He is a newcomer,
The past is over,
They're all new. (2 Corinthians 5: 17)
Discuss "birth influence" with a sister
Saltland _ Fenhua
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20 18-07- 18
Sister a:
Many depressed patients don't have an abnormal family, such as Pu Shu, but we can't deny that many depressed environments have a great influence on them. Although secular psychology touts the harm of family background to people a bit outrageous, it can't be overdone. Many people are really sensitive, but their families are not good, so they belong to the high-risk group of depression.
Pink words:
Biblical counseling never denies the influence of the family and environment in which a person grew up. Otherwise, God will not repeatedly ask parents to raise their children in the love of the Lord in the Bible, so that they can learn the truth from childhood and never deviate from it when they are old. God didn't need to bring the Israelites from Egypt to Canaan, nor did he need them to drive the Canaanites out. God will not forbid us to marry foreigners, and has repeatedly taught us to avoid temptation, because God knows that we are too easily influenced by the environment and others.
However, as long as we truly fear God, set our eyes on God and firmly believe in God, no matter how bad the environment is, we can overcome it, as witnessed by great sages such as Yue Se, Moses and Daniel.
We object to the so-called concept of "being born in a family" because they think it is a decisive factor in who a person grows up to be. But we know that as long as we are in Christ, we are a new person. The past has passed, and everything has become new. (2 Corinthians 5: 17)
Christians should not be influenced by the concept of family origin, find their own problems, and find a lot of reasons for their past growth, but learn to completely renew in the Lord, to get rid of the old and get new.
Sister a:
Amen, but I don't think we can completely deny the harm that being born in a family has done to them when tutoring them.
Pink words:
Daniel and his friends have been captured since childhood, and their parents may be killed, mostly orphans. They must have suffered a lot, but they stood firm in the Lord. The concept of family background is wrong, because it gives people many reasons to avoid facing themselves. Yes, people can't change the past, but all our experiences are allowed by God. People make mistakes and hurt us, but God doesn't. After believing in the Lord, we should reinterpret our past, our future and our present from the perspective of God.
Sister a:
I still can't accept your complete denial of the influence of family background. It is absolutely unacceptable for people who don't believe in God to say such things.
Pink words:
As I said just now, we never deny the influence of growth, family and environment on people. But this influence is not decisive. It is really hard for people who don't believe in the Lord to accept it, but we who believe in the Lord are different. After we believe in the Lord, we should learn not to shirk our problems to the past that we cannot change at all. We need to learn to read our past from God's eyes and see God's wonderful grace. God allows us to have such and such experiences, and it must be for our present or future interests.
If we believe in the Lord and stay in the past, we are bitter to our parents and resentful to the background of our growth. Actually, God hates us behind our backs. Because God is fully capable of protecting us from past experiences. We should learn from Yue Se's view of what happened to him from the perspective of God:
"In the past, your original intention was to hurt me, but God's original intention was good, saving many people's lives and achieving today's situation." Genesis 50:20
Only in this way can we really get rid of the pain of the past.
Sister Zhou Xiaoqin and I had very bad childhood experiences, and we were very bitter and resentful. But after believing in the Lord, we began to reinterpret past experiences from the perspective of God, and we began to be grateful. We can't change our past, nor can our parents. However, God who allowed these experiences to happen to us must have good intentions. We may not know it now, but we will know it in the future.
We need to learn to let go of the past. True forgiveness is not to recall the evil of others, but to actively create new memories of love to replace the memories of past injuries. These loving memories need us to rely on the Lord and create them with lasting loving actions.
Sister a:
Yes, it's a little difficult.
Pink words:
It's hard to rely on yourself, but you can really rely on the Lord. God wants us to forgive, which is a great protection for us. Let's not let past injuries hurt us again and again.
Ask the Lord to help us always think of God's love and love and grace on the cross. We must believe that all the experiences that God allows to happen to us are for our eternal benefit.
Whether it is the injury of others or the bitter fruit of one's own crime, these are experiences that people in the past can't change, but when we bring them to the Lord, they must be completely renewed. We look at our past experiences and our relationship with our biological parents and family in a new way.
Because of our experience, we can be the first to accept my my saving grace. If it weren't for my experience, I might not have repented and believed in the Lord at all when I heard the gospel. God first allowed these experiences to give us such great grace.
We look at our parents and family members who have hurt us in the past with compassion because they don't know the Lord or what they are doing. If they don't repent and believe in the Lord, the end will be eternal hell fire. Because of this pity, we can not only forgive them, but also pray for their salvation and actively preach the gospel to them. We need to draw such love and compassion from the Lord.
Sister a:
Miss Pink Flower, thank you for your correction. In fact, I grew up a little worried about my past. I am free now, thank God!
Pink words:
Thank god!
Christians must be careful of the popularity of this fallacy of "being born in a family", because it really affects how Christians today view our growth situation and face ourselves (we can't completely forgive and life can't break through), and also affects how Christian parents should raise their children (fear and shock) and how to face the mistakes in the process of raising their children (deep remorse and fear), which has caused many troubles and constraints to parents and children.
Dear brothers and sisters, if you are still deeply affected by the past injuries, I pray for you urgently: Please allow you to thank the Lord for your redemption, please give you a heavenly perspective to look at your past, please completely release you from the past injuries and pains, and the Lord will give you the strength to move forward!
Dear brothers and sisters, please reinterpret the background and experience of your growth from the perspective of God! You should be sure that everything you experience will be a blessing in the hands of God: your blessing, the blessing of your parents and family, and the blessing of many people with the same growth background and experience as you, if you like.
Dear brothers and sisters, if you are a parent and have made many mistakes and sins in the process of raising children, please don't continue to live in guilt and fear. Because everyone makes mistakes, and God is not wrong. Especially if we make mistakes because of ignorance, God has more mercy and grace. We need to put the past behind us completely, turn to God and ask him for mercy and help.
Even if we have done great mistakes and committed great crimes in the process of raising children, as long as we confess our sins and repent before the Lord, admit our mistakes to our children and ask for forgiveness, we should not live in guilt all the time. We should believe in the Lord's promise. He is God and works together to benefit those who love God. We should learn to unload all the burdens to the Lord and entrust everything to the Lord, and he will give you peace and joy.
I also pray for you here, asking the Lord to completely release you from the lie of "birth determinism", so that you can live with a free heart from today, or raise your children according to the truth of the Lord, and do what the Lord will do from today, please Lord, and glorify the Lord! God bless you! Amen!