The application of love triangle theory in the cultural background of China also needs to consider the possible dimensional differences in different cultural backgrounds and the different dimensional attribution of the same element. Of course, this does not prevent the triangle love theory from being used in general thinking in life.
Passion, intimacy and commitment are isomorphic with love. Without any point, it can't be called love, just like three points build a plane. Without any point, this unique plane doesn't exist. Steinberg called love with three basic elements "perfect American love", because it takes lovers a lifetime to cultivate and care for a stable and lasting love, which is a huge project throughout their lives.
However, having three elements does not mean that love will become a reality, and love needs to make more efforts to adjust the relationship. Love is not an easy thing, no wonder some people think that love is an ability, not innate, and needs constant exercise and practice to cultivate it.
Love is a kind of ability, being loved is also a kind of ability, and necessity is an art. In this era when even love needs the support of ability, it is difficult to talk about a real love artistically!
Judging from these three elements, it is not a one-off event to find and enjoy true love. Many people think they are in love, but they don't know it's not love. At best, it's just immature love or no love.
Because so many older young people face the difficulty of finding a partner, more and more single people, largely because of their stubbornness about ideal love. They are the last believers and spectators of love, and they are willing to match their golden age for true love.
Perhaps, in some people's eyes, this is stubborn, but for them, love is absolutely harsh, not casual, not casual.
Love needs courage and ability, courage without ability and ability without ability. Nevertheless, all sentient beings will not wait until they have these three elements before they begin to fall in love. Ideal is one thing, reality is another.
Because of these three elements, except passion, intimacy and commitment, it will take some time to become a reality, and it will not happen overnight. Even passion is not easy to maintain, but people tend to ignore it.
Perhaps, there is still an insurmountable distance between us and love. Love is an approaching goal for us and a constantly changing experience. This may be cruel, but if so, do we still have the courage to love and be loved?
Extended data
Intimacy includes 10 basic elements:
1, eager to promote the happiness of the person you love. The lover takes care of the lover actively and promotes his/her happiness together. On the one hand, you may promote each other's happiness at the expense of your own happiness-but you also expect them to do the same when necessary.
I feel happy when I am with the person I love. Lovers like to be with lovers.
When they do things together, they all feel very happy and leave good memories. In difficult times, memories of these good times can be comfort and strength. And the good times shared by * * * will flow into the mutual love relationship and make it better.
4. Respect each other. Couples must value and respect each other very much. Although lovers may be aware of each other's weaknesses, they cannot reduce their respect for each other as a whole. Be able to rely on each other in times of difficulty. In times of difficulty, the lover still feels that the other person is standing with himself. In times of crisis, a lover can call each other and expect them to help him in the same boat.
5. Understand each other with the people you love. Couples should understand each other. They know their own advantages and disadvantages, understand each other's feelings and emotions, and know how to respond to each other in a corresponding way.
6. Share yourself and your property with the people you love. A lover should be willing to give himself, his time and his things to his lover. Although not everything is * * * property, both parties should share their own finances when necessary, and the most important thing is to share themselves.
7. Accept your lover's emotional support. Love can get encouragement and support from the loved one and feel refreshed, especially in adversity. When you feel as if everything is against you, you realize that there is only one thing that can't go wrong-your spouse will always stand with you. Then you will know that your relationship has this factor.
8. Give your lover emotional support. In adversity, the loving party should be closely connected with the loved one in spirit and give emotional support.
9. Communicate sincerely with your lover. A lover can communicate deeply and frankly with his lover and share his affection. When you are embarrassed by what you have done, you can still have a heart-to-heart conversation with the person you love. This is the kind of communication you have experienced.
10, cherish the person you love. Love should fully feel the importance of each other in life. When you realize that your spouse is more important than all your material wealth, you know that you cherish and cherish the people you love.