Perhaps, this is the mark of youth, passion and regret, beauty and nostalgia, so that we can be bitter about the past and forget it. Time is the biggest culprit, it takes our thoughts back to the past, but ignores us and makes us lose our rationality in depression. I remember many years ago, there was such a person, such a story, such a shallow regret, and he would never grow old in time. ...
You are an angel among demons, and a devil among angels. Once upon a time, when no one cared about me in the world, you piously guarded me and brought me the first ray of sunshine in my life. It turns out that my world can be so different, and it can be as dense as love in fairy tales. So that's what love smells like. Less bitterness of coffee, more fragrance of milk tea, less agreement of dandelions, more romance of roses, less loneliness of one person and more loneliness of two people. At that time, I was eighteen and you were twenty-two. You said we would be together in the future. I silently lowered my head and grabbed your skirt, but my heart was full of wild stars. You are the big brother, take me out of my little dark room.
When everything is beautiful, it suddenly becomes a bubble. Your departure broke my happy world, and all the beautiful footprints became ridiculous in an instant. Your smile is evil, and your concern is also a wolf in sheep's clothing. Panic … leaving a lonely figure blurred in the residual wind. I am afraid to miss you again, because I am afraid that at the end of this story, I will only hate you. ...
Letting go doesn't necessarily mean that you are really relieved. You don't care if you don't contact. Not looking back doesn't necessarily mean you are cruel. My pride just wants to give each other some dignity and give this love I can't let go the best disguise.
After breaking up, every time you ask a question, in fact, my world has already been dazzled by fireworks, but I still want to refuse coldly. I dare not let myself forget a little memory every day, and it's choppy. I don't know if time will make me forget you. All I know is that after four years, your appearance is still there.
When the years are quiet, the world is stable. May you hold her youth and meet the jade of time. I will also unload the burden of vows of eternal love among the people I am looking for, and keep my breeze in the cool breeze.
Angel Prose in the Devil 2 Everyone has an angel in his heart.
There is a devil in everyone's heart.
The difference between people lies in the size of angels and demons. Angels are big, demons are small, and their psychology is relatively healthy; Angels are small, demons are big, and they are mentally unhealthy.
There is no such thing as angels without demons. After all, the world is not heaven. The existence of the devil keeps people alert to danger, and once in danger, they can react at any time, run away or fight back. So, be kind to the devil in your heart and don't be too exclusive.
When an angel is as big as a devil, his heart will be entangled, and so will patients with obsessive-compulsive disorder. When an idea appears, it will draw another opposite idea. The two are antagonistic and deadlocked, with great internal friction and nothing can be done. In order to eliminate contradictions, some people will split themselves into two, go their own way, and at the same time split others and the world into two, good and bad. Love, hate; Maintain the good and fight the bad; It is a manifestation of paranoia to be unable to distinguish between love and hate and to suppress evil and promote good. This coping style is usually effective, but it is too simplistic, either black or white. If you enter the "gray zone", you will still be entangled.
There are also divisions in time, one is an angel and the other is a devil. When the angel comes out, everything is good, and when the devil comes out, everything is bad. This is the characteristic of borderline personality.
If the devil is bigger than the angel and the devil overpowers the angel, the world will become a hell. Such a person is evil. He thinks that the world is evil, and evil can only be controlled by evil. He is always ready to attack others and takes it for granted. He suppresses good and promotes evil, and takes evil as good. The most typical is antisocial personality disorder.
Some people are gentle and have no excessive behavior, but they agree that others are conceptual hell, like to find fault, spread bad news, pay special attention to the dark side of society and be cynical.
When attacking others, you will also be attacked, which is natural. Some people take pleasure in being attacked and end up as masochists, escaping pleasure and taking pleasure in pain.
In real life, we often meet such people, whose spirit is very painful, but they refuse to see a doctor because they take pleasure in pain. If it is too painful, they will also seek medical treatment, but they are resistant to treatment. The symptoms are slightly improved and will soon get worse. Psychoanalysis calls it "negative therapeutic response".
They not only resist treatment, but also resist the kind help of others. If you are kind to him, he will feel uncomfortable, uncomfortable, unworthy and even doubt your motives. On the contrary, if you scold him, he will stop for a while. There is an old saying in China that "the enemy will defeat him without fighting", which is obviously aimed at this kind of people. It shows that there are many such people, which is normal. Therefore, it has been recognized and cooperated by culture, making the education of bonzi immortal. Stick education is the devil education, which controls evil with evil and violence with violence, and as a result, more demons are copied.
Why are some angels bigger than demons and some demons bigger than angels? Psychoanalysis believes that it is related to childhood experiences, especially 0-3 years old. Newborn babies can't integrate comfortable and uncomfortable feelings and regard comfort and discomfort as two worlds. Comfort is heaven, discomfort is hell. It's called division. If mother makes him feel comfortable, she is an angel; If his mother makes him uncomfortable, she is the devil. This is also the organization. If his mother makes him more comfortable and less uncomfortable, that is to say, his mother is "good enough", the angel will be bigger than the devil. When children grow up, their mentality will be better, and they will avoid suffering and seek pleasure, suppress evil and promote good. If his mother makes him uncomfortable, it means that his mother is not good enough, and the devil will be bigger than an angel. When children grow up, their mentality will be bad, and they will avoid happiness and pursue bitterness, suppress good and promote evil.
So, what kind of mother is good? What is the specific performance of good? According to the humanistic point of view, it is to meet the needs of children's physiology, safety, belonging, love, respect and self-realization. According to existentialism, it is to give children life, love, freedom and meaning.
Giving life is to give birth to him first, and then let him eat, drink, dress and sleep well to meet his physiological needs, while avoiding accidents and meeting his safety needs. Giving love means being with him, dealing with separation anxiety, accepting him, paying attention to him, caring for him and affirming him. Giving freedom means respecting him, trusting him and avoiding control and attack. Giving meaning is to provide a stable environment, so that children can calmly organize their own experiences and gain a sense of control and self-identity in the environment.
A mother who is not good enough will often hurt her children in the following aspects: 1, neglect, indifference, abandonment, being busy with work or other affairs, not loving, "not responding"; 2. Beating, cursing, being fierce, denying, belittling, insulting, humiliating, maliciously teasing and provoking; 3, control, excessive interference, "standardized education" (not according to the actual situation of children, teaching students in accordance with their aptitude, but according to the so-called scientific method of feeding and education).
Angels and demons are often a trade-off. Get positive energy, optimism and happiness, angels are naturally strong, and their psychology is naturally healthy: get negative energy, negative sadness, angels can't beat the devil, and their psychological situation is naturally worrying!