I heard something like this yesterday. A man went on a blind date. He was not a rich second generation and didn’t have much money, so he just had to seek truth from facts. Originally, love should be based on honesty. Basically, this man is very face-conscious. When going on a blind date, he insists on asking someone to borrow a good car to show off his face. As the saying goes, this is called "pretending" to go on a blind date. I don’t know if it turned out to be successful or not, but when this man came back, he crashed the nice borrowed car, and he was fully responsible. He really lived up to the saying, “Don’t pretend to be cool, or you’ll be struck by lightning if you pretend to be cool.”
Some people say that this man can’t help it. Who doesn’t want others to think that they are rich? Indeed, in real life, money is very important to a man. A penny can stump a heroic man. Without money, it is difficult to move forward. Money is the courage of a man. Only when he has a certain financial foundation can he stand tall. In modern society, one of the signs of a man's success is that he has earned a lot of money.
Every man desires success and makes money. Men desire money just like women desire love. But you can't use this method to show that you are rich, because this method is like a vanity balloon, which will burst as soon as you poke it.
In fact, it is not shameful for a man to have no money at the beginning. As long as you work hard, you will always have money. Even if you don’t have a lot of money, at least it will not be bad. I'm afraid that some men don't have money and are in a state of "lack of money" for a long time, and they will try to make themselves fat like this man who borrowed a car to go on a blind date.
In the end, the losses were huge. Even if you were lucky enough to get through, it would be exposed sooner or later.
But why are some men with high IQs and good hands and feet still in a state of "lack of money" for a long time? That's because he often has these kinds of mentality in his heart, and such a man does not deserve sympathy.
1. Love vanity and desire to show off
There is such a kind of man called "poor and generous". It's normal for men to be generous, but you must have generous capital. Don't just think about comparing yourself with others when you don't have a lot of money in your pocket. For the sake of so-called face, you even have to make a fool of yourself when borrowing money. You gain vanity for the time being, but after you become vanity, you still have to pay back the money you borrowed, and if you are often so poor and generous, it will only put you in an economic crisis.
Just like the man on a blind date mentioned at the beginning of the article, he didn’t have the financial strength, but he still wanted to show off. In the end, he deserved it.
Mei Niang has a friend from a colleague who is also like this. She saw her getting married and went to the Maldives. She had just bought the wedding house and was in debt. She also borrowed money to go there, and then she saw her. I drove a luxury car, and immediately took out a loan to replace it without thinking beyond my means. I saw a friend carrying a limited edition bag, so I borrowed money to buy it. In my daily life, I heard about what new movies were released somewhere, and I also bought it with a loan. Regardless of the price, I want to see it immediately. If there are any interesting places, I will also be the first to find out and go for a stroll. When I'm at home on weekends, I often order takeout instead of cooking, because the young couple next door are like that too.
Two years after the marriage, the child got pneumonia and had to be hospitalized. The couple searched all kinds of cards and found only more than 100 yuan, which was not even enough to pay the deposit. In the end, they asked the child's grandfather to advance the payment. It was really amazing. Yes.
After two years of marriage, I don’t even have a cent in savings. What is the root cause? Comparison and vanity are natural!
If a family wants to live a good life and be financially well-off, it needs to increase revenue and reduce expenditure. If you want to save some money with a certain income, you must reduce expenditure and not be extravagant. Show off. Let’s not talk about those who have a lot of income. If you don’t have much income in the first place, and you still show off your wealth and engage in vicious comparisons, how can you have money?
2. Today there is wine and now there is wine.
There is a poem by Luo Yin in the Tang Dynasty called "Self-dispatch": "When you gain, you sing loudly and when you lose, you stop. When you have sorrow and hatred, you are also long. Today there is wine." If you are drunk today, you will be worried tomorrow. "Luo Yin's official career was bumpy, and he was not ranked among the top ten candidates. This poem was written by Luo Yin with emotion and self-mockery. It expresses the author's optimism, insight, and indifference to the world.
"If you have wine now, you will be drunk now" is not originally a derogatory meaning. Behind this poem is Luo Yin's self-liberation in the face of decades of hard work but still unable to achieve what he wanted. What we want to express with this poem is the muddled mentality that "men who are short of money" have.
For such men, if they earn a penny, they can spend two cents. If they have no money to spend, they can borrow money. For today's enjoyment, they can overdraw tomorrow's salary, just to be happy.
So, they will never be able to save money and will always be short of money.
A friend’s husband is like this. He is nice to his wife, but every time it’s time to pay wages, he wants to buy out the supermarket. And buy whatever is expensive and what is fresh. In a word, you deserve it.
In this way, they have been married for ten years, not only living with each other, but also often borrowing money from friends to live. Even if they want to change to a bigger house, it is still far away. The reader also communicates with the husband, but the husband seems She can't get rid of this habit of spending money lavishly. In her husband's opinion, if you have to live as hard as you can at the end of the month, then what's the point of living? At first glance, what he said seemed reasonable to you, but Mei Niang felt that it was precisely because of your lavish spending at the beginning of the month that you were short of money at the end of the month!
However, some men would rather be short of money than give up the feeling of spending money wantonly, so just accept whatever you choose. You deserve to be out of money.
3. Don’t take the normal path, just want to take the shortcut
No one can succeed casually. How can you see the rainbow without going through wind and rain? Only by giving can you gain something. This is an unbreakable truth. We often say that pie does not fall in the sky, and no one’s money comes from the strong wind. Only by hard work can you get a harvest. If you want to live a good life, you have to work hard, but those who have been "short for a long time" Basically, without exception, men who want money do not want to do things in a down-to-earth manner, but are eager to make money easily.
A netizen once asked Mei Niang for help, saying that her husband was a grown man who did not want to work to make money to support the family, but was idle all day long, thinking about how to get rich overnight. Let him go out Find some work, either because the salary is low or because the work is too tiring. My husband’s favorite thing is to buy lottery tickets. He feels that sooner or later the goddess of luck will come to him, and sometimes he even asks for money to buy cigarettes. Netizens want it.
This netizen said that she is not a woman who likes comparison, but her relatives and friends, who were all the same at the beginning, thought that they were all better off than she was. She felt very disappointed and complained about her husband. She asked Do I want a divorce?
It would obviously be irresponsible to divorce her just because of this. I told her that divorce is a big deal, and it would be best if her husband could change his mind and work hard. But for a person who has only been thinking about taking shortcuts for a long time, it is really impossible for him to make money steadily. I told her that this is a systematic project. You have to mobilize all the people around him, including him. Parents and friends, don't lend him money. As long as a man still has some sense of shame, if he is forced to a certain extent, he will definitely reflect on himself. If he still remains the same, then consider divorce again.
For a man, you have the responsibility to support your wife and children, and you also have the responsibility to make your wife and children live a better life. Those who always think about taking shortcuts to make money are still unreliable in the final analysis. Maybe they can make some money occasionally, but it is naturally unstable and fleeting. Therefore, if you want to change the "lack of money" state, it is very necessary to abandon this idea of ??"taking shortcuts".
Men who have been "short of money" for a long time often have these three mentalities and are not worthy of sympathy. If you want to change this state, please reflect on yourself and start by changing your own psychology.