If you want to prolong your love - don’t get married.
Because marriage is the tomb of love. After marriage, love will slowly die. Love has a lifespan. . .
Although love gradually weakens after marriage (mainly the result of human nature), the relationship between two people still exists (without major conflicts), because you voluntarily hope that To become a family, if each other is still willing to go on together, they should have a child as soon as possible - this is a good way to maintain a marriage, because raising children is the bounden duty of parents, and giving children a stable and good growth environment is a must ( It is due to human nature and social attributes)! In addition, we must tolerate each other's shortcomings, care for and help each other on the long road of family - we must establish friendship and trust like friends, couples without friendship and trust will be separated - there is no eternal love, only love. ***Same interests and needs!
After reading the answers from hefuling on the second floor, I can only say: You don’t know what love is yet - because you are still a child who has never experienced true love - maybe you think you have primary love. And feeling love - because you are not married yet - have not entered the tomb of love - so in your heart, love is sacred - as beautiful and moving as an unsuccessful love story - " Like an eternal lover drifting in a dream, the mother who gave birth to me left me adrift." - The "lover" in this famous Taiwanese poem is a metaphor for mainland China (this political issue will not be discussed now, let's just take the previous sentence) Appreciation) - The lover in the dream - many of us may have failed love in the "dream" - like the child on the second floor, he has not married her yet - he has not entered the grave yet, so it is consistent with The conclusion I made in the first sentence of the previous article - because their love is within the shelf life!
The child on the second floor has not entered the role at all - he is not married yet, so he has no right to speak or his speech has no practical significance - because we are discussing how to do it (after marriage) Keep love fresh! !
The kids on the second floor disagreed with my opinions very much, saying that my views were "dirty" - maybe I told a too straightforward truth that others had not said, or it was inconsistent with those traditions. The propaganda of how beautiful, noble and eternal love is is contradictory! So I'm not surprised that this kid said this, because he hasn't experienced the whole process of true love - from falling in love, to getting married - to the seven-year itch - and then to the ten-year crisis. . . !
The reason why love is described so beautifully and noblely is because we are human beings, advanced animals, people with thoughts, abilities, and pursuits. Of course, our writers will not treat human beings as To describe "sexual behavior" as an animal's "estrus" or "for the reproduction of offspring" has no literary beauty, no human wisdom, and such a lack of romantic color. This is too unfair to us humans and too unfair. It demeans ourselves - so literary masters describe "love" in exaggerated ways again and again - in fact, this is also the hope and pursuit of us humans - but there is a distance between ideal and reality. . . . . . !
Many situations in reality have ruthlessly shattered this traditional and beautiful myth into pieces - broken relationships and marriages abound - the divorce rate in various countries around the world is increasing year by year, and in some countries the divorce rate is The ratio is surprisingly high! Even the situation of marriage and family in front of us is not optimistic - a family that can "seem to be in harmony but remain silent" is like the classic line in the movie "If You Are the One 2": "No matter how you choose marriage, it is wrong. A long-term marriage is about making mistakes!" There is also the best line that we hope for: "Tolerance" - said by the movie to be the most "beautiful" virtue of human nature - how much we hope that people have the virtue of "tolerance", but in real life, " "Intolerance" is the overwhelming majority - this is because love in traditional propaganda is beautiful and sacred - but many of our real love endings are ugly and short-lived. They (or they) cannot understand and cannot understand the demise of love. Forgive - because I was fooled by the traditional definition of love. . . . . . !
We may lack understanding of the natural and social attributes of people. Without this knowledge, we cannot correctly understand and accept the shortness and death of love, and we still imagine love as very beautiful. Holy and lasting. . . . . .
This topic that has fooled us for a long time can be told here today - just like "If You Are the One 2" Diligent's dialogue on the Mutianyu Great Wall: "Love has a lifespan, if it is for love , I won’t marry you”!
In addition, love and marriage are two essentially different concepts. If we confuse love and marriage, then we will have to discuss a very long topic. . . . . .