Painter Liu Haisu commented on Lu Xiaoman: "Lu Xiaoman's old poems are fresh and pretty, the articles are graceful, and the paintings are quite consistent with the conventions of the Song Dynasty. She is a talented woman of a generation and a peerless beauty." ?
Lu Xiaoman was a famous talented and beautiful woman during the Republic of China. In the early 1920s, Lu Xiaoman was a powerful figure in the social circles of Beijing. Her reputation was no less than that of Lin Huiyin. Both she and Lin Huiyin were Xu. The woman Shima loved. But Lu Xiaoman does not have the emotional intelligence of Lin Huiyin. She dares to love and hate, and does everything for love. However, her marriage is unfortunate and the ending is disappointing.
(1) Lu Xiaoman is a versatile woman
Lu Xiaoman was born in a scholarly family in Shanghai in 1903 (the 29th year of Guangxu). Her father Lu Ding once went to Studying in Japan, he studied at Waseda University in Japan and later became the favorite student of Japanese Prime Minister Hirobumi Ito. Lu Ding returned to China after graduation and served as the Director of Taxation and Financial Secretary of the National Government. He was the founder of the Central Savings Bank. Lu Xiaoman also came from a famous family.
Lu Xiaoman left Shanghai when he was seven years old and followed his mother to Beijing to join his father. While living in Beijing, Lu Ding hired a British female teacher for his daughter Lu Xiaoman. After she achieved success in her studies, she was Government-appointed diplomatic translators. Lu Xiaoman was well-known in Beijing at that time. Later, she became a teacher of painters He Tianjian and Liu Haisu, and she was an excellent painter. Her calligraphy and painting were well-known in Beijing social circles, and her name was included in the membership directory of Chinese women's calligraphy and painting.
In addition, Lu Xiaoman is also good at dancing and socializing. Because she loves Peking Opera, she often performs guest appearances in her spare time. Therefore, Lu Xiaoman was considered to be both talented and beautiful at the time. In our modern parlance, she is called Bai Fumei, a man. The object of their dreams. Hu Shi once said that "Lu Xiaoman is a must-see sight in Beijing", but Lu Xiaoman's marriage was not happy, and the ending was unexpected.
(2) Lu Xiaoman’s first husband Wang Geng
Lu Xiaoman’s family has excellent conditions, so naturally the person who can match him is not bad. However, most marriages of young ladies from wealthy families are arranged by their parents, and Lu Xiaoman is no exception. When she was 20 years old, she married Wang Geng at the behest of her parents and through a matchmaker. Wang Geng is not an ordinary person. He is a fighter among the elite. He is absolutely tall, rich and handsome. Not only does his family have superior conditions, but he is also a great talent. He graduated from Tsinghua University and later went to study at the United States Military Academy at West Point.
Wang Geng is not as fierce as ordinary soldiers. He is gentle and well-educated. However, Lu Xiaoman is very dissatisfied with her husband Wang Geng, mainly because Wang Geng is a workaholic and has no time to spend with her, while Lu Xiaoman has a very personal personality and is very fond of her husband. She is self-centered and requires her husband to obey her and accompany her if he loves her. At this time, Lu Xiaoman could not see the merits of her husband. Wang Geng was not only excellent at work, but also devoted to her and not bothered at all. But in Lu Xiaoman's eyes, her husband is a man who values ??work more important than her. He also doesn't know how to be romantic and is full of shortcomings.
(3) Lu Xiaoman dared to love and hate, and married Xu Zhimo at all costs
Just when Lu Xiaoman was dissatisfied with her husband, the third person Xu Zhimo appeared. Zhimo had just been injured by Lin Huiyin. Xu Zhimo divorced his wife Zhang Youyi for Lin Huiyin, but Lin Huiyin married Liang Sicheng. Xu Zhimo lost his wife and lost his army.
Xu Zhimo and Wang Geng are brothers in the same school and students of Liang Qichao, so they usually have some contacts. In this way, Xu Zhimo met Lu Xiaoman and fell in love with her. In order to pursue Lu Xiaoman, Xu Zhimo On the pretext of catching up with his brothers, he often went to Wang Geng's house. Wang Geng was busy with official duties all day, so he asked his wife Lu Xiaoman to receive Xu Zhimo. Xu Zhimo was a poet, he was very romantic, and he was very good at pleasing girls. Soon they fell in love with each other.
Soon, Wang Geng was transferred to work in Harbin and served as the chief of the police. Wang Geng was also considered a successful person in his career. Lu Xiaoman initially lived in Harbin with her husband for a while, but she didn't adapt and left soon after. From then on, the couple lived apart, and their relationship became weaker and weaker. Lu Xiaoman had more opportunities to interact with Xu Zhimo, and their love grew deeper.
Lu Xiaoman is a new era woman who yearns for independence and is not bound by traditional marriage. She always acts according to her own wishes and does not listen to the opinions of others.
In order to be with Xu Zhimo in 1925, Lu Xiaoman chose to divorce Wang Geng despite the opposition of his family. The next year, he married Xu Zhimo and held a grand wedding. Hu was invited to host the wedding. , Liang Qichao served as a witness. Liang Qichao reprimanded the bride and groom at the wedding, expressing his dissatisfaction with their frivolous and irresponsible behavior.
Xu Zhimo and his wife had a good relationship at first after getting married. They went out to watch theaters and studied painting together like a couple. However, as time went by, conflicts arose. The two of them insisted on getting married despite the opposition of their families in order to get together. Their families cut off contact with them. Xu Zhimo couldn't get any money from home. In order to support his wife, Xu Zhimo lectured at three universities and wrote articles in his spare time to earn royalties. , the couple lived on Xu Zhimo's meager salary from teaching.
In 1930, Xu Zhimo quit his job and taught at Peking University. In order to support his family, Xu Zhimo also worked as a part-time professor at Beijing Women's Normal University. For work, Xu Zhimo often traveled back and forth between Shanghai and Beijing. In fact, he earned a lot. At that time, the average annual salary per capita was about five yuan, and Xu Zhimo could earn hundreds of yuan, but such a high salary was still not enough. Wife’s daily expenses.
Lu Xiaoman grew up in a good family and was an only child. She developed the habit of pampering and spending money lavishly. She would go to the theater today and play mahjong tomorrow. Later, he also made a close friend named Weng Ruiwu. Weng Ruiwu was a famous playboy. He completely led Lu Xiaoman into bad ways. Under his deception, Lu Xiaoman followed Weng Ruiwu and smoked heavily.
Xu Zhimo was very angry when he found out. Unexpectedly, Lu Xiaoman, who once had noble hobbies, would play mahjong and smoke cigarettes. The couple began to quarrel over this. At this time, Lu Xiaoman began to suffer from princess disease again. , she believed that as long as you love me, you should follow me in everything, which resulted in the breakdown of their relationship. In 1931, Xu Zhimo took a plane to attend Lin Huiyin's lecture. The plane crashed on the way and Xu Zhimo was killed.
After Xu Zhimo passed away, Lu Xiaoman became more obsessed with smoking in order to numb himself, and even got together with his close friend Weng Ruiwu. Everyone was not optimistic about Weng Ruiwu. Hu Shi once said to Lu Xiaoman: "As long as you are with her Weng Ruiwu cut off contact. I will be responsible for everything in the future?, but she was rejected by Lu Xiaoman. Lu Xiaoman lived with Weng Ruiwu for more than 20 years, but Weng Ruiwu did not give her a status.
In 1953, Weng Ruiwu's first wife passed away, and he officially married Lu Xiaoman. Although Lu Xiaoman had a more self-indulgent personality, Weng Ruiwu still cared about Lu Xiaoman as always and followed her in everything.
In 1965, Lu Xiaoman passed away at the age of 63. Before his death, Lu Xiaoman left a last wish, hoping to be buried with her husband Xu Zhimo after his death. But no one claimed the urn after her death. Why? Because in order to marry Xu Zhimo, she secretly went to a German clinic to abort the child in her belly without telling Xu Zhimo and Wang Geng. She suffered sequelae, lost her fertility, and had no heirs to support her until her death. In addition, She had cut off contact with her family in order to marry Xu Zhimo, and later she smoked heavily, which completely disappointed her family. In 1988, 23 years after Lu Xiaoman's death, her cousin funded the construction of a mausoleum for her, allowing Lu Xiaoman to be laid to rest.