What did a successful person do right?
After listening to the conversation between Meng Jie and Feng Tang last night, I really understood a truth. My road is consistent and simple.
The learning style and thinking mode of big coffee are basically the same. People who are completely different from ordinary people and can succeed. Thinking mode and thinking system are completely different from ordinary people.
First of all, learning is the only way to change yourself.
That's right, and the reason is very simple. Big coffee people are using it. But we ordinary people just ignore this.
I used to be ignorant and confused, and I couldn't find my way when I encountered difficulties. You just complain. I just feel inadequate. Just trying to avoid the question. Never dare to face, nor dare to face difficulties. Animal thinking is extremely serious.
Later, I slowly studied with Meng Jie for more than two years, which made me really understand that learning can really change the brain.
Confucius said, the wise are not confused, the benevolent are not worried, and the brave are not afraid.
The wise will not be confused, the wise will not be sad, and the brave will not be afraid.
And we ordinary people are always avoiding things, starting over, not thinking about the solution to the problem, waiting in clothes and solving the problem ourselves, which will make the problem more and more serious.
Or fear, fear of encountering problems. Really stupid and stupid.
And let me know when Sister Meng and I learn to improve our brains. Just to solve the problem and find a way, not to find a reason for failure. This has also become my life creed.
In the book club in Fan Deng, the annoying teacher said that when we were primitive, people would meet wild animals. There are only two kinds of behaviors, one is to fight and the other is to escape. Then when an adult's wisdom rises, he will have a third choice.
If your problem is too big, you can't solve it, not because you can't, but because you don't know enough.
My family didn't support me when I started my business. I don't think I can do it well, but I was cheated. They don't believe me. Maybe he grew up. I am very uneasy about some of my ideas and practices. I am also very upset. Why does nobody understand me? Why do they think I can't?
At the end of last year's online class, I met Mr. Xue Ping. I asked Xue Ping, but my family didn't support me. What should I do? I'm so sad, so sad.
Teacher Xue Ping once told me that all the problems you encounter are not problems.
Yes, think about it. Everyone has encountered the problems I have encountered. There is a solution, or someone has already solved it. Then find them. How do they face it? Isn't the problem solved
The next day, let me understand, encounter problems, find a way. In fact, the question you have encountered has already been answered. It's just that your wisdom is not enough now, and you have returned to learning to take people as teachers.
Through study, I learned a lot of old ideas and stubborn ideas. Everything has changed, and my thinking has changed from emphasizing animal thinking to rational thinking.
When you have a problem, you don't just get angry, or, uh, blame others. And analyze how this problem happened more powerfully. What kind of problems have occurred in which system and which link? Think about the problem more thoroughly and comprehensively, instead of just staying in it.
Feng Tang, the second teacher, said that we must be hard on ourselves.
How to talk about this topic? Be hard on yourself. Everyone likes to stay in their comfort zone. I can eat whenever I want, sleep whenever I want and play whenever I want. This is what most people think. I feel this is a kind of freedom.
And this freedom to go your own way is not freedom. The premise of freedom is self-discipline. Just want to eat sweets, or eat some outside stalls. At this time, your brain will think, will it be good for me to eat these things? Will it gain weight? Am I overweight now? Instead of eating and drinking.
If you want to eat, drink and be merry, play games, watch videos and watch Tik Tok now.
There is a topic in this, that is, the order of life. Order, what to do first, what to do later, we have to do one here first. Classification is to do urgent things, first. The second category is very important and not urgent.
Have you finished your important and urgent work? Did you read a book today? Have you learned anything new? Did you talk to others to get new advice? Do you have any requirements for your growth, your finances and your health?
If you are confused about these things, it doesn't matter. Life without a script is equivalent to driving without a destination. Where you want to go is like stepping on watermelon skin and sliding to where you want to go.
This kind of life will become more and more confused, but there is one kind of person who is anti-human. Some people sleep until eight or nine, while they get up at four or five. Improve yourself by reading, exercising or writing.
Some people say, do you have money? The real question is whether it can be achieved. Can you make money? We can measure it by money. But if you only use money to measure whether you want to do something, then you are too single. Your pattern is too small.
Sometimes doing something reflects your value, your personality charm, and how you can do it well, to the extreme, to meet the expectations of others and to meet your own expectations. If you want to do it, just do it reluctantly. Then I advise you not to do it.
With reluctance and full of joy, the result is completely different.
The purpose of what we do is not only to complete, but also to borrow this word to repair the truth. I don't know if you have heard of it. Each of us has our own Dojo, the working environment at home and the place where you are. At this moment, we are all in a Dojo.
No one is without a Dojo, and it seems that you are doing it. In fact, it is your will behind it, such as getting up early in the morning. Is he just an act? No, that's not true. He actually has willpower. Don't you have enough motivation to get up early just because you go to work? Then you don't have to get up early when you're not at work. What if it becomes a habit?
If you don't manage your life, your life will be managed by others. No, be hard on yourself. Then society is a little hard on you.
We should conform to human nature externally and oppose human nature internally.
The third point is here. What I want to say is that I visit myself three times a day.
Re-offer, re-offer is very important. As the saying goes, only by learning to make a comeback can life make a comeback.
Just like today's topic, everything is repetitive. Let's give an example. It's like when I go to work in the morning, the whole process starts with the chef cooking and then packing. When packing, you should also sort out what to put first, then what to put, and how to cook the rice? If steamed bread cools faster, it won't be squashed, so there is no process, just thinking about what to do in your mind. Although it's over, it's still quite confusing. No reply. Have you ever thought about how to do it faster and better next time? Is there a bag missing? Is there a box missing? Are there any chopsticks missing? Did you make a list? How much do you need? Everyone is ambiguous. Just do it for the sake of doing it.
In this way, you will never get static progress, a set of mobile work, repeat, repeat, repeat again.
So do you think it's important to repeat the quotation? It will be divided into three steps. First, what have you learned and what are your old perceptions? Third, what should you do next?
Write down how I did it first, then finish it, and then think back about what details? Which link has not been done? What is missing? What else is there? So I did it. Can we do better than him next? How to optimize it better? That's the point.
The last point is whether what you do meets other people's expectations, so in your heart, are you satisfied with what you do?
Managing our own expectations and meeting the expectations of others can help us do better in the future.
Finally, today's article ends with an Analects of Confucius.
Ceng Zi said, I visit three times a day, and I am unfaithful to others, but I don't believe in making friends. Can you pass it on?
Great things in the world must be done carefully, and difficult things in the world must be done easily.