I am Dai Wen, and I am with you at the moment.
The theme I want to share today is "Really love yourself" ...
Do you love yourself?
The test is whether you are bored alone.
Because when you are with the person you love, even if you do nothing,
Don't say anything, just sit next to him and be happy.
What about yourself?
To love yourself, you must first accompany yourself all the time.
Feel your body: posture, temperature, is it tight or relaxed?
Pain or comfort?
Pull your attention back to yourself at any time and relax.
After falling in love with yourself, all the problems in life have been solved.
Share with you this poem "When I Really Began to Love myself" written by Charlie Chaplin on his 70th birthday:
When I really started to love myself,
I just realized,
All the pain and emotional torture,
Remind me:
Live, don't go against your heart.
Today I understand that this is called.
"Really".
When I really started to love myself,
I just realized,
Impose one's will on others,
How rude,
Even if I knew, the time was not ripe,
This man is not ready,
Even if that person is myself,
Today I understand that this is called.
"respect"
When I began to love myself,
I no longer long for a different life,
I know what's going on around me,
They are all invitations to grow up.
Today, I call it
"maturity"
When I started to really love myself,
I realized that I was always at the right time,
Everything happened just right in the right place.
So I can calm down.
Today I understand that this is called.
"self-confidence"
When I started to really love myself,
I no longer sacrifice my free time,
No longer to sketch a magnificent tomorrow.
I only do interesting and happy things today.
Do what you like and make your heart happy.
In my way, at my pace.
Today I understand that this is called.
"simple"
When I started to really love myself,
I began to stay away from all unhealthy things.
Whether it's diet and people, or things and the environment,
I'm away from everything. Keep me away from the real thing.
I used to call this "selfish pursuit of health".
But today I understand that this is
"self-love"
When I started to really love myself,
I don't always want to do right and make mistakes anymore.
I understand today, it's called
"Humility".
When I started to really love myself,
I'm no longer addicted to the past,
Stop worrying about tomorrow,
Now I only live when everything is happening,
Today, I live here and now,
So day after day. It's called
"Perfect".
When I started to really love myself,
I understand that my thoughts make me poor and sick.
But when I aroused my inner strength,
Reason becomes an important partner,
I call this combination,
The wisdom of the mind.
We no longer need to be afraid of differences with others.
Contradictions and problems,
Because even the stars sometimes touch each other,
Form a new world,
Today I understand,
This is "life"!
—— (Newly edited by Chen Xiao)
At this moment, please sit here quietly, listen to music and sit with the person you like for a while with the feeling of truly loving yourself. ...
Which face do you love?
Speaking of "loving yourself", it seems that everyone has a history of blood and tears. People may not say what they love, but they can always say exactly what they don't love. Everyone has many faces when they love themselves.
The Korean film "Inner Beauty" directly sets a situation and turns these inner faces into reality: furniture designer Kim has an unknown secret. From the age of 18, he wakes up every day and changes completely, not only his face, but also his gender, age, figure and even his language.
In other words, this person is a man today, a woman tomorrow, an uncle today, a handsome guy tomorrow, a Korean today, and a Japanese tomorrow ... This person falls in love, which means that his girlfriend has to face a "stranger" with a new face every day.
If your lover changes every day, will you fall in love with him or her? If you change yourself every day, can you love yourself wholeheartedly?
What makes us afraid to love is the change of appearance or the heart that has been erratic?
All kinds of problems will eventually end with the word "accept". When Chaplin said "when I really love myself", he actually meant "when I really start to accept myself". When we wake up every day, our faces may not change much, but our hearts may have been turned upside down.
One night, I burned all my memories and my dreams became transparent.
One morning, I threw away everything from yesterday, and since then, my steps have been light.
Tagore
I hope that one day we can all say this to ourselves.