1 You can't control your destiny, only your heart.
We try to control our own destiny, but in the end we are always teased by fate; We tried to explore life, but finally found that life is like a dream; We try our best to publicize our personality, but in the end we are often assimilated by the group. "Life is unhappy, nine times out of ten", since we can't control our own destiny, let's let nature take its course and find our inner self, so as not to lose ourselves and achieve inner peace! If life is simpler, happiness will last longer.
Know how to forget. The greatest pain in life comes from the pursuit of perfection. You know, the real light is not a moment without darkness, but it will never be submerged by darkness. Our life is the same, running with pain and smiling with tears. This is the real life.
Know how to give up. Life is like a play. Everyone is the only director in his life. Only those who know how to give up can understand life, smile at life and always have a good mood. "willing", willing to get.
Know how to appreciate. If we look at people and things with appreciation, we will be happier. In fact, everyone has advantages and disadvantages. Why do you look at people with a magnifying glass instead of a telescope?
With the passage of time and the complexity of life, many realities are not easy to give people more and more pressure, and they have no leisure to stop and taste, let alone meditate. It is normal for a person's mood to be affected by the environment. Only those who have sunshine in their hearts can feel the sunshine of reality. Happiness is an attitude towards life, and happiness is a mood. Don't imprison yourself in the thick cocoon of sadness, beautify and appreciate life, and there will be beautiful scenery everywhere in life.
We can't avoid every dull day, nor can we avoid being as busy as a running account in a dull day. Everyone has his own way of life. As long as he can find himself, keep himself physically and mentally, and finally surpass himself, even if no one applauds, he will gain something. Live an ordinary and true self. In life, laughing is a kind of chic, and crying is also a kind of chic. As long as it is from the heart, it will be hearty.
In this complicated society, we should learn to be calm, and don't let ourselves get lost and cry when we are sad and wronged. Wash your face after crying and squeeze out a smile for yourself. Give yourself a great future and goal. Remember to look up at the sky often, but don't forget to look at your feet when you look up at the sky.
Deduct the ordinary self in ordinary days. Although ordinary people can influence the world as long as they work hard, don't pursue anything deliberately, and use their kind quality and happy mood to be true and ordinary. Such a day is accompanied by thoughts and happiness, which can be described as unconstrained style. You will be proud of it, feel comfortable and live a real, relaxed and safe life.
We are all ordinary people, busy with people coming and going every day. We are eager to get a relaxed release in the tired rush, and find a peaceful reason for our inexplicable loneliness in the dead of night. We even look forward to the long-awaited glory in ordinary life and fantasize about creating extraordinary achievements with our mediocre ability. We are constantly praying for our hearts, because only inner persistence and satisfaction can make us feel the meaning and happiness of life.
Confidence is the best.
Self-confident people get what they want and succeed because they all have great potential to be developed; The reason why the mentality of negative failure makes people timid and incompetent is that it makes people give up the development of potential and let potential sleep and waste there.
We all know that the human brain has 65.438+0.4 billion brain cells, but our thinking consciousness only uses a small part of the brain cells. If more brain cells can be activated from sleep, people's thinking consciousness will be stronger. If we are all confident, we can create miracles on the earth and create the best of ourselves.
What a person believes he will be. What a person thinks in his heart will become what he thinks. This is a psychological necessity. Each of us has a blueprint or a self-portrait in our hearts, which some people call the result of operation. If you imagine being the best you can be, you will see an ambitious, enterprising and innovative self on your inner screen. At the same time, I will often receive information that I have done well and I will do better in the future, so that you are destined to be the best yourself. Emerson, an American philosopher, said, "A man's life is like what he thinks in a day. What you think and expect, you have a life. " Andrew carnegie, the famous American steel magnate, is a model of giving full play to the opportunities of self-creation. He immigrated to the United States from England when he was 12 years old, and initially worked as a worker in a textile factory. At that time, his goal was "to be the best worker in the factory." Because he often thought and did this, he finally achieved his goal. Later fate arranged for him to be a postman. What he thought was how to become "the most outstanding postman in America", so that his goal was achieved. Throughout his life, he has been shaping his best self according to his environment and status. His motto is "Believe that you are the best."
To be the best of yourself, you don't have to be a "home", a "name" or compare with others. Just like human fingers, there are big and small, long and short. They have their own strengths and weaknesses. Can you say that thumb is better than forefinger? Deciding the best of you is neither the amount of material wealth you have nor the level of your status. The key is to see whether you have a strong desire to realize your dreams and whether your potential can be fully exerted. Some people are familiar with the hero model, that is, in ordinary jobs, give full play to people's innovative skills, do every little thing around them, and shape an excellent self.
Everyone can achieve the goal of "shaping themselves". You only realize that you are a part of nature, and you firmly believe that you have "unlimited skills" and "unlimited possibilities". This firm confidence can help you create a harmonious psychological and physiological rhythm, establish a dream self-image, and reflect the charm of your personality behavior.
The power of confidence is amazing, it can change the bad situation and bring an incredibly happy ending. People who have confidence will never be defeated. They are winners in life.
Self-confidence plays an extremely important role in promoting a person's success. Many enterprising people become passive because their self-confidence is destroyed. They gradually lost confidence in themselves. Maybe people start to hint at their incompetence to others, maybe it starts with the idea that they can't achieve anything, or it starts with the idea that they can't finish their work. Soon, due to this subtle psychological hint, their innovative spirit was greatly hit, and they were no longer full of enthusiasm and energy to do anything as before. They gradually lose the ability to act decisively and resolutely, and will soon become timid and afraid to make decisions when dealing with some important things. Their minds will soon be shaken. So they will not be leaders as before, but followers.
Believe that self can be a success, and often self can also be a success. This is the role of human consciousness and harmony. People's thinking has two main parts, namely consciousness and subconsciousness. When consciousness plays a decisive role, the subconscious is ready for everything. In other words, the consciousness decides what to do, and the subconscious will sort out how to do it. Consciousness is like an iceberg that pays for the tip of the horizontal line, while the subconscious is buried deep below the horizontal line. Some people use scientific terms to compare: the abnormality of human nervous system is the brain, which is equivalent to the "hardware" of the computer, the consciousness is the "operator" of this extremely sophisticated computer, and the subconscious is equivalent to the "software" of the computer. Through these vivid metaphors, you can understand the relationship and mystery between consciousness and subconscious.
If a person is determined to accomplish something, then he will rely on the drive of consciousness and the power of subconscious to cross the obstacles on the road, and success will be guaranteed.
If a person thinks about success, it is possible to succeed; Thinking about failure will lead to failure. A person expects more and gets more; Expect less and get less. Success comes from those who have a sense of success, and failure comes from those who unconsciously make themselves feel defeated.
Self-confidence is the premise of success. If you are confident, you have a half chance of success. If you believe that you are the best, you must achieve the necessary career.
On New Year's Eve, my family went in and out of the kitchen, planning to have a good reunion in jiaozi.
According to the past habit, all sticks will be wrapped in crescent shapes, but that day, my cousin had a brainwave and suggested that everyone learn to use it now, watch the video operation and see who can wrap the most vivid and lovely jiaozi.
Such an interesting family activity was quickly passed by unanimous vote, and everyone immediately dispersed and went online to study the tutorial. Because almost all the videos are only over a minute, after watching them two or three times, everyone is ready to try.
When the dumpling skin and stuffing are wrapped, we will start to work.
I thought that such a simple operation in the video was really in my hands, but it became particularly difficult. Less than five, my cousin has already given up, without the enthusiasm when he first proposed it; Ten hooded, inflexible hands made my cousin make trouble again and silently put down the "defective products" in his hand.
My mother, on the other hand, has always been very calm, practicing kneading one after another and working hard.
Probably from the 28th, Jiaozi, the wheat ear wrapped by my mother, had a good fortune-telling, only in the treatment of lace, but not particularly in place. Watching the video again, she seems to have got the hang of it. She just pinched it with one hand, and the shape was the fine jiaozi of wheat ears.
This made us envious and complained about our poor hand skills. Then they retired from the front line and changed back to the familiar practice, wrapping the crescent jiaozi in a simple way.
At the dinner table, we looked at jiaozi's smart and lovely ears of wheat, and everyone lamented: This jiaozi of ears of wheat is too difficult to learn!
My mother sat quietly, denied these views and revealed the essence:
If you don't simplify the difficulties, you will always find them difficult; If you want to make the difficulty simple, you have to temporarily lose your enthusiasm, persevere and be afraid of the difficulty and fatigue repetition.
Later, we tried to wrap it again, just like my mother said, we never tried to escape, gave up if we didn't do it well, and kept doing it. Soon, everyone was wrapped up.
Therefore, if understanding or talent was not enough 30 years ago, then 30 years later, it is the courage to be fearless and the perseverance to turn difficulties into simplicity.