he didn't talk. She approached him and found her husband's face and cheeks bulging. The wife immediately took her husband to see her father and said, "Dad! Look! Your son-in-law's cheek is swollen for some reason. Maybe there is something wrong with his mouth. Please call a doctor to see him at once! The wife has always been close to her husband, so he has no chance to escape. He secretly complained: What should I do?
Soon, the doctor came. The doctor looked at the prominent face and cheeks and said, "This is an unknown tumor. We should operate quickly, or our lives will be in danger!" So, I operated on my husband. As a result, all I took out was a handful of white rice. I realized that it was caused by stealing white rice, which made all four people very embarrassed.
For the father-in-law, it should be scolding the son-in-law, right? Don't scold? For the wife, the husband is really shameful! For my husband, stealing white rice resulted in a knife in vain, which made everyone busy in vain. For the doctor, he is even more embarrassed. He was diagnosed as an unknown tumor, but after the operation, he took out white rice. So everyone dared not speak, and the result ended in discord.
If a person has a little contribution and strength, he likes to show it off to others for fear that others will not know. However, if there are any mistakes or shortcomings, I am afraid that others will know and I want to hide them. The ancients said: "I don't know, I have to do it myself." If you don't want others to know your mistake, unless you don't do it, because paper can't cover fire, and concealment is only temporary, sooner or later someone will know. Aboveboard is what a gentleman does. People who like to hide their mistakes will not be respected in the end!
People are not saints, and occasionally they make some mistakes, but if you are honest with each other, you can eliminate your sins by expressing repentance, learn from your mistakes and make yourself better and better!
Dare to be inferior to others
Dare to feel inferior, in fact, dare to admit their own shortcomings. This is a kind of courage to look forward to growth. Everyone has advantages and disadvantages. Only when you really see this, can you be superior to others in the end.
Many places often feel inferior to others.
In housework, it is not as good as a hardworking and capable housewife; At work, it is best to be a colleague who is good at observing words and feelings; In dealing with interpersonal relationships, even worse than a twelve-year-old daughter; In the application and mastery of new knowledge, it is not as agile and sensitive as young people; When encountering complex things, they also lack the shrewdness and understanding of their elders, and they are good at dancing with long sleeves; Worst of all, in an emergency, you lack the ability to deal with emergencies, are slow to respond, and even lose everything you know is a shoo-in.
Someone once proudly told me that you don't have to argue with me. You can't argue with me at all If you argue, you will lose. It's true to think about it. In case of emergency, you will be tongue-tied, often tongue-tied and lose your judgment. I simply forgot the core point of the matter and the opponent's eagerness to lose, and I was inexplicably overwhelmed by the opponent's momentum. What a coward.
I played the deepest tone, cultivated the quietest and calmest mentality, and experienced several setbacks. Gradually, I also want to understand that one cannot be superior everywhere. If you gain something, you lose something, and you may suffer more unexpected natural and man-made disasters. Just like people who have minor illnesses and disasters all their lives, they often enjoy it, but those who are indifferent and have great achievements often have sudden disasters and cannot be prevented. Fate is often impermanent, leaving room for everything. In fact, from another perspective, daring to feel inferior is also a certain degree of self-confidence. Only by daring to be inferior to others can we be superior to others. There is a sky behind the world and a building outside. How can one person surpass everyone everywhere forever? Everyone has his own advantages and disadvantages. Only by fostering strengths and avoiding weaknesses can you be witty. We use our weaknesses that we are not good at to beat others' best housekeeping skills, and the result can be imagined. People will have various potentials and advantages, but you can't have opportunities to display them everywhere. You can only use your power in one place. Where you don't use your strength, where you don't have time to take care of it, you are bound to be inferior to the people who use their strength in this place. Your energy is limited and your opportunities are limited. Therefore, there must be few places where you can be like a person, but there must be many places where you are not as good as a person. Only by understanding this, can you have a calm mind and be a real person.
Multi-faceted view of style
The styles of dealing with people in life are dazzling and varied, but have you seen these "styles" mentioned below?
People who stick to the rules and stand still have an unbreakable "seal". He is obsessed with himself, but he insists on his own opinions, and he can't say anything when he is trapped in an urn. People who have this kind of "seal" always go to despair because they are narrow-minded and short-sighted and can't even accommodate themselves. This self-enclosed and narrow life is really unacceptable.
On the contrary, rich cultural connotation and profound personality cultivation are called "style", which embraces everything, has a broad pattern and a rich inner world. Because I am well informed, my thoughts and thoughts are concentrated on the vast and magnificent home, country and world.
Worse than "closed" is hysterical "madness". When a woman who lacks self-cultivation is "crazy", she will yell at her in court. People described the scene as a lion roaring, and the sudden tsunami sounded chilling, and her mother-in-law was full of sadness and sadness. The gentleness of a woman is beauty, and there should be Ned and cultivation that everyone loves. The same is true of the so-called "Lanxin Huizi" and "Xiuwai Clock Club". Don't be violent, turn into a fierce woman, make your parents sad, and make your in-laws chilling.
The steep mountains are wide and deep, which is desirable. After boarding Gao Feng, my vision is wide and it is refreshing. The inner spirit of "Brother Feng" who climbs mountains and climbs mountains is "aim high and be practical and willing to work". To be a volunteer, we should be firm and practical, not afraid of complexity and difficulties, stand higher and see farther.
If the blade is too sharp, it will break easily. This kind of "forward-looking" person, with mean words and sinister intentions, hurts people everywhere like a sharp blade. This will not only make them feel helpless, but also be a taboo of nature. However, if we can sharpen this front and practice the spirit of hard work and dedication, just like "the sword front is sharpened, and the plum blossom fragrance comes from bitter cold", we can achieve a great husband's career with indomitable spirit. All these things, no matter what kind of "situation" we are in, the change of good and evil is always between thoughts. When you think of goodness, you will get a bright candle, which can completely illuminate the Millennium Valley. On the other hand, when evil thoughts are together, they fall into a lonely situation without knowing the bottom. Where there is will, the "style" of self-consciousness should be observed at that time. Don't let bad habits like "sealing" and "madness", like the blade of "front", hurt our inner goodness and supreme virtue.
Choosing and giving up determines your life.
If you don't know how to choose and give up, you will only die.
Grandpa made me a long dragon out of paper.
The gap in the dragon's abdominal cavity can only accommodate a few small locusts crawling slowly.
But my grandfather caught some locusts and put them in. They all died in it, and no one survived!
Grandpa said: locusts are so impatient. Apart from struggling, they never thought about biting the long dragon with their mouths, and they didn't know that they could climb out from the other end as long as they kept going. So, although it has an iron pliers-like mouth shell and serrated thighs, it doesn't help.
When my grandfather put several green worms of the same size into the faucet, and then turned off the faucet, a miracle appeared: in just a few minutes, young green worms climbed out of the dragon's tail silently.
The locust died because it didn't know how to choose. It only knows to keep struggling, but it doesn't know to give up, so it is only a dead end. On the other hand, the caterpillar knew how to give up and choose, and it survived.
Destiny has always been hidden in our minds. Many people can't walk out of the shadow at different stages of life, big or small, not because their natural personal conditions are much worse than others, but because they don't want to bite through the shadow paper dragon, and they have no patience to find a direction slowly and move forward step by step until a new hole appears in front of them.
Let go of the pressure-whether you are tired or not depends on your mentality.
The room of the soul will be full of dust if it is not cleaned. A dusty heart will become gloomy and confused. We go through a lot of things every day. Happy and unhappy people all settle down in their hearts. If there are too many things in your heart, it will become chaotic, and then your heart will be chaotic. Some painful emotions and unpleasant memories, if filled in the heart, will make people depressed. Therefore, sweeping the floor and removing dust can make a gloomy heart bright; Only by sorting things out can we bid farewell to our troubles; Throw away some unnecessary pain, and there will be more room for happiness.
Grasping the cause of unhappiness and ignoring the cause of happiness is the reason why you always feel uncomfortable.
Let go of your troubles-happiness is actually very simple.
The so-called practice of smiling is not to mechanically move your facial expressions, but to try to change your mentality and adjust your mood. Learn to accept the reality frankly, learn to tell yourself to let nature take its course, learn to face bad luck calmly, learn to look at life positively, and learn to look on the bright side in everything. In this way, sunshine will flow into the heart, drive away fear, drive away darkness and drive away all haze.
Happiness is actually very simple, just be unhappy.
Let go of inferiority complex-delete inferiority complex from your dictionary.
Not everyone can be a great man, but everyone can be a person with a strong heart. Inner strength can dilute all pain and sadness; Inner strength can effectively make up for your external shortcomings; Inner strength can make you walk fearlessly on the road and feel the buildings and peaks with your own thoughts above all else!
Believe in yourself, find your place, and you can have a valuable life.
Let go of laziness-struggle to change your destiny
Don't blindly envy others' unique skills and unique skills. You can have them through persistent efforts. Because it is a trick to practice a simple movement to perfection; It is a unique skill to do an ordinary little thing perfectly.
Remind yourself, remember your own reminder, you who are motivated, happy, healthy and kind will surely have a brilliant life.
Let go of negativity-turn left in despair and turn right in hope.
If you want to be a successful person, please cheer for your "best self". Let positive overcome negative, noble overcome mean, sincere overcome hypocrisy, tolerance overcome intolerance, happiness overcome melancholy, diligence overcome laziness, strength overcome weakness, greatness overcome misfortune ... as long as you are willing, you can be the best yourself all your life.
No one can decide the result except you. Your own war, you are the general who masterminded it!
Not all dreams can become beautiful reality, but beautiful dreams can also decorate the beauty of life.
Let go of complaining-it is better to work hard than to complain.
All failures are preparations for success. Complaining and discouragement can only hinder your progress towards success. It is undoubtedly a wise man's gesture to let go of complaining and accept failure frankly.
Complaining can't change the status quo, but fighting can bring hope. Real gold, as long as you don't bury yourself, as long as you concentrate on flashing, there will always be a flash.
Throughout ancient and modern times, many miracles of life were created by people who initially took a bad hand.
Don't always worry about life. Don't always think that life failed you. In fact, you have as much as others.
Let go of hesitation-act immediately and you will achieve unlimited success.
Look for things, don't be indecisive; Choose the right direction, go on the road and don't look back. Opportunities are like lightning, which can only be caught quickly and decisively.
Immediate action is the common feature of all successful people. If you have any good ideas, then act immediately; If you meet a good opportunity, seize it at once. Take immediate action, your success is limitless!
Some people must forget, some things are used for introspection, and some things are to be cleaned up. Let go when it's time to let go, and then you can free your hands and seize the joy and happiness that originally belonged to you!
Some things can't wait. A moment's hesitation will leave you with eternal regret!
Let go of narrowness-be broad-minded and the world will be broad.
Tolerance is a virtue. To be tolerant of others is actually to make way for your own mind. Only in a tolerant world can people play a harmonious song of life!
If we want to get rid of prejudice, we must create a tolerant society. To eradicate prejudice, we must first eradicate narrow thinking. Only by staying away from prejudice can people and hearts, people and people, and people and society be harmonious.
We should not only be happy by ourselves, but also share our happiness with friends, family and even strangers. Because sharing happiness itself is a kind of happiness, a higher level of happiness.
Tolerance is a virtue. To be tolerant of others is actually to make way for your own mind. Only in a tolerant world can people play a harmonious song of life!
There are many things here that should be useful to you. . .
/Zhang Wen/Rensheng Zheli/Ganwu/