Of course, this statement is a bit biased. And filial piety to children and grandchildren. China traditional culture attaches great importance to filial piety, which also produces? Zhu Dexiao first? Statement. ? Filial piety? As an ethical concept, it was first formally put forward in the Western Zhou Dynasty, which means that the history of filial piety culture in China has been around 3000 years.
We often hear such a sentence in our life, called? No dutiful son in bed for a long time? This sentence is a summary of thousands of years of love. This means that people will have many diseases when they are old, and they need children to take good care of them. However, if parents stay in bed all the year round, their children will be impatient and treat the elderly less attentively than before.
In fact, in the era when filial piety culture was very popular, this sentence has not yet come into being. Confucianism attaches importance to filial piety, and Confucius has repeatedly emphasized the importance of filial piety. Before the imperial examination system came into being, what was a way for the imperial court to select talents? Zhu Lianxiao? At that time, it was believed that a person who was not filial to his parents would definitely have no morality after being an official.
The Analects of Confucius recorded a passage that Confucius said:? My son was born three years ago, and then he broke away from his parents. My husband was lost for three years, and the whole world was lost. ? Confucius attached great importance to filial piety and believed that children should be well supported and cared for when their parents were around. When both parents die, children should be filial for three years. During this period, they were deprived of all the comforts, including eating meat, drinking and listening to music.
Then the imperial examination system replaced it? Zhu Lianxiao? Cultural examination has become the standard for selecting talents. The situation that children sleep in thatched cottages and pillow tiles, stay in front of their parents' graves all the year round without taking a shower or shaving their heads, and then be recommended for employment as the eldest son of a dutiful son is not so popular, and the culture of filial piety is slowly changing.
Although scholars still attach great importance to filial piety (after all, it is related to their future reputation), the people are not so particular about it. Although unfilial sons will be despised, there are still many. So? No dutiful son in bed for a long time? This statement is slowly becoming popular. After this sentence, there is actually another sentence.
What is the other sentence? No good wife at home for a long time? It also reflects the reality. The ancients thought that if you marry a wife, you have to marry a virtuous man. There has been such a saying in a dream of red mansions:? A good wife and husband seldom have disasters. ? Such words were very popular in ancient times. People think that a wife who can endure hardships with her husband, take good care of her husband in life and have a good moral influence on her husband deserves it? A good wife? The title of.
A good wife? The positive example is the wife of Le Yangzi, and the negative example is the wife of Jiang Ziya, a hero of the Zhou Dynasty, and Zhu Maichen, the wife of Jiuqing of the Han Dynasty. Jiang Ziya and Zhu Maichen lived in poverty for the first half of their lives. Their wives left them, and they didn't want to endure poverty. At that time, it was common for women to remarry, but in the Ming and Qing Dynasties, women's chastity was infinitely emphasized and became a counterexample in the eyes of the world.
However, from the perspective of modern people, if the husband does not make progress, life at home will always be difficult, and even a good wife will not last long. After all, marriage is different from love. Marriage needs a certain material foundation and does not need moral kidnapping. Moreover, the ancients only emphasized the good wife, emphasized that the wife should stick to morality, and rarely set moral standards for her husband. Whether it is filial piety culture or marriage morality, there are always differences between ancient and modern times.