Children's growth story 1:
Gorky once said: "It is a hen's business to love children, and how to educate children is a big deal." What the old man means is that loving children is an instinct of animals and people, even a low-level and mediocre old hen can do it. But educating children is science, wisdom and art. In fact, what the old gentleman said was full of maternal love and didn't mean to belittle the old hen. But many of us just love children blindly, don't know the art of education, and only love children but don't love education. They think that it is enough to provide children with rich materials, but they don't know that children need spiritual help besides material needs. In fact, I am also an old hen, a pure old hen. I'm ashamed of what I did before.
I always criticize and blame my children for their poor exam results, and blame them for not working hard and not doing well in the exam; I didn't encourage children to make progress, just asked them to be better, better, no, only better; When a child makes a mistake, I don't ask him what he thinks, and I don't consider the problem from the standpoint of the child, but criticize him. The children are doing their homework in the room. I will send a glass of milk and some fruit later. In fact, it's all because I don't trust my children and want to inspect the post ... all these things, I'm guilty. I don't know when there was a wall between my children and me, a very thick wall. The child is here and I am there. We can hear each other's voices, but we can't feel each other's body temperature. Maybe it was when I visited my post again and again, maybe it was when I criticized my child again and again, or maybe I helped my child when he needed my help. I always feel that the child is not my child. He is always on my side. No matter how you look at the child, you think there is something wrong with the child. I was depressed during that time, but there was nothing I could do except provide enough material security for my children.
My colleague's child is a senior three, and is on the self-enrollment list organized by Nankai University. When I am happy, we ask my colleague to talk about his parenting skills. His words inspired me, not that the child was wrong, but that I was wrong. There is less encouragement and praise for children, and more criticism and accusation. I don't trust children, which leads to a lack of trust between parents and children. Compared with adults, children are weak. When difficulties come, they need the care and protection of their parents, and they need to hold him in their arms instead of pushing him away.
When the exam results come out, the children's grades are so poor that I want to be as furious as before, but I know it will only backfire. If the child doesn't do well in the exam, he must be very upset. What he needs at this time is the praise and encouragement of his parents. In fact, when I was comforting my children, I was duplicitous. I told him that it doesn't mean anything if I don't do well in the exam once. As long as I work hard, I will catch up next time. I am sincere when I persuade my children. It's like a good psychological hint, which makes me feel that what I said is true. He is sure to do well in the exam next time. The children cried and told me that the school was under great pressure. Some children are very clever. They can do a difficult exercise after watching it for a while, but he still can't do it for a long time. He said why he didn't get the same reward for the same efforts as others. Looking at the child's tears, I am very distressed. I know the child is really in trouble. I should care more about him and help him tide over the difficulties.
I recalled his brilliant achievements in primary school and junior high school with him to help him find his self-confidence; I helped him analyze his actual situation and let him know that he is not worse than others; I told him the story of Sun Shaoping, hoping that he could draw strength from Sun Shaoping. I told him jokes to make him laugh and relieve his stress; I told him the story of Wilbur and Charlotte and read him Jin Meiling's poems. In addition to providing him with adequate material security as always, I want my child to feel that his parents love him, without any additional conditions. No matter how bad he studies and how ugly he looks, we all love him. I told my children that when a person is threatened by danger, never turn your back and try to escape. If there is; This will only double the danger. But if you don't back down immediately, the danger will be halved. Never run away from anything, ever! It is the hero who faces difficulties. I want my children to find the courage and strength to overcome difficulties from home. From the standpoint of children, I think children are tired of studying at school, and it is impossible to find a way to relax, so I promised them to bring their mobile phones to school, provided that it would not affect their study.
I don't know when I stopped running like thunder in front of my children, but spoke softly, perhaps when I agreed to let my children bring their mobile phones, perhaps when I applauded my children's unsatisfactory grades, perhaps when I received a phone call from my children with a high fever and took them to the hospital at the first time, perhaps when I assured them to surf the Internet boldly. In short, now I see that the children are right everywhere, without doubt, misunderstanding or accusation, but only encouraging praise, care and love.
The slower a tree grows in the early stage, the better its wood quality. This sentence shocked my soul, and I think this sentence is also applicable to the growth of mankind; None of us want to see children precocious, just like trees. If trees grow rapidly at seedling stage, they will only produce soft and perishable wood. If trees grow slowly at first, as if struggling with difficulties, they will become solid and good wood, just as trees grow at normal speed, and eventually they will grow into towering trees. Thank children for not growing up easily, and let them grow stronger and healthier.
Gradually, the smile on the child's face is getting brighter and brighter. When I got home, I talked more and more, and my grades gradually improved. I'm a little happy.
Children's growth story 2:
12 years ago, when my son first reported to the world in tears, my heart was full of joy and longing. This is not only because of the continuation of our lives, but more importantly, our children have updated our lives. In this final exam, Ledong Town won the first place in the class, and I would like to thank all the teachers for their patient education and careful training.
Family education plays an important role in children's growth. It is said that parents are children's first teachers, so from the moment the child was born, I knew my educational responsibility and learned to be a qualified parent.
It is said that "character determines fate", but a good character depends on habit. Let children develop good habits of life and study from an early age, which has a positive impact on their future. From the moment children have self-awareness, I attach importance to cultivating children's good living habits, cultivate their self-care ability as much as possible, let them do their own things, learn to put on and take off their clothes, wash their faces and feet, pack toys in the room, fold quilts, wash socks ... learn more and participate in life. Let children take responsibility at home. Washing dishes, taking chopsticks, serving meals, sweeping the floor and pouring tea and water for guests are all said to be sensible and capable.
Today's children are not as "two points and one line" as when we were young-out of school and into the house, almost only in contact with their parents outside the school. This invisible space and time limit can easily make children form a withdrawn character and are unwilling to communicate with others. In order to make children develop a cheerful and positive personality, I have strengthened psychological communication with children, and tried to get into their hearts, really understand children, help and guide them, and let them grow up healthily and happily.
In learning, cultivate children's good study habits, educate children to finish things on the same day, have a sense of time, finish homework seriously, and supervise and inspect more. Children have difficulties in learning and their grades are not satisfactory. As parents, natural anxiety. For the sake of children's learning, I have really invested a lot of time and energy to help children understand the importance of learning and encourage them to take the initiative to learn.
It is important to study hard, but the importance of a healthy body to a person's life is self-evident, so when I was named, I specially set up Town East, hoping that he could have a strong body and manhood and grow up happily. The flowers in the greenhouse can't stand the wind and rain, so it is essential to exercise with the children every day. When you have time, you must take your children closer to nature, play with them, kick shuttlecock and play badminton, as if they were back to a wonderful childhood.
To improve children's ability to distinguish right from wrong, children will inevitably make mistakes. The key is how to treat them after doing something wrong. After the child makes a mistake, I will patiently help him analyze what is wrong and help him know what is right and do better. I think children's mistakes are a good educational opportunity and an opportunity to improve their familiarity. I believe that children can correct their mistakes. I always use "Mom believes that you will do well in the future and will definitely do better" to inspire my children. I will try my best to be tolerant, caring, understanding and encouraging.
After children go to primary school, they have more contacts with people and things than before, and children will have their own comments and opinions. At this time, I always listen patiently, be the audience of children and observe their thoughts. Every time a child finishes speaking, he always asks, "What would you do if it were you?" Children will think hard and speak their minds. I have been making suggestions at an appropriate time. Over time, children's ability to distinguish right from wrong has been improved day by day, and they have put it into action and gradually learned to be a man and do things.
"Self-confidence is the cornerstone of success", in order to cultivate children's self-confidence, my approach is:
1, I believe that children can do well and give them more encouragement. "You can do it!" "You can do it well!" "Of course you can do better!" This is not only an incentive for children, but also a good way to cultivate their self-confidence.
2, admit the differences, the advantages and disadvantages of children * * *, advantages and disadvantages coexist. Don't compare the shortcomings of your own children with the advantages of others' children, which can only be counterproductive and make children feel inferior. I think as long as children improve on the original basis, they should be affirmed and encouraged. Help children cultivate the courage to overcome difficulties, cultivate self-confidence to overcome difficulties, and let children establish the belief that I can do it.
In a word, how to educate children is an important and complicated problem. In my opinion, parents are not only parents of children, but also teachers, friends and role models of children all their lives! Being a parent is not easy. I need to make efforts in educating children and keep learning. I am willing to grow up with my children.
Children's growth story 3:
Everyone is sighing that time is like water. Perhaps the past five or ten years have made us understand many truths in the world, feel the unpredictability of life course, watch ourselves or people or things around us quietly change, and look back on the past with joy but emotion, affection but indifference.
As a father, at the moment of watching his daughter fall to the ground, from an unknown baby in infancy to a slim girl today, the world outlook is becoming more and more mature. It didn't grow up quietly, as if it were an instant evolution of time and space. My memory seems to remain yesterday. Although the middle process is full of vigorous growth and changes all the time, I still can't believe it subconsciously. Are children really big? Especially if my daughter can talk to me like a friend, just like an adult, she will feel sorry for me as a father. When I was a child, I often saw her in my arms, holding hands and crying. Alas ~ at that time, I not only lamented my daughter's innocence, but also spoiled, delicate and willful ... but today she has grown up and become more and more sensible.
I believe that there is no father who doesn't want to see his children grow up. Not only today, children will continue to grow up and play different roles in life. We are a process that begins with children. It was not until that time that I finally realized that my daughter was no longer a child. Sometimes I often ask about my daughter. Do you remember when I was a child? In fact, in my own memory, every stage of my daughter's childhood will be deeply remembered, but some of her daughters will remember and some will forget. Although the actions that children may have shown at that time were spectacular, they may not remember them all. Take out the photos at that time and tell a story. Today, she will listen to things that her daughters have forgotten with relish and ask questions from time to time. It's really bad! Am I talking about someone else?
I like traveling, and I like traveling with my daughter best. I remember when I was a child, my daughter was very passive at first. She just needs to take her. It doesn't matter where she goes. As long as she can go out to play, she will be happy. Of course, we will also choose some interesting and knowledgeable places, such as aquarium and children's playground. We just need a busy place to take care of the children. A few years ago, with the independence of personality, my daughter began to consciously choose places to play, provided that the projects she had to participate in, such as scenic mountain climbing and large amusement theme parks, would be unhappy every time she played. Now I gradually find that my daughter will choose some quiet places, such as islands, forests and other places, listen to the most authentic sounds of nature, feel the most elegant atmosphere between heaven and earth, and look outside away from the noise of the city. I find that she has learned to taste and feel.
Maybe it is the fast pace of the city that makes her daughter learn to adjust herself, maybe it is the true nature that makes her learn to appreciate, or maybe her daughter knows what she needs in her heart. I think: when a child learns to enjoy peace, do you think she is still young?
In fact, in the process of children's growth, being a father is also a process from ignorance to understanding, because it has never been experienced before, especially with the growth of children, fathers and daughters who live together day and night will always have new topics between parents and children. My daughter is fine when she is young. As long as she is coaxed and accompanied, she can also exercise her majesty as a father when she is particularly disobedient. But now my daughter has grown up and has her own independent thoughts. Many times, she can't communicate with her daughter as she did when she was a child. Perhaps many parents still educate their children by indoctrination or tolerance. In fact, children at this time often have two sides. At least they don't exclude communication with the people closest to them. As long as they are not afraid and distrustful, I prefer to communicate with my daughter as friends. This is easier said than done. Because of many inertia and inherent education methods, many parents can't look at the problem from their children's point of view, especially the ever-changing new ideas and concepts, which make children always feel that there is a big generation gap with their parents, ha! Many times I take a preventive approach, that is, before things happen, I take out some things that often happen to children and discuss them, and then analyze their advantages and disadvantages, so that children can judge whether things are right or wrong in advance.
I remember at the parent-teacher conference, many parents wanted to find ways to motivate their children. In fact, in my opinion, there are ways, but for each child, the way is different. Just like every child has his own personality, I often tell my daughter that your strengths and weaknesses are for face saving. Today, you fell. As long as you are strong, you can't bear to show weakness, and you will definitely get up by yourself. In fact, life is the same, in the interaction with your daughter. In fact, many times I still take a relaxed education. Some parents may have no choice but to say that all this is for the good of their children and can only give them invisible pressure and rebellion. At least, I will never say this to my daughter.
Being with my daughter is the happiest day. From her childhood to today's growth, you may be taking care of your children, but you are actually enjoying being with them. Today, you will find that although they have grown up, they are still children, one knows and the other doesn't. Maybe many years later, they will still be children in your mind, just like your daughter. Because you are a father, your father will make mistakes, but as long as you really love your daughter.
In my memory, I remembered a relationship with my daughter when I was a child. As soon as I got home, my daughter jumped on me like a little monkey and kept pinching my neck. I asked: How long do you want to hold back? The daughter answered without thinking: a hundred years!