My sister is twelve years older than me. I was 12 when my sister got married at the age of 24. My sister was a monitor when she was studying, and her grades were particularly good. When I was nominally three years old (197 1 year), due to family conditions, my parents forbade my sister to study, let her drop out of school and take me with her, and let my mother embroider to make money to supplement my family. I am the youngest of my brothers and sisters. I have three brothers, but my sister and I are the closest. My sister got married at the age of twenty-four. The following year, I began to attend junior high school in a foreign village. The school is between our village and the village of my sister and brother-in-law. Every Saturday (at that time, I had to go to school on Saturdays), after school in the afternoon, I often went directly to my sister's house with my schoolbag on my back, and waited until I went to school from my sister's house on Monday morning. My brother-in-law is very kind to me. We are very close. Brother-in-law 185 is 2 10 kg tall, with good physical quality and generous personality. He made many die-hard friends, including officials or rich bosses, as well as ordinary people. Brother-in-law never flatters officials or rich bosses, nor does he mistreat ordinary people, nor does he bully incompetent bottom people. Brother-in-law is generous, kind to others, supercilious to others, and strong affinity can quickly gather popularity. Although he made a lot of money, he valued justice more than wealth. Although he doesn't want to be an official, he is a famous figure. The image of brother-in-law is extremely tall in my heart. He is my idol and my role model. When we go out together, we all feel like brothers. But in the dark, I envy talents! My brother-in-law has a bad habit of smoking a lot. He got lung cancer (20 1 1) in his fifties. When he was diagnosed, he was already in the advanced stage, and there was nothing anyone could do. The night after my brother-in-law's death, I fought back my grief and wrote an epitaph for him. Many times, my tears wet the paper and I had to write it again. My brother-in-law went to the funeral, and people sent wreaths from dozens of miles away, from the mayor's district traffic police detachment leader to the public security bureau chief, and then to the weakest sick old bachelor in the next village. Wreaths were placed on both sides of the road hundreds of meters away, and countless people cried on both sides of the road when they woke up. I was too sad to notice. Afterwards, I thought, no matter how long the road of life can be, it is not worth coming to this world.
Seeing that my sister took out all my brother-in-law's clothes, I said, "Sister, let's keep some. When we miss my brother-in-law, it's like seeing him. " My sister said, "Don't stay. I'm afraid I can't help crying every time I see his clothes. I won't remarry because I can't find anyone better than him, but I don't want him to make me cry again and again in the future. " I didn't say anything, but in the past ten years, I have taken out a dress from time to time and put it on for a few days. When I see my brother-in-law's clothes, I will think of his voice and smile, the road I walked with him, what I did ... Forget it, I can't write anymore, because I have sobbed in this dark night. ...
I have something to say when I see this problem! My husband didn't start packing until three days after his death! He has a lot of clothes: I knitted all five sweaters by myself! Nice pattern! Neighbors, friends, relatives! They all choose their own useful ones! Clothes, tops, trousers and shoes are all new and taken away! They say my husband is clean, so it is easy to throw away and burn. What a pity! Therefore, there is nothing wrong with living people wearing it! When they choose the rest, they will burn them on the grave! I heard that an old farmer picked up a few pieces and took them away when the grave burned! In short, some people will wear it if they don't dislike it! Don't wear it if someone has a shadow! Nothing can be generalized!
My elder sister bought a lot of clothes before she died. Many of them have never been worn. After she left, my third sister took them back. Later, Third Sister fell ill and died. She also has a lot of new clothes to wear. After her funeral, her daughter remembered looking for her mother's clothes and wanted to burn them for her mother. I can't find it. Maybe her aunts kept it.
I feel that my relative, after leaving, is still a clean and tidy person and can't wear it. He used to wear clothes given by others when he was poor. Don't care too much. My husband died of a heart attack. As long as he leaves his favorite items in the grave and other items as souvenirs, he is satisfied if he wants to see them. Life is like this. It is very painful for two people to leave one, and life is very painful. For the sake of the children and the family, we must hold on.
Wear it if you can. One is to refuse to waste, and the other is to miss. Are you still afraid of your relatives? Wouldn't you be happy if they could really come back to see you? Besides, the education we received from childhood is atheism. My father passed away a few years ago. In the last few days of treatment with my father, some people said that my father wore a better shirt than mine. Father said he would give me the shirt then, but I didn't want it. I have been wearing my father's shirt since he died. Although it is very old, I still don't want to throw it away.
My mother used a patched towel quilt when she was alive. After mom died, according to our custom, we should burn all her things. This towel was put away for the winter and didn't burn. Seeing things and thinking about people, I have been using this towel quilt. Covering it, I will think of my mother sitting at the end of the bed and stroking my feet gently with her hands.
Our relatives are gone, can their clothes still be worn? That's their favorite thing. What their hands touched. Now that the man has gone, all his things. Had to be replaced again. Especially his clothes. Take it to his grave and burn it. Because it's his favorite thing. His things still belong to him. When you burn it, they will receive it. The victim's clothes. Never give it away or wear it yourself. Because their souls are in their clothes. What they use. Must be completely eliminated.
People who can ask this question are obviously psychologically immature, which is a manifestation of death-related fear.
Why is this a psychological immaturity?
Because this fear of death is neither a fear of death due to psychological barriers nor a completely healthy and mature psychological state of an adult.
Let's just say, answer the Lord's question:
When a person dies, he keeps a priceless jade that he played before his death. Can he get it? Don't you like what belongs to the dead?
I don't think anyone will want it.
Let's continue, there is one more question:
You went to the bank to withdraw 65438+ ten thousand. Someone told you that 99,900 yuan of it passed through the hands of the deceased. Will you throw away this 99900 yuan?
I don't think you are that stupid.
In this way, the answer to this question is very clear:
Like all other (old) clothes, the clothes of the deceased are nothing special. If no one tells you, just like 99900, you don't know that it is a dead man's clothes, and it doesn't hinder all its value.
The question now is, why do people have such childish psychology?
Let's talk about death-related phobia first.
Most people are afraid of things or things related to death to varying degrees.
If this kind of fear is beyond self-control, causing physical symptoms such as trembling, sweating, difficulty in thinking or speaking, nausea and vomiting, hyperventilation (deep breathing) and even fainting (fainting), ignoring the possible damage to the vital interests such as study, life and work without rational avoidance, this is called death-related phobia.
Death-related phobia can be divided into two independent situations:
One is the fear of objects related to death, such as corpses (bones), graves, funeral ceremonies, including the relics of the deceased mentioned by the subject, which is called Necrophobia.
The other is the fear of death itself, that is, the irrational fear of death, which is called death phobia.
The above-mentioned death-related phobia is a psychological disorder, that is, a mental disorder disease, which is not common in the population.
However, people are generally afraid of things or things related to death or death itself.
The fear of death itself is not difficult to understand; And where does the fear of harmless things or things related to death come from?
Of course, this has something to do with death itself.
Because the relics of the deceased or related things are potentially fatal.
This potential danger mainly comes from the ignorance and powerlessness of malignant infectious diseases in ancient times.
In ancient times, due to ignorance and helplessness of infectious diseases, the bodies of some patients who died of malignant infectious diseases, as well as the objects they came into contact with before their death, may also carry infectious pathogens, which led to the contact being infected and getting sick.
In our country, there are many legends and taboos in this respect, including not touching your last breath before you die-it's called "suffering", otherwise you will get sick or even die-and this is the origin of the word "suffering".
Other things, everything related to the dead or bodies may be "infected". This infectious disease is called "corpse disease", and different people have given many different names, such as corpse abscess, corpse gas, ghost note, disaster note and so on.
It is precisely because of ignorance of infectious diseases that people generally generalize these "disasters" related to death and become the basis of death-related fears.
This fear related to death is exaggerated and further generalized by culture, traditional customs and religion, which has caused people's fear of many things and things related to death.
Including the fear of clothes before death involved in this question.
For a person with relevant knowledge and mature psychology, this generalized fear related to death is ridiculous; However, among ordinary people, such fears and taboos are still very marketable.
If you are a feng shui explorer, you will definitely give you a simple answer with the theory of feng shui: the deceased is the greatest. Get clothes and help (blessing).
However, in the following cases, it is best to discard the clothes of the deceased.
1. Abnormal death, such as suicide, car accident and sudden misfortune.
2. Unmarried deceased.
3. There are no dead people.
The prisoner is dead.
5. hermaphrodite deceased.
6. prostitutes.
Note: According to the folk concept, the clothes of the deceased who live a long life are for future generations, which is called carrying things with kindness. ...................