I insist because I want to educate my children, so I slowly turn them into just needs.
For example, when the homework is due every week, my son will ask me, "Mom, have you handed in your homework?"
If I haven't answered, he will hurry me and remind me not to forget, because he knows the price is a fine. Although he is very young, he still has some ideas about money. He won't let me pay the fine.
So, under the urging of this little man, I never missed my homework, and sometimes I was even rated as an excellent homework.
Once, I saw a notebook win two prizes, one is blue and the other is brown.
He likes blue, especially when he sees a subway map on it. He couldn't put it down and clamored for me to give him one.
At first, I disagreed. I told him that this was my prize and it had different meanings. I can't just give up.
After seeing my reaction, he began to think of ways to negotiate with me. For example, he will read books every day, so that he will win prizes every week. After eight weeks in a row, he will get a Teddy dog toy awarded by his teacher. At that time, I will give him this blue notebook as a reward for his parents.
He pestered me for three days before agreeing to his request.
He was very excited to see that I agreed. He told his father quickly so that he could be his reference in case I went back on my word.
I asked him, "Do you know how many weeks it will take to get the reward?"
"Three weeks". He knew he had to wait, but he was still willing to wait.
Sometimes when I can't stand it, I will pick up my notebook and look around to discuss whether I can give it to him in advance. Because I never let go, he could only pick it up and put it down silently.
It must be helpless to struggle between giving up and getting, but it is a process he must go through. Things that are too easy to get will not be cherished, so I deliberately don't give them in advance so that he can study patiently.
In fact, the books he wants to read every day are very boring. It is estimated that many adults find it boring, and that is The Analects.
No pictures, no plots, no fun ... A book is not only Chinese characters, but also traditional Chinese characters.
In fact, I don't know many words, but fortunately, every word is marked with pinyin, otherwise it will really hurt my head.
At the beginning of 20 18, when he decided to let him study Chinese studies, he didn't expect such great resistance. I just don't think it should be too difficult for him to learn something.
But I underestimated his resistance to it.
In the first half of the year, I mainly started from Mongolian classes, learning Tang poetry, Song lyrics and Yuan songs. There are not only teachers who read, but also teachers who teach the interpretation of Chinese characters, and teachers who later learn to sing a poem. This part of the class is a bit long, so parents need to accompany it. The main reason is that children can't sit still and cry.
There is another class later. The teacher takes the children to learn English and watch some cartoons, which is more free and relaxed.
At the beginning of class, my son kept shouting in my ear: "I don't want to study, it's boring, go home!" " "In that case, I even sometimes demonstrated in tears, trying to get me to give up and go home quickly.
At the beginning, I also made up my mind. Such a good atmosphere, I must let him get used to studying here gradually, so that I can be more calm.
When he cried, I wiped his tears; I pretended not to hear anything when he complained; When he is happy, I laugh with him.
In addition, I have to study when I go home every day, and then I have to punch in the class. I practice with him every day in order to keep him reading.
When he is unhappy in reading, he will lie on the ground and make a hullabaloo about, while I sit next to him with a book and read it carefully, without scolding him, just reading it myself.
When he hears a sentence and is interested, he usually asks me, "Where did you read it?" I just showed it to him with my finger, and then I continued reading without stopping.
In this way, we insisted on reading the first book, *** 136 poems, about half of which he could recite completely.
Although reading is not very fun, but if there is no other thing to support, that is singing, it is estimated that it is really difficult to persist.
Because there is poetry recitation in my homework every day, and I sing a poem designated by my teacher every week, I just need to play audio for him, which is relatively simple.
For example, "Difficult to Go", which I learned at that time, was a little stumbling at first, because there were two new words in it, such as the first sentence: the cost of pure wine is a golden cup, and 10 thousand copper coins is a hip flask. However, I didn't expect the little guy to sing and show off in front of me in less than a week. Influenced by him, I also began to learn to sing poetry, and then I learned it slowly.
Later, when he can't sing, I will remind him, so I will learn before him. In that case, I have to thank him for holding me to study and grow together.
It is the teacher of Chinese studies who provides us with a platform to sing poetry. Every time before class, everyone sits in the classroom and sings together. They are very happy and passionate.
It was Tingting who taught you to sing ancient poems in the Himalayas. The lyrics and songs were written by Hu Tingting herself.
Because considering that the audience is children, there will be no particularly difficult treble, which is different from the popular classic chanting. My feeling is that the latter is for the public, so many songs are sung for adults and not suitable for children to learn.
With this powerful platform, children are not afraid to learn poetry. Sister Tingting gave herself a powerful slogan: reciting poetry artifacts. With a little guidance from adults, children can easily learn to sing poetry without coercion, not to mention beating and cursing.
After discovering the coup of singing ancient Chinese, we have been listening, and we began to learn to sing when we heard what we liked. Then we studied these magnificent poems, such as The Yellow Crane Tower, The Yellow Crane Tower Farewell Meng Haoran on the way to Yangzhou, Liangzhou Ci, Embarrassment and Confession. Because of the strong sense of rhythm, we are particularly interested in children, so we learn quickly.
Of course, there are also some poems with a light rhythm, which he likes very much, such as "Chanting Willow", "Looking at Tianmen Mountain" and "My Hometown Book". The atmosphere is lively and sings well, and he is willing to learn.
In view of his preference for heroic poems, I'm going to listen to his style, such as Looking at the Sea and Into the Wine.
Although Tingting's sister's goal is to let her children learn two poems a week, we have not caught up with her progress and have always insisted on learning one poem a week.
After continuous study and singing, plus several songs recommended by the school, I learned less than 70 poems this year, which is also a big gain, as follows.
If every child has a gift, I think he has a little talent for singing, especially this year, this feeling is particularly obvious.
Every time there is an activity at school, the teacher teaches them to sing. When they get home, they start the cycle mode, sing repeatedly, sing everywhere, and even sing when it is convenient to go to the toilet.
Before Christmas, they rehearsed several English songs. One of them, Jingle Bells, was sung for many days and never tired of listening to it.
After the performance, we began to sing "We wish you a Merry Christmas". We may not be able to sing the whole song, but it may be just a paragraph or a few words, but it is not enough.
Later, I fell in love with Sleigh Riding in Class Two, and I listened to it every morning. He can't sing, he just wants to hum that song. The ringing bell sounds cheerful and rhythmic.
Although he can't read music or play musical instruments, he is very happy because he can sing.
Because of his happy mood, he rode home to exercise every day. He has been very healthy for a year, with only one day of high fever and only one day of rest due to illness in the summer vacation.
The songs listed above cannot be sung without his practice. Practiced it many times when going to the toilet in almost every capital.
Every time I watch him close the door and go into the toilet, I turn on the ventilator myself and sit on the toilet with my feet on the small bench, and the cycle singing mode begins. It almost stopped singing when the sound of flushing the toilet sounded.
All the unhappiness and anxiety in a day are switched and cleaned in the toilet with songs and feces, so both body and mind are healthy. According to my observation, this unique formula is only suitable for this teenager at present.
If others feel uncomfortable in imitation, they must stop as soon as possible.
Chen Chen's mother suggested that I send him to the choir, where there will be special teachers for professional training. If we are lucky enough to join the choir, so much the better. If there is no chance, then we will continue to be our own musical teenagers.