Second, unreasonable cognition, and the corresponding reasonable cognitive test examples:
1, I definitely want to be loved and praised by people around me, especially important people around me. Because people have their own positions and perspectives and different values in life, the so-called difference is the element of conflict. In this way, if you want to get everyone's love and praise, you must conform to these opposing positions and values at the same time. Is this illogical? If your mother appreciates your silence and introversion, but your father wants you to be talkative and bold, if they are present at the same time, you can't show these two diametrically opposite personalities. This is just a simple and rude example. Life is extremely trivial and rich. Maybe one of your words doesn't agree with someone's idea, and that person will disagree with you. Therefore, it is unrealistic to try to please everyone. )
2. Ask yourself to be omnipotent. Only when you have achieved something in every link of your life path can you reflect your life value. No one is perfect, and there is no shortage of gold. It is unrealistic to expect that you can do everything and have achievements in every link. People's energy is limited ... if you can't accept this, you may have a hard life and have too many unnecessary feelings of failure and guilt. )
There are many useless, hateful and evil villains in the world. They should be discriminated against and excluded, and severely condemned and punished. Two points can be connected into a line, but two points cannot represent a line. Taking this as an example, two points can be said to be two extreme components of good people and bad people, but there are many intermediate excessive components in the middle. A line is everything to a person, and it is made up of countless points. Therefore, there are no absolute good guys and bad guys. )
When unpleasant things happen in life, there will be a sense of disaster. In fact, this feeling is inevitable, but reason can be overcome. Life is not always smooth sailing, so we should deal with unsatisfactory things with a positive attitude, without being too nervous, otherwise the psychological pressure will be too great, which will lead to inefficiency and is not conducive to solving problems. )
The road of life is full of difficulties and hardships, and people's responsibilities and pressures are too heavy, so try to escape from reality.
6. People's unhappiness is caused by external environmental factors, so people can't overcome pain and troubles.
7. We should keep a high degree of vigilance against dangerous and terrible things, always pay attention to them and be prepared to happen at any time. Like the recent Sichuan earthquake, everyone felt terrible. If a person is always worried about whether an earthquake will happen around him, it will make him anxious and affect his physical and mental health. In fact, this article means not to worry too much. )
8. A person's past experience determines his current behavior, which can never be changed.
9. People need to rely on others to live, so they always want a strong person to depend on themselves.
10, people should be devoted to caring for others and feel sorry for their own problems, so that their emotions can be pinned. People should have excellent qualities such as love and compassion. But if you always involve yourself in other people's emotions or troubles, it's not a sign of love, it's not good for others, and it will also bring you fatigue. For example, even if others are not far away, they are our own children. If we care too much, our children will feel burdened. For ourselves, it is a spiritual world that has lost itself. )
1 1, every problem in life must have an accurate answer and a perfect solution. If you can't do it, it will be very painful.