People who read a lot often carry some bookish spirit with them. This is self-effacing.
people who have experienced a lot often have a little calmness on their bodies. This is the calmness that experience brings you.
people who travel a lot often have some vitality and tolerance. This is the vision and mind that the journey brings to you.
The books you have read, the roads you have traveled, the things you have experienced and the world you have seen will all become bits and pieces condensed on you, shaping you into who you are now.
That's why some people look so special even though their facial features are not outstanding, while some people always feel that they are empty and ugly when they are obviously good-looking.
Sister Tong knows that you must have heard the above words countless times, and you must have already understood the importance of temperament cultivation for a person.
Sister Tong knows better that if you love learning, you must have read a lot of books about temperament cultivation and many tweets about how to improve your temperament, and you must be curious, why can't you see your temperament advantage when walking with friends or taking group photos?
This is because most articles on the Internet are produced by my assembly line with a monthly salary of 5, yuan. They are only willing to cheat traffic with general articles, and they don't really want to teach you this.
And how can the true meaning of temperament cultivation and what girls from rich families have to learn become materials that the public can easily obtain?
What's more, we need to spend a lot of material cost and time cost to learn things taught by noble schools, such as manners, etiquette, equestrian, fencing and so on.
However, Sister Tong found that there are still some things. As long as you are pointed in the right direction, you can cultivate your temperament better than ordinary people at a small cost.
1.? Manner adjustment
Manner is really an indispensable part of a person's temperament, which can be described as the most important.
it is hard for us to imagine that a person with bad manners can have a good temperament. See great powers and Liu Shishi.
Sister Tong suggested that you should start with learning dance and social etiquette, which can get twice the result with half the effort.
Learning to dance:
Learning to dance is really not an easy task as an adult. You need to stick to it for a long time, and you will find that if you don't go to a class, you will easily miss it. And it is not particularly cost-effective to hire a professional manners teacher.
Therefore, Sister Tong doesn't suggest that you go directly to a professional dance class.
If you are a boy, you can go to the gym more, have a good figure, and hold your head high, and you have already succeeded in manners more than half.
Girls can sign up for a soft ballet class or a yoga class. This kind of class is generally amateur and inexpensive. It is very good for posture optimization. Don't think that you can't practice ballet when you are old. There are plenty of big sisters in your 4 s and 5 s in your class, and there is a high probability that you will meet a very handsome teacher. Usually, if you exercise, the muscles you exercise will grow outwards, while the ballet soft meeting will make your muscles wrapped in long bones and strip-shaped muscles, which looks slender (as the teacher said, it has not been verified).
if you want to improve your self-confidence, I suggest you learn Latin dance. The passion of Latin dance can teach you how to show feminine charm.
Social etiquette:
People in China eat together on many important things, so the importance of dining etiquette goes without saying.
Sister Tong recommends that you go online and have a look at the precautions in this respect, and don't be too informal, especially for girls.
elegant eating and thoughtful care at the table can really reflect a lot of things.
Innocent and free-spirited personality and poor manners are two different things.
Sister Tong even heard a friend talk about how to quickly judge the overall situation of others, that is, to eat hard-to-chew and hard-to-peel things like lobsters and crabs together and see how he eats them.
There are many things that you can ignore, and others may not care too much. But if you surprise others, others will remember you.
Business negotiation, private dating, getting together with friends, how to dress, how to give gifts and how to take care of visitors all have deep knowledge. Young people who have just entered the workplace really don't know much about these things, but big bosses do. Therefore, if you can do everything in these areas, you have surpassed many people.
2.? Makeup clothes
clothes can highlight a person's taste. If you want to make yourself look more elegant, you can try to change your dress first, which will gradually affect your words and deeds.
For boys, Sister Tong suggested that they should be neat and generous. Don't wear a big LOGO, wear more black, white, gray and solid colors, look at the wearing guide a little and avoid minefields. Sister Tong once met several young people, dressed exquisitely and wearing woolen coats with good materials, but they didn't take off their armbands.
simply recommend several brands: Burberry, Fred Perry, Massino Dutti and Tommy Hilfiger. From quality to daily life.
of course, you can also choose clothes with similar styles to these brands.
business men can wear French shirts to enhance their sense of exquisiteness.
When girls wear light makeup, it is best to use earth tone eye shadow, and less other colorful colors.
When Sister Tong first learned to make up, she always liked to buy a full-color eye shadow tray with all colors. But later it was found that earth tone was the most used one, with light brown. Suitable for most occasions.
Besides, girls should not use too bright lipstick and too shiny lip gloss. Lip gloss, pouting lips, dating can be used, but not for work.
You can choose nude color and bean paste color according to your skin color.
We must pay attention to the matching of clothes, and choose clothes according to the occasion. Young girls can wear more beige and white to increase their vitality.
Sister Tong doesn't advise you to wear clothes with too high color saturation, and pay more attention to the texture of clothes. You can try pearl accessories.
if you are over 3, recommend European and American brands and wear less Japanese and Korean brands.
wear less stilettos and more stilettos.
pay attention to body management.
3.? Voice modification
Whether the voice is good or not is a subjective feeling, and having a good voice can give people a special feeling just like the way of speaking.
If you are not a professional announcer, you can modify your voice in the following ways to make others sound more pleasant:
Change the pronunciation position:
Most people usually pronounce with the throat. Girls can try adding a little nasal sound to your voice, which will make your voice more slender and gentle. It's a bit similar to the pronunciation position of Hong Kong and Taiwan accent, but it's easy to feel artificial if you don't learn the intonation.
Adjust your speaking speed:
It will give people a sense of stability and elegance to change from being anxious to being methodical and unhurried. People are more expensive than words. Speaking slowly can make people feel that you are steady and have quality from the senses.
Pay attention to your tone of voice:
No matter whether your voice is good or not, if your tone of voice is particularly mild, it will also give people the feeling that this person is very polite and nice, and make people feel that you are polite as a whole.
I believe everyone has this feeling. In a word, said in a different tone, it can produce completely different effects.
everything you say is a breath, so why not say it well?
In fact, there are not many people whose voices are particularly unpleasant. These three methods may not make you soar from 5 to 1, but it is very possible to rise from 5 to 75 or even 85.
4.? Artistic accomplishment
Reading:
Sister Tong likes reading very much since she was a child, perhaps influenced by her family. Reading has become as common as eating and dressing.
If you want to improve your elegance, you can read more books on humanities and social sciences, especially history books. (Reply to the "Temperament Book List" backstage, and you can get a required reading list of humanities and social sciences compiled by Sister Tong, and each book is accompanied by the reasons recommended by Sister Tong)
Reading more famous books and seeing more knowledge in various fields can broaden your horizons. We all know that the choice at key points in life is very important, and sometimes it is your view of the world and your vision that determines a person's choice.
Sister Tong wants to say one more thing about reading. Even now, many people on the Internet are promoting one hundred books and three hundred books a year. I suggest you don't learn. Many books can be simply flipped through, and you can throw them away without wasting this time.
those good books, I suggest you read them intensively. Good sentences, you can recite them.
So, one for each Harle, and then tell this book to others, this book will internalize into your blood.
Art:
I have already said how to learn dance.
I also want to suggest that you learn calligraphy or Chinese painting. Calligraphy can learn from Yan Zhenqing's regular script (magnificent, and girls' learning style is very special), and Wang Xizhi's small script and running script (neutral beauty and high style).
Don't learn the popular Jianghu style in Weibo, Tik Tok. Calligraphy needs hard work.
Sister Tong has never learned Chinese painting, so I won't start it here.
Of course, you can also learn tea ceremony, piano, guzheng, violin and any other art you are interested in.
Interest is the best teacher. Learning an art can help you not feel lonely when you are alone.
Sister Tong has personally studied calligraphy and dancing for many years, and likes traveling. She has studied simple photography skills to help me discover the beauty in life. Know about teapot, love to collect Pu 'er and white tea. Usually having tea with three or five friends will make me feel relaxed and comfortable.
5.? Aesthetic cultivation
Aesthetics is a person's sensibility to beautiful things, as well as his ability to judge and appreciate beauty.
At present, there are many people who may get rich overnight, and there are also many people who have deep attainments in a certain field. But none of this can explain how high this person's aesthetic level is.
clothes, conversation, living habits, eyes, personal experiences, knowledge, etc. all of these finally converge to one point, which is a person's aesthetic embodiment.
Therefore, it is difficult for us to see how good the aesthetic ability of a person with low cultural accomplishment is, and it is also difficult to see that the aesthetic level of a person with high cultural accomplishment will be poor.
It is difficult to cultivate aesthetics, but there are some rules:
Visual accumulation:
Usually, I watch more art-related things, such as art exhibitions, art exhibitions and aesthetic-related movies, and establish my own aesthetic attitude in works of art. In short, look more at beautiful things, and your aesthetic level will naturally improve.
Get in touch with the top things:
If conditions permit, we can travel to some developed countries, feel the fusion of modern charm and classicality in an international metropolis, buy the clothes of big-name designers, or watch the show of big-name designers and appreciate the photography works of the best photographers. The first-class things can often give you the first-class aesthetic experience.
See the world more:
Experience more things and see more beautiful and advanced things. In fact, learning some artistic skills is the fastest way to shape aesthetic ability, because people who study art often have a more sensitive perception of beauty.
Keep a rich imagination:
Many arts in the world are interlinked. Through imagination, we can feel the connection between different art forms, such as the relationship between impressionist paintings and impressionist music. When we listen to Debussy's Moonlight, is it a wonderful experience to feel the dim moonlight spread on the water in impressionist paintings?
Conclusion:
With the increase of age, the beauty becomes thinner and thinner, and the temperament will last for a long time in Mika.
In fact, there are many details in life. As long as you pay attention, you will find knowledge everywhere.
For example, when you are at home, you can make your home clean and tidy. Eating healthy food, keeping regular work and rest, forming the habit of fitness, organizing a game with some friends at home on weekends, and climbing mountains in the suburbs with your family in spring can all make you and your life better.
For people, no matter who they are, don't climb high and tread low, don't flatter them, keep an indifferent heart and be yourself.
the so-called phase is born from the heart, that's all.