Lin Daiyu is the most classic and famous image in the history of China literature, almost without exception.
Even people who haven't read a dream of red mansions can comment on her.
Almost everyone knows that she is lofty and arrogant, but she is also very sensitive and loves to cry. She often cares about other people's words, quarrels with Jia Baoyu because of trivial matters, and occasionally spits out one mouthful blood. This is a narrow disease.
Such a girl seems to be beyond the aesthetics of modern people.
Because she is not practical at all.
Being a girlfriend, you have to endure the pain, for fear that a mistake will make her fight, cry and spit out all the medicine.
Being a wife seems hard to carry. How can this frail girl, who "takes medicine and leaves", have children and do housework? How to help a husband who is in the same boat?
Of course, Lin Daiyu's talent and looks are all learned, and the book clearly States that she is "beautiful."
But that is the icing on the cake, and you must attach a rich life to see its value.
Ordinary people usually pay more attention to Xue Baochai's sophistication in life. She will be a man, a housekeeper, an eternal man, a good wife and a good mother.
In contrast, Daiyu seems to have fallen behind the times.
People are too lazy to read the thick Dream of Red Mansions. They just parrot-talked at Daiyu and fixed her in three or two labels.
What's more, I actually described Lin Daiyu as "the heroine is shrouded in aura" ... I spit out old blood, so this article was born.
To tell the truth, Lin Daiyu is probably the most wronged heroine.
Most people misunderstand and underestimate her.
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Compared with Xue Baochai, Lin Daiyu is really not easy to get along with.
Zhou Rui's family came to send palace flowers, and the last two were hers. She smiled coldly: "I knew it! Others don't pick the rest and don't give it to me. "
The words are quite bitter. Zhou Rui's family is passive, and the readers are passive. I just think that Lin Daiyu's fuss is too difficult to serve. After all, it is Mrs. Wang's escort room, which is a sin against her future mother-in-law.
But if you look forward, you will find that Lin Daiyu's emotional intelligence is not low.
When she entered the Guo Rong Building at the beginning of the year, she also paid attention to it step by step. No matter whether she is facing her grandmother or two aunts, she can handle it properly and make her words watertight.
"My aunt shouldn't have given up eating, but she insisted on visiting my second uncle. I am afraid that I will be late and disrespectful. I hope menstruation will forgive me. "
It can be seen that Lin Daiyu is not ignorant of the world, but disdains the world and is unwilling to deliberately please everyone in the government.
To tell the truth, Zhou Rui's family did not handle it properly in sending palace flowers.
Lin Daiyu is a stranger, and everything comes first. However, Zhou Rui's family did the opposite and arranged the last two for Daiyu.
Of course, this is not necessarily intentional.
But if the frequency is very high, it will inevitably convey an underestimation, and the subconscious contempt is obvious. By her own admission, servants in the government have a rich heart and two decent eyes and are used to watching people eat vegetables.
This is not groundless.
When Xue Baochai sent the bird's nest, Lin Daiyu cut herself and said a long passage:
"... I'm not a serious master. I came here helplessly, and they already hate me. "
When I first watched Buried Flowers when I was a child, I only thought that "360 days a year, the wind and the sword pressed each other" was exaggerated. Now I have to investigate every word carefully to understand Lin Daiyu's grievances.
She is sensitive, suspicious and sarcastic, but isn't that the protective color under the protection of others?
Of course, she knows what the so-called "correctness" looks like, and how to make everyone in the Jia family praise it. But she is not Xue Baochai, and she doesn't like to speculate on other people's affairs, nor does she care to cater to or even hide her emotions.
This is a big flaw of Lin Daiyu, but it is also the most beautiful.
One word: true.
Everything she says and does is from the heart, and she is never willing to bow her head for practical benefits. Don't do anything against your will.
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Besides being mean, Lin Daiyu is narrow-minded, often sarcastic and quarreling with Jia Baoyu.
For example, the eighth time, Jia Baoyu visited Xue Baochai. Hearing this, Lin Daiyu quickly followed. When I saw them sitting side by side when I entered the door, I smiled and said, "I came at a bad time."
For example, the twentieth time, Shi Xiangyun casually asked a sentence, where did the second brother come from? Baoyu blurted out that he came from Baochai, and Daiyu was jealous and sneered, "I said, it's a good thing I tripped there, or I would have flown."
For example, twenty-two times, Qingwen was so angry that she refused to open the door. Daiyu mistakenly thought it was because of Xue Baochai and refused to talk to Baoyu for several days.
There are even some shady little emotions and embarrassment:
On this day, I don't know why, they talked, and Daiyu was so angry that she cried alone in her room. Baoyu repented of his words and went forward to bow down. Daiyu gradually turned around. "
The most serious one was that Zhang Daoshi wanted to act as matchmaker for Baoyu, and they had a quarrel. One smashed Baoyu, a personal psychic, and the other vomited the mellow drink he had just drunk, crying out of breath.
I also said a lot from the heart, what I blocked your good marriage, what I know you for nothing. Every sentence hit the nail on the head and hurt each other to pieces.
Many people think that Lin Daiyu's mind is not broad enough.
You see, she always seems to make a mountain out of a molehill and force her sweetheart to embarrass herself. It's not good for yourself and others, so why bother?
But who doesn't fall in love like this?
Try it out bit by bit and guess his words and deeds carefully. Giggling for a long time for a sentence, but also secretly took a sad look. Seeing him approaching another woman, my heart was in my throat, and I couldn't help saying something jealous, which made me bitter.
I can't let go, I can't let go, I can't get it out of my mind, I don't feel bad, I regret it.
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But Lin Daiyu is not a stupid woman who just "works". If you don't believe me, then refuse-
"Miss Lin never said these damn words? If she had said such stupid things, I would have separated from her. "
When Jia Baoyu said this, Lin Daiyu was overjoyed and secretly decided that the other party was a confidant.
"Don't worry."
Later Jia Baoyu added this sentence. In just three words, Lin Daiyu's heart settled down. Since then, she has become soft and will not be as restless as before.
Because she got the answer from Jia Baoyu.
When a hanging heart is put down, you don't need to use intense emotions to verify it. You just need to make a small noise occasionally. This is exactly what the phrase "coolie is pleasing to the eye" should be.
In contrast, Xue Baochai is inevitably a bit "fake".
She seldom shows her true feelings, let alone is jealous. In the face of Jia Baoyu, Baochai is also dignified and self-restrained, without the feelings of a girl in love.
But this reason and calmness is actually proof of not loving or not loving so much.
The so-called "good marriage" is actually a choice after weighing the pros and cons. Perhaps she loves the powerful combination of family forces more than Baoyu.
As adults, we gradually tend to have similar views on mate selection. But once in a while, when I calm down, I still can't help sighing and feel dejected for my lost "true colors".
But in fact, Lin Daiyu's interpersonal relationship is not so miserable.
She is not as smooth as Xue Baochai, but she also has the broad-minded bearing of a good family, and can control the complex interpersonal circle of Jia family with ease.
Take the relationship with Shi Xiangyun as an example.
The two were enemies, and they started fighting as soon as they met. Because Shi Xiangyun is frank, lively and witty, she often offends the sensitive Lin Daiyu carelessly.
I didn't expect Xiang Yun to become good girlfriends with her in the end. They can write poems together, talk to each other and get along as well as sisters.
To put it bluntly, Lin Daiyu just showed her unhappiness on her face and never took it seriously. Because she disdains to hide, she wants to show all of herself, even if it is not perfect and unpleasant.
This is the right gesture to make friends.
If you have reservations, you can be honest with each other, let two imperfect people get close to each other and get along well with each other's shortcomings. This is the real opening of friendship.
Making friends with a mask is too tiring and twisted.
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As we all know, Lin Daiyu is brilliant, and a poem "Burying Flowers" is written brilliantly. Poems in the Grand View Garden are often sung by her.
It is easy to give people the illusion that she is out of touch with the world and knows nothing about housework.
But this is all a misunderstanding.
Wang Xifeng once compared her to Baochai:
"Moreover, Lin wench and treasure wench she two harmony, partial and relatives, and bad management of our household affairs. Let's talk about a beauty lamp, which will break when the wind blows; One is to make up your mind not to do your own thing and not to speak. If you don't know everything, it's hard to ask her. "
It can be seen that Lin Daiyu's business ability has been sealed by Xifeng, but it is limited by objective conditions and can't be put into use for the time being.
But this doesn't mean that she stays out of it, only knowing the affair and not knowing the daily necessities.
If you don't believe me, look at Xiaoxiang Pavilion.
In an acre of land under the jurisdiction of Lin Daiyu, maids are loyal to their duties and have a good atmosphere. Has Hongyi Hospital ever had anything to worry about?
She will even settle accounts silently, pay close attention to the revenue and expenditure of the imperial court, and even see the crux of the Jia family, and anticipate that the deficit is difficult to fill and may hide the curse.
When Jia Baoyu was in a daze and didn't know Migui, she had already issued a warning:
"Although I don't care about things, every time I am free, I will help them calculate. If I don't save money now, I will lose my hand. "
It's not that she can't, it's that she can't.
As an orphan girl living in Jiafu, she can't cross the border as a housekeeper, but can only hide her skills and silently wait for the day when she is promoted to "Grandma Bao".
Unfortunately, that day never came.
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Some people speculate on the married life of Jia Baoyu and Lin Daiyu.
By that time, the Jia family must have died, and the prosperity and prosperity of the past were scattered with the wind. So, can Lin Daiyu and Jia Baoyu be a poor couple?
Many people shook their heads. It's impossible.
In their eyes, Lin Daiyu is a delicate aristocratic lady, and only exquisite silk and delicacies can water this world-famous flower.
But I always feel that this view is a great contempt for Daiyu.
From the inside out, her arrogance has been carved into her genes and melted into her blood, and will not be easily changed because of poverty.
If one day, Lin Daiyu becomes a gentle woman with a cloth skirt, who can make soup and add fragrance to tea.
The couple may live in seclusion in the countryside, guarding a small hut to read and write poems, and live a poor and happy life like Tao Yuanming, but they have a peach blossom garden in their hearts.
The possibility of being an official is slim.
She knows the world, but she won't be worldly easily. What couples want is not how rich the flowers are.
But there should be poems circulating, and their names will be passed down from mouth to mouth, circling on people's lips and becoming an affectionate but not old legend.
Of course, the premise is that she is healthy and has enough energy to fight against fate.