Author: Insight RDJ
The world belongs to you and has nothing to do with others.
Plato said in "The Republic":
"What we are always looking for is what we already have; we are always looking around, only missing what we want. , This is the reason why we have been unable to achieve what we want so far. ”
In this complicated world, only the wise will survive.
We must understand that the real troubleshooter in this world is ourselves.
01
There is this sentence in "Banshan Collected Works":
"It is better to read a favorite book ten times than to read a hundred books;
It is better to reflect on your own life experience than to read a book ten times.
It is better to read yourself than to read a book.
Live clearly. People often know themselves through experience and become themselves through reflection.
Before the age of 32, Lin Qingxuan had won all literary awards in Taiwan and became the editor-in-chief of "China Times".
He gradually became more and more uninhibited while busy.
At that time, he had a good relationship with Gu Long and often asked him for manuscripts.
However, the manuscript was only given after the cologne. Lin Qingxuan also liked to drink, so the two often competed with each other on their drinking capacity, and even poured Shaoxing old wine into the basin to compete with each other.
However, the bustling days are always short-lived.
Lin Qingxuan's life changed one after another: his wife ran away from home, and his friend Gu Long also passed away from cirrhosis of the liver...
He was discouraged and planned to re-examine himself and reflect on life.
He resolutely quit his job, went to the mountains to practice meditation, and stayed with himself. After nearly three years, he returned to the world.
He said that after this period of self-examination, his heart has become calmer and fuller, and he can face changes in the world more calmly.
Speaking of drinking, he also changed his usual habit of drinking heavily, believing that "a small drink" is the best way to drink.
Socrates once said: "The unexamined life is not worth living."
Smart people will see their own shortcomings, and stupid people will only see their own shortcomings. advantage.
02
I read a sentence in a book: "See the direction clearly through self-examination, and move forward bravely in uncertainty."
Dare to break through your own limits The ceiling can complete the gorgeous transformation.
When I was staying at home due to the epidemic last year, I watched a documentary called "How Chinese Live."
In one episode, the protagonist named Kong Longzhen is a truck driver who loves painting.
He loved painting since he was a child, but the school did not offer art classes, so his parents felt that what was not taught in the school was evil.
Due to his rebellious period and poor academic performance, he dropped out of school at the age of 15 and successively drove a taxi, a minibus, and a truck.
At the moment of life and death in a car accident, he just realized:
"If I don't have to draw to realize the value of my life, I really can't find the faith to support my struggle."
After the ordeal, he put his drawing board and brushes directly in the cab. While waiting for the goods and between driving, he seized every opportunity to draw.
In the morning when inspiration strikes, he will even cancel his car plans and immerse himself in creation.
Sometimes when faced with the question "What can a truck driver who has not graduated from junior high school draw draw?", he laughs it off.
He didn’t know what the painting would look like, he just wanted to stick to his beliefs.
Until 2015, Kong Longzhen’s works were exhibited at the “Conner International Art Exhibition” in Denmark.
It is worth mentioning that this is the fourth Chinese invited to participate in the exhibition after Xu Beihong, Qi Baishi and Ye Qianyu.
It is said that the biggest obstacle in life is yourself. Once you overcome it, everything will be smooth sailing.
It is easy to stay where you are, but those who insist on breaking through themselves will see more scenery.
True growth is to constantly become better than your past self.
In the movie "Beyond", Hao Chaoyue said this:
"Do you know what is the most wonderful thing about a hundred meters? After the gunshot, you are the only one left in the world. and the end."
03
The famous actor Yu Feihong once said:
"An independent and confident person will never put his life on others. It’s my own, so why rely on others for satisfaction?”
Once you live in the evaluation of others, it is the beginning of losing yourself.
Only by caring about your own feelings can you live your own trajectory.
As we all know, Ma Li is not a traditional beauty.
She had been anxious, fearing that others would mind the spots on her face and her lack of slender figure.
Even later, she worked hard to be what others wanted her to be, and lived her life exactly as others wanted her to be.
Even though "Charlotte" became a hit, she did not get rid of this mentality.
At a film and television meeting, a fan pointed out: "You are too fat, you should lose weight."
Ma Li listened and really lost weight to size S. down to double digits.
But everyone has already assumed that she is a "female man", so when she released the real photos, two voices emerged.
One voice complained about her "too much P-pictures", and another voice reminded her, "Don't be too beautiful. If you are too beautiful, you won't be funny."
She Finally, I discovered that it is difficult to reach the hearts of a thousand people, and it is difficult to mobilize a large population.
Since it is impossible to satisfy everyone, it is better to be happy yourself.
In 2018, despite objections from her agency, relatives and friends, she still insisted on cutting her hair short:
“I used to live for others, but starting this year, I decided to live for myself. ."
She also filmed "Male Dressing" to show her charm and get rid of the label of being a comedian.
Not only that, she resolutely married her boyfriend who was 10 years younger than her. The two of them agreed not to care about the judgment of the outside world and concentrate on living their own little lives.
The world belongs to you and has nothing to do with others.
We don’t need to care about the opinions of onlookers. What we must learn is to appreciate ourselves.
I am reminded of Mr. Cai Lam’s classic philosophy of life:
“Compared with the entire universe, we are only a matter of a few decades and a moment. I hope I can be happier. I understood this truth when I was very young and have always pursued happiness. ”
The person who should please the most in everyone’s short life is themselves.
Only by mastering the art of pleasing yourself can you truly accept yourself and have a stronger heart.
Writer Feng Tang once said:
“Only by having the courage to be yourself, the courage to express yourself, and the courage to please yourself can you stand firm in this chaotic world. Take your own position and live your own life.
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Like it, live the way you like, and live the life you want.