"What is in love but what is in love" is an ancient way of describing the relationship between men and women. It describes a young man who cannot sleep because he longs for a woman. When it comes to emotions, it means that human emotions arise between men and women; when it comes to etiquette, it means being bound by etiquette.
Confucius’s idea is that “what you feel is based on emotion and what you stop is based on etiquette”. It's okay to fall in love, but you can't cross the boundaries of etiquette and law. This boundary is mainly for nobles. You can't rape women of the people, and you can't ignore the feelings of women.
The word "stop" here does not mean to stop feelings, but means to stop within the scope allowed by etiquette and law. You cannot do things that go beyond etiquette and law just because of love.
"What starts with emotion, ends with etiquette" comes from the anonymous "Preface to Poems" of the Han Dynasty.
Original text: Therefore, the change of wind comes from emotion, but ends with etiquette and justice. It stems from emotions, which is the nature of the people; it stems from etiquette and justice, which is the beauty of the previous kings.
Translation: The change of wind comes from the poet's emotions, but it does not exceed the scope of etiquette and justice. It comes from the poet's emotions, which is human nature; it does not exceed the scope of etiquette and justice, and is the result of the teachings of the late king.
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"The Preface to Poems" is a research work on "The Book of Songs".
The preface to the poem is also called the preface to Mao's poems. After the pre-Qin classics were burned by the Qin fire, not much remained, and the "Poetry" was passed down orally. In the early Han Dynasty, there were four families who passed down "Shi", namely Shen Peisheng from Lu, Yuan Gu from Qi, Han Ying from Yan, and Mao Heng from Lu who passed down Mao Chang. They were called Lu Shi, Qi Shi, Han Shi, and Mao Shi respectively. The "Three Poems" of Lu, Qi and Han are now lost, but Dumao's poems are handed down from generation to generation.
"The Biography of Mao's Poems" is an annotation of Mao's poems by Zheng Xuan, a great scholar of the Eastern Han Dynasty. Han Confucian scholars often quoted poems out of context, and later generations dubbed them Mao Xiazi (Mao Gong) and Zheng Duozi (because Zheng Xuan wrote notes for Mao's biography), but his contribution to preservation and organization cannot be denied.
After that, there were Shu. Zhuan was an interpretation of the original poem, Jian was an explanation of Zhuan, and Shu was a reinterpretation of Jian, such as "Mao Shi Zhengyi", Mao Heng Zhuan, Zheng Xuan Jian, and Kong Yingda of the Tang Dynasty. sparse.
Among them are the major preface and the minor preface. The minor preface is the text listed before each poem in "Mao Shi" to explain the theme of each poem. The teachings are often listed first, and the words are based on the beauty to illustrate the poet's feelings; historical events are attached to illustrate them, and the materials are mostly taken from "Zuo Zhuan".
Except for "Ode", among the 160 chapters of "Guofeng", there are only 16 beautiful poems and 78 poetic poems; "Xiaoya" Among the seventy-four poems, there are only four beautiful poems and 45 poetic poems. Among the thirty-one chapters of "Daya", there are seven beautiful poems and six poetic poems. Therefore, later generations have commented that "the beautiful poems are divided into beautiful poems" .
Main Preface: "Mao Shi" follows the "Small Preface" of the first chapter "Guanyong", starting from the sentence "Wind, Feng Ye", and a large section of text summarizing the whole classic is the "Major Preface" . The preface expounds the characteristics, content, classification, expression techniques and social functions of poetry, which can be called a systematic summary of Pre-Qin Confucian poetic theory.
It further clarifies the lyrical characteristics of poetry and the relationship between poetry, music and dance, clearly reveals the close relationship between poetry, music and the politics of the times, and summarizes the classification and expression techniques of the "Book of Songs" as " "Six righteousnesses" theory, with special emphasis on the social role of poetry: "The wind above is used to transform the bottom, and the wind below is used to stab the top." "Therefore, correcting gains and losses, moving heaven and earth, feeling ghosts and gods, is nothing close to poetry." These ideas had a profound impact on the creation and criticism of ancient poetry.
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