In our short life, we are bound to experience many things, and among these things, there are not many things that can make people happy, as Fang Yue, a poet in the Song Dynasty, described: Nine times out of ten, things that are unsatisfactory are often. The troubles and troubles encountered are countless, countless and inseparable. On a sunny day, suddenly lightning and thunder; When birds are singing and flowers are fragrant, the situation changes suddenly; Wide and flat roads, steep cliffs and deep streams.
Faced with this situation, different people will have different mental states. Some people complain and are upset; Some people are depressed and depressed; Some people make great efforts to govern and strive for strength and competitiveness. Different coping styles stem from people's different moods and are the external manifestations of people's different inner feelings.
How to keep a peaceful mind and calmly face all kinds of troubles and worries is a result of people's continuous cultivation and self-growth in life.
There are many ways to grow up:
First, you should read more books. British philosopher Bacon once wrote: Reading history makes people wise, reading poetry makes people incisive, mathematics makes people careful, physics makes people profound, and ethics makes people solemn. Books are the crystallization of countless sages' valuable life experiences, and reading is an excellent way to temper the mind and enhance the mind.
Secondly, no matter what kind of situation you face, you should always remind yourself to deal with it calmly, not to fall into a dead end, not to be happy with things, not to be sad for yourself, and to tolerate all difficulties and challenges with a broad mind.
The real world is materialistic, and people's hearts are not ancient. It is extremely difficult to keep a calm mind. It is precisely because of difficulties that we should strive to have a strong inner world. In the face of any difficulties, we have the calmness and calmness of "I will go to the water to check my way, and then sit and watch the rising clouds", which makes our life rich and colorful.
How to cultivate a calm mind? What is a calm mind? Is to refuse impetuous, keep quiet, willing to indifferent mentality, to develop such a mentality depends on the need to do the following three things:
First, we should strengthen our study. Only by studying can we develop a peaceful and good attitude. Everything has a causal relationship, which is called as you sow, so you reap. If you want to have a peaceful mind, you can only improve your self-cultivation by reading. All cultivated people are people who can study quietly. In this impetuous society, a person who doesn't study or study doesn't have a good attitude. There is a saying: my mind is full of poems and books. The "self-improvement" here is a kind of self-cultivation, a kind of tolerance and a kind of mentality. It is a rare god to be able to calm down and study, what's more, reading has improved your knowledge and insight. Such a person is not simple.
As the ancients said, everything is not as good as climbing. What does this height mean, it is the best and most beautiful in life? However, some people want to study, knowing that reading is good, but they can't get into the book and don't want to study. In this way, they can only be rough and impetuous, and there is no chance of loneliness and tranquility. It is even more difficult to enjoy the peace of mind of life. Reading can improve people's knowledge and knowledge, and improve people's cultivation. To be a good person and a positive person, the only choice is to start with reading. People will be impetuous, ignorant, selfish and willful if they don't study.
The second is to be indifferent to fame and fortune, and only with a kind heart can we maintain a positive attitude towards life. Commodity economy society, diversified society, all kinds of temptations will confuse many people's hearts. The more extravagant, the more indifferent people are to fame and fortune, and don't be eager for quick success. If everything is mercenary and impetuous, you can't follow your feelings. If you pursue material interests excessively, you will lose yourself.
Why do many people in modern society always have a restless heart, that is, they are confused by material desires, and their material desires are too strong and too great? You know, in this world, material desires are hard to satisfy, and people can't calm down. This requires us to look down on material desires and pursue more spiritually, so that we can calm down, sit down and study, be ourselves, be less blind in comparison and be ourselves.
Third, we must have the spirit of self-discipline and learn from Si Qi before we can make positive progress. There is a gap between people. Confucius said, "A threesome must have a teacher." To be a man, we should learn from others' strengths and make up for our own shortcomings. Only in this way can we maintain a positive attitude. What people in this society need most is not addition but subtraction. This subtraction is the spirit of self-discipline, that is, to control your mouth, your legs and your words and deeds. Only by controlling yourself can we be self-disciplined and introspective. Be a man like a lotus: "Mud comes out without being stained." In this way, you are a calm person, and you can live with lonely people.
It can be said that most people in this society have good wishes, but they can't control themselves when they meet reality. It is difficult to combine knowledge with practice, and it is difficult to do what you say. Just like this, a person should strengthen his study and start with improving his self-cultivation, so as to develop a leisurely and good attitude.
If the heart is clear, the sky will not collapse.
Do not insult, look at the flowers before the court; I have no intention of staying or staying, just looking at the clouds outside the sky.
The quieter the human heart, the more objective it is to know the world. It's not that I don't have the ability to see through, but that my heart is too chaotic. "Indifference means no ambition, and quietness means no distance." . Quiet makes wisdom, so the wise are not confused. Besides studying, it is more important to be quiet. If you want to see the world clearly, you must precipitate your own heart. Don't let a stone break your heart.
How to cultivate a calm mind? The specific approach is:
(1) Parents should set a good example for their children to lead calmly. 1, cultivate children's habit of communication when things go wrong; 2. Cultivate children's habit of patience after setbacks; 3. Tell children that sadness, disappointment and anger will not only affect themselves, but also affect the emotions of others; 4. Help children experience the ability to deal with other people's emotions.
(2) Relax and be naturally open-minded;
(3) When something happens, we should look at its essence and not be fooled by superficial phenomena;
(4) think positively about coping methods and don't make fearless efforts.
(5) Learn to empathize. Try to look at the problem from the standpoint of others and learn to forgive others.
When the mood changes, things change. Sometimes we laugh at others in life, and then we will be laughed at by others, so no matter how painful we have experienced, we will eventually be forgotten, because nothing can stand the test of time! Sometimes don't look at the world too lonely, just as we sometimes miss some people, there will always be some people who miss us all the time.
It is said that time flies, in fact, time has always been there, but our own hearts and feelings are changing. People often say that you can't resist time. In fact, time can't resist our impetuousness.
We don't climb mountains all our lives, but you should have a mountain in your heart to keep you climbing high, to keep you working hard and to look up and see hope at any time.
The best age is the day when you finally know and firmly believe how good you are, not empty, not grandiose, not popular, but knowing clearly in your heart that yes, I am so good!
Don't wait, there are not many opportunities that really belong to you, and action is always more important than fantasy;
Don't complain, face up to contradictions and problems, complaining can only prove your incompetence;
Don't be promiscuous, have three or two confidants, and don't expect to be good friends with anyone;
Don't be impetuous Travel and study when you have time, cultivate your body and mind with the environment and enrich your mind with culture.
Don't regret it, as long as it is your choice, even if it is difficult and helpless, you must grit your teeth and stick to it. Don't let those unimportant things affect us and let us lose those really important things.
Sometimes the world is so big that our generation has no chance to meet it. Sometimes the world is so small that we can see your smiling face when we look up, so we must be grateful when we meet, cherish when we fall in love, and smile when we turn around.
The simpler our hearts are, the simpler the world will be, and happiness will grow; If you have a free heart, you will live freely and be happy everywhere. Be optimistic when you are proud, but optimistic when you are frustrated. There are many things in life that can be put down. Only by putting them down can you afford them.
Try to simplify your life, and you will find that the scenery that is blocked is the most suitable life. Don't be too persistent, lest you give yourself a heavy burden.
Be more tolerant, be more generous, wave your hand and smile, and all unhappiness will become a thing of the past. Because there is nothing we can do, let it be. Because our hearts have nothing to do, we should take pleasure in it. If our hearts are simple, our world will be particularly simple.
The first sentence, no matter who you meet, he is the right person;
The second sentence, no matter what happens, it is the only thing that will happen;
The third sentence, no matter when things start, it is the right time;
The fourth sentence, what should be over is over.
In fact, these words will remind us of something similar that Buddha Sakyamuni said: No matter who you meet, he is the one who should appear in your life. It is no accident that he will teach you something.
In fact, life will always give us answers, but it won't tell us everything at once. It will always tell us through the occurrence of some facts: this is the best arrangement in heaven!
So in our real life, if things go against our wishes, we must believe that there must be other arrangements, and everything that happens now and now is the best arrangement!
Mood, not mood, not mood. It is a low-intensity but long-lasting emotion. Personally, I think that mood is broader and longer than emotion, and it is a weak, calm and lasting emotion.
If you want peace of mind, you must have a contented, tolerant, grateful and optimistic attitude.
-Content-
You see, the ancients said that "three meals are served with simple tea, sweet in the morning and sweet in the evening", and the joy of the soul comes from the richness of the spirit; Simple happiness comes from the satisfaction of the mind. Life is actually very simple, that is, "the contented are always happy."
-Tolerance-
Learn the tolerance and understanding of "all rivers run into the sea" and learn to let go. Let go of troubles, burdens, burdens and unhappiness. Let go of heavy burdens and bags, go into battle lightly, and be more tolerant and caring, and you will naturally gain a calm state of mind.
-Grateful-
Always be grateful! Gratitude can make people feel good, and people with gratitude will always be happy. More happiness, more optimism, more openness and more gratitude. Change your attitude, change the way you look at things.
optimism
Optimism comes from "willingness" Learn to choose, know how to give up, and know the great wisdom of giving up. If you choose, you must do your best. If you give up, you will be free. Choosing and giving up requires wisdom and a sunny attitude.
-Yi Qing-
Feel "happiness" with interest: when life is boring and frustrated, it is better to try "picking chrysanthemums under the east fence and seeing Nanshan leisurely" to integrate carefree life into the state of mind.
Exercise to "move" your feelings: When you are depressed, upset or excited, the best way is to divert your attention, take part in physical exercise, or take part in appropriate physical labor to eliminate mental tension with muscle tension.
A calm state of mind requires a sunny state of mind, an open-minded state of mind, an optimistic state of mind and a carefree state of mind. If we "act safely and wait safely", we will naturally have it! Pay attention to the night in Lin Si and get to know the best of you!
Release yourself and look down on everything. There are not many demands in life, but unfortunately people in real life have intentionally or unintentionally amplified their extravagant hopes, which leads to their restlessness. In fact, we don't need too many material needs every day. Simplicity is the greatest magic weapon left by ancient sages. Unfortunately, it is lost by the excessive material desires of modern people.
The situation turns with the heart, calm, everything is faint, faint.
A calm mind comes from practice, and it is important to relax and let go.
Practice, the first thing to cultivate is the human heart; As the saying goes: if the heart does not move, it will not hurt; When you are excited, you are surging.
People pay attention to "Tao and law", Tao is the heart, and law is the method and means. So, what are the means to be calm?
First of all, fishing
Fishing is a common way to cultivate one's morality. If the heart does not move, the water does not move, that is, the mountain does not move.
Fishing is the most important way to raise children; I can't wait, but wait slowly; Wait for peace, wait for peace, peace.
Second, meditation.
Buddhism meditation, everything is empty, empty is empty, color is empty; There is nothing, so there is no dust. Where there are waves, there is no color, no phase, no self, no object.
Such as Taoism, Taoism is natural, let nature take its course, do not dispute, and go downstream; Happy-go-lucky, unrestrained, happy-go-lucky
For example, Confucianism cultivates the mind, does not strive for fame and fortune, and is not greedy for money; Don't be happy with things, don't be sad with yourself; This is called: patience is not available.
Third, calligraphy.
Calligraphy is also a common kung fu for self-cultivation. Writing with qi, pursuing fluency, and focusing on peace of mind. Gentle and decent, hold your breath, leap from the paper, keep your words in your heart, and care about yourself.
Fourth, experience
Experience can make us underestimate the success or failure of gains and losses, so that we are not surprised by honor or disgrace, and Mount Tai collapses in front of us without changing its color.
I am used to seeing the changing situation, and my sex is Wushan; Don't be surprised when you face it suddenly, and don't be angry and arrogant for no reason.
Fifth, be ambitious and broad-minded
Ambitious people, little wind and light rain, can't move their hearts; The wind and waves can't change his mind. This is called: Swallows know the ambition of swans.
It is said that "the prime minister can hold a boat in his stomach", because after all the storms, what else is worth moving?
Of course, optimism and mentality can bring inner peace.
Where is the heart, the scenery is there!
Peace of mind is naturally cool, and the heart is far from being biased; Picking chrysanthemums under the east fence, you can see Nanshan leisurely.
Relax and enjoy it.
In life, when we face some unpleasant things, we are always upset, which will seriously affect our social relations and physical and mental health. So, how to cultivate a calm mind?
First of all, read more books and temper your mind. Reading makes one wise, and reading also makes one patient. When you are upset, open a favorite book and read it carefully, and you will find that your heart suddenly calms down a lot. With our in-depth study of this book, all the troubles of the past have been forgotten. Reading makes people full of wisdom, and people full of wisdom have a peaceful mind. Perhaps, as we usually say, no matter how smart they are, they are also stupid.
Secondly, a peaceful mind requires us to face everything calmly. Don't stand still, don't intrigue, just have a broad mind and face all sadness or happiness. Take a leisurely walk to enjoy flowers, drink tea and splash ink, and write down your life at the bottom of a book or pen.
Therefore, to cultivate a calm mind, we need to face everything with a calm heart, not to be happy for things and sad for ourselves.
Peace of mind means that everything is safe. Without me, there is no life. The cultivation of Buddhism is simply to surrender the demons, so as to achieve nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing, nothing, no doubt. This is naturally too demanding for the materialistic world, which is full of materialism, bustling and mercenary. But we can still get a lot of inspiration from it. That is:
1. First of all, we should establish an altruistic value and develop the habit of thinking of others everywhere. Man is a gregarious animal. In order to maintain the survival of the whole group, some people must make sacrifices and some people must make selfless contributions. If everyone is selfish and only thinks of himself, then the whole crowd will feel insecure and fight endlessly, and mankind will move from living in groups to living alone, and the fate of mankind will be in jeopardy. In short, look higher and farther, and don't lose yourself because of petty gain.
Know yourself correctly and do as much as possible. Some people are depressed and lead a negative life on weekdays. When they came across a chicken soup article, they were determined to do something earth-shattering, saying that' princes will have courage'. As a result, I was defeated because of my incompetence. Since then, I have been complaining and depressed. There is another kind, that is, women who often post photos on social software, if a man says "You are the most beautiful woman in the world". She immediately swelled up and thought that she was really a heartthrob of "everyone loves her, and flowers bloom and fall", but she forgot her true self. I always want to climb higher and marry Gao Fushuai. The end result is often "all the flowers are gone, no one cares, only sad." So, know yourself clearly, don't misjudge the situation, don't think too much, don't do too much, and everything will be fine.
3. Look down on life and death. Even if there is a thousand-year-old iron threshold, there must be an earthen steamed bread. What should come will come, and what should be returned will be changed eventually. Life is He Huan, and death is fearless. As the saying goes, "don't be ashamed, watch the flowers in front of the court, stay or stay unintentionally, and look beyond the sky."
In short, in the face of interests, we should maintain a feeling of compassion and salvation, that is, "all beings suffer, and those who do not suffer will suffer." In the face of difficulties, we should maintain an open-minded attitude of "stop what we do, and then sit and watch Yun Qi". At the end of my life, I have nothing to miss and fear. Let me go with the wind, if possible, let me leave a touch of color and dress up the human sky. This life is enough.
This is a sincere and long process, failure and success, learning, observation, thinking and practice. Day after day, year after year, I fell and got up, and I fell and got up. There is no ready-made model, only realistic experience and consciousness precipitation, bit by bit accumulation.