Here, I would like to share some of my experience in studying therapeutic education in recent years. I am not a good student because I haven't even finished all the courses, but I think this applies not only to special children, but to all children, because there will be no perfect children in this world. We all grew up with different kinds of wounds, big or small, and even a little understanding of our parents or teachers as children may affect our life.
1. From the standpoint of children and the way they know the world.
It is meaningless to tell them "what kind of person you should be" without seeing their position clearly. So are parents. It is very rude and rash to tell them directly how to educate their children (for example, "you just take them out to play with their peers") without starting from their standpoint. You know, every special child who comes to class is like carrying a big bag of heavy stones. In every morning of war, their parents hope that life will be slightly different from anyone else.
2. Rhythm, warm mood and sense of humor are the three most important therapeutic tools.
So how do you make yourself have a sense of humor? Teacher Walter replied, "I think a sense of humor is the way you look at life." 」
3. Learn to see the root of the problem.
For example, many people attribute their children's problems to electronic products. However, if a child watches too much TV and iPad, the root of the problem is that parents ignore them. Compared with parents' neglect, the influence of electronic products itself is not the most important-lazy education is.
4. If there is a problem, solve it. If there is no problem, don't look for it, don't make it.
The greatest destruction is anxiety. Always trying to find the abnormality of the child is very harmful to the child because you don't enjoy it. In fact, each of us has obstacles of one kind or another, but we are all fine! ! !
If the child is bored and inattentive, then the teacher should not blame the child, but need to know how to make the class interesting.
6. Educators must understand the meaning of education: Why do we do this?
Every time a child is asked to do something, he should think. If your way can't achieve this meaning, try another way to achieve the same meaning. If you don't understand why you did it, then don't do it.
7. Say "Wait …", "Finish what …", "After five minutes …", "After waking up …" and so on, you can extend your child from now to a certain future.
8. It is meaningless to treat children blindly. You need to learn "active tolerance".
Know what is tolerable and what is not. For example, children who love sports need a lot of exercise. They are always moving, so you must allow them. Children with dyskinesia may sit there for a long time, unscrewing and closing things. They need to understand.
9. Educators need to constantly struggle with children's growing habits.
There are two ways to do homework for a habit: first, stop feeding it; Second, form new habits. For example, when the teacher tells a story, the child always kicks the stool. If the teacher stops him, that's exactly what he wants-stopping itself is a kind of support. At this point, you should ignore his habits and divert his attention, for example, let him point out the animals in the story.
10. There are no grumpy children, no lazy children, no children who are always angry, no slow children, only children who are deprived of learning in their natural way.
1 1. Many parents ask: Why don't you listen? You know, children themselves are not a good listener.
12. Don't let children learn to write too early.
When children's vertical midline is not fully integrated, they move the fingers of one hand. In the unconscious state, the fingers of the other hand usually move with it, and we will see stiff pen-holding posture and scribbled handwriting. A sign to judge whether a child's vertical midline is integrated is whether his dominant hand can cross the midline of the body to reach items placed on the other side of the body.
13. Give children more healing poems.
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The basis of healing poetry is rhythm. When a person breathes, his heart will beat four times, so the four-beat poem represents the rhythm of the heart, which can make children feel comfortable and stable and strengthen their boundaries.
14. Don't teach children what to do according to their age, but expand their existing abilities.
For example, in painting, you can put the cut shapes under the paper, and they can draw them with crayons. You can make them press patterns on the mud-first, you should make them feel that painting is conducive to more development. Again: everything starts with where the child is now.
15. Naughtiness and curiosity are two good helpers for children's development.
Schools should not be places to worship students with good behavior. All children's behaviors are a kind of communication: telling you what they are going to do, what they are thinking and what they need. So as an educator, you must always see those behaviors and know why.
16. Forcing children to change their laterality (referring to the left or right brain) is very harmful to children.
Try to make the child's side on the same side, because if you cross your eyes with your hands, it will be very confusing and bring many disharmonious problems. ── Don't change a left-handed!
Pain is very important.
Pain can help them awaken their life consciousness (awareness of their own physique and health), so don't help them get rid of pain too quickly (I think any form of pain, body and mind, is also very important for everyone).
18. Nine to ten years old is a very difficult time for children, and they will have a lot of fears.
I feel the unkindness and hostility of this world. Some people will wet the bed and bite their fingers ... but it's all normal and will pass. What adults need to do is to believe in their own abilities and believe that they can live their own lives from now on, but they must keep talking and paying attention when they need us (otherwise children will be independent but lonely when they grow up).
19. Children will ask many questions, and we should understand what such questions tell us.
For example, some children always ask others, "Where are you from? Maybe they are interested in location, so you can give them a map and use their interest in location to find ways to communicate. Ask, "How old are you? Maybe they are interested in numbers. "Are you married? Maybe they are interested in interpersonal relationships. If a child keeps asking you the same question, they may be forgetful or forced. If they ask you five times at a time, you can ask them to repeat it six times to break their habit. In short, teachers should always be interested in children's problems.
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20. Don't let children see the cruelty of the world too early.
Because they are too young to do something about the world around them, it will make them anxious and depressed (I once heard that a sensitive child who grew up in a quarrel between his parents, only four or five years old, would scratch his face with blood everywhere).
2 1. If you always protect children, children will become more and more helpless and don't know how to protect themselves.
22. Thinking is produced in constant repetition, and repetition is the cornerstone of thinking and memory.
So don't give children too much new information too often, otherwise the brain will get used to going in and out and can't lay the foundation for thinking.
23. Many children need a long time to gain a foothold. We should allow them to take the time to find themselves. In fact, adults are the same. Many people are too old to find that "I". )
24. Don't help children do things that they can do by themselves, otherwise it is a lazy way of education.
For example, don't reach out and blow your nose at any time, just tell them to do it-every time you finish something independently, you are nourishing your child's sense of life.