⊙2018.12.27
My heart is broken, and this heart may be about to die. People often say: "If you already have a dead heart, what's the point of living?" "It seems that this friend is living in real pain.
When your heart is hurt in this state, the best way is to heal. The method is just one sentence: one forgets, two opens and three creates.
To forget means to forget all the sad things, stop thinking about them, and let the past go. Every time you think about it, it is a process of uncovering scars. The newly healed wounds are uncovered again, resulting in deeper pain.
Secondly, the pain of the heart is actually controlled by negative energy emotions. To release these negative energies, you must open your heart and let the sunshine shine into your heart that is covered by the shadow of pain and dispel it. The shadow of negative energy emotions.
The three creations are to create positive energy, and positive energy comes from those sunny, nutritious, and beneficial qi that nourish the heart and nourish people, which are called qi nurturing, which are good Qi, beautiful Qi, heroic Qi, Grandeur, heroism, elegance, wisdom, courage, sharpness, backbone, aura, etc. These energies gather into a nourishing aura, just like the spring breeze. When the spring breeze blows into your heart, and the spring breeze blows again, it will bring about the happiness of the heart. vitality.
Thank you and wish you peace!
One by One "Nursing the Aura"
When talking about this matter with a former college roommate of mine, I feel as if the dark days I spent with him were just yesterday.
It is always said that when a couple breaks up, the woman is more sad, but only those who have experienced it will understand that whoever loves deeply will suffer more.
My college buddy cheated on his girlfriend. On the day we broke up, he pretended to be strong and laughed with us, pretending to be fine, but we all knew how painful he was. He bought a lot of wine and a few packs of cigarettes. I sat on the roof of the dormitory all afternoon.
He and his girlfriend have been together since high school. Later, they were admitted to college together. After being together for a long time, the woman felt that she had lost the freshness and there were no waves when they were together.
The night we broke up, he didn’t sleep all night. After drinking, he vomited and drank. As a non-smoker, he smoked cigarette after cigarette, pack after pack, coughing and vomiting without stopping. It's no use trying to persuade him personally.
The next day I lay in bed without eating, drinking or taking a shower. I even wanted to call his ex-girlfriend and ask her to come and see how he looked.
I lay in bed for two days and drank some water. I felt like he was going to die. Then I got out of bed without brushing my teeth. He wolfed down the food I brought him.
He deleted the game, but still came to drink with me that night, telling me many stories about him and his girlfriend, and he couldn’t stop crying while telling me.
Those two weeks were probably the darkest days for him in so many years.
Later, he stopped playing games, smoked, and drank, but there was no smile on his face for two whole months, and he felt like a zombie.
Perhaps time is the best antidote. Time slowly smoothed away the scars in his heart, but he never thought about his new love. He vowed that he would never love someone so deeply again.
Perhaps, only time can slowly heal the hurt caused by the once desperate love.
Everyone has a line of tears, the cold water they drink, the hot tears brewing, where all the sadness, grievance, pain and sadness are gathered together. All feelings have no reason. If you love, you love. If you don’t love, you don’t love. There are not so many reasons and ifs. The farthest distance in the world is not life and death, but in the world of love. , one still loves the other and regards the other as the whole world, but the other no longer loves the other and has left the world in her heart, and sadness is inevitable.
How to get out of painful days?
1. Comfort yourself. There are people in life who are meant to be met. When you meet the wrong person, you have to say goodbye to the wrong person. He only appears to make you grow in love, so now is When saying goodbye, learn to be more chic.
2. Affirm yourself that you have not let him down when fate comes, and you have not let him down later. Is this respect for your love? You are not sorry or owe anything, so you have no regrets.
3. Calm down and listen to your own voice, feel the beauty of life, and adjust your living conditions.
4. Enrich yourself and encourage yourself. You can listen to music to relax, you can also sing, you can also go for a walk in your favorite place, read more books, and make yourself better, and you will become a better person. Be more confident.
In 2016, my girlfriend and I were getting engaged and married, but just a few days before the engagement, she told me that she fell in love with someone else and asked me not to look for her again, and I knew that Who is this person? I also know that when we were in love, she would often secretly chat with this person. I accidentally saw it again. The title was very ambiguous, but I thought, my kindness to you will always influence you. Once we get married, Maybe it would end, but I didn’t expect it to be like this. I didn’t know what was going on at the time, and I couldn’t control myself at all. I only had one thought in my mind, I can’t lose her, I can’t lose her, so I resigned directly. I quit my job, moved out of my house, and caught a flight all night to come over. But what I was waiting for after arriving was the crueler truth. When I arrived at her house, the moment she opened the door, she was shocked, and so was I, because the room was There was another person, that man. I had seen his photo and the atmosphere was very awkward. As a man, I knelt down and cried and begged her not to leave me. But the reality was cruel. I rented a hotel near her house. I lived in a house for half a year. Every night, I tortured myself to the point of going crazy. I couldn’t see her. I had to wait for her near her house and turn off the lights at her house before she could leave. I felt like I was going crazy. I was just hungry every day. I went to eat something after eating. After I finished eating, I went to find an uninhabited mountain. I walked into the depths. I wanted to jump off many times and cut my wrists. As a man, I have done many undignified things just because I wanted to redeem myself. , then in February of 2017, I slowly came to my senses. I would miss my family, my parents, and my friends. I knew that I could not die or fall anymore. If I continued like this, I would be in pain. It was not me alone, but a family, a group of people who were suffering because of me, so I left and began to integrate into the new environment. Frustration makes people grow. I also understand that people must be strong. If you are not strong, you will have everything. If you can't get it, you can't keep it. I also experienced love later, but I never felt that way again. When people are in trouble, they really should think about their parents, friends, and relatives, chat with more people, and go to lively places more , see more, talk more, broaden your horizons, and your heart will also broaden. You must realize the cruelty of reality. Only by being strong can you get and keep what you want, otherwise you will always be just a subordinate to others.
Let me tell you something about me. Four years ago, I got engaged and went to Japan with my fiancé. A year later, he came back to my house during the Chinese New Year, brought a few things, and went out to play together after dinner.
He kept asking where you would be after the marriage, how much dowry would be required, and how much dowry your family would have. He would go to Japan for another three or four years. There was something wrong with his tone and behavior. I took the initiative to break off the engagement, and my whole heart was numb. I was afraid that my parents would be worried, so I kept pretending to be happy and heartless. I started crying as soon as the door was closed at night. I covered my head with a quilt and cried silently. I felt like a zombie for almost a month, and then I went on a trip by myself. , I signed up to learn calligraphy and take the qualification certificate, and it took me two full years to talk about it in an ordinary way. Anyway, my experience is that you must be broad-minded and don’t get into trouble. If you really can’t figure it out, don’t think about it. Go watch a talk show or go out for a walk. Go shopping or watch a movie. Don’t torture yourself. You have to jump out and see what others would do. Don’t force yourself. Do whatever feels comfortable for you.
No matter what, you should give it to yourself. Have the courage and strength to live every day well, not for the person who hurt you, but only for the people closest to you! To be honest, the pain is only yours! The reason why you are in pain is because you still have illusions! If you were really hurt and desperate, would you still be in such pain? No, it’s definitely a new student! Because of love, it hurts! Only by correcting your mentality and letting go of everything can you not be burdened with so much! In life, you need to learn to let go and move forward!
You may be emotionally frustrated. Please remember this sentence, "There is no big deal except life and death!" Faced with such a thing, I think we must first start a new life. Yes, first you have to take action. There are many kinds of actions, including starting a sport or reading a book, or even going on a trip with friends. Never stop doing anything and immerse yourself in negative emotions. In the end, you will find that being busy can make you forget a lot of pain. Time is the best medicine against pain!
Think about the problem from another perspective. Now think about the problem in someone else's shoes.
Sometimes when you are heartbroken, it may not be entirely the fault of others. You should also reflect on your own behavior and consider whether you did something inappropriate. Don't blame others blindly.
You have to find what makes you sad