May didn't attend the high school reunion last weekend as usual, which is the third time since she gave birth to a child.
May left a message in a group of friends, saying that because the baby was going to attend calligraphy and dance training on the weekend, the exam was about to be critical, and she could only apologize for failing to keep the appointment.
Everyone also expressed their understanding of this. During the dinner, when connected with May video, May panted and told everyone that the child had just attended dance training and was on his way to piano training.
As far as I can remember, after giving birth to the child, Amy gave up her job decisively and devoted herself to the care of the child's growth. In a recent conversation, Amy said that being with children every day is basically overloaded.
In order to let the children get ahead from childhood, Amy arranged almost all the talents she could think of, such as children's oral English, calligraphy, painting, etc ..... So, in addition to taking care of the children's diet and daily life, Amy kept shuttling between these interest training institutions.
Looking forward to Jackie Chan is undoubtedly the common wish of parents. I believe that there are not a few parents who share the same parenting concept with Mei in real life. However, when a child's young mind is expected too much by his parents, will he or she grow up happily? What adverse effects will the "sprint" educational guidance mode chosen by parents bring to their children's growth?
Overloaded education will bring many adverse effects to children and deprive them of the growth happiness they should enjoy;
Childhood should be a happy and carefree time for children. However, when parents are so eager for their children to succeed at this stage that they are forced to accept all kinds of overloaded educational guidance, the happy time that originally belonged to children's play will be replaced by endless pressure, and the unique happiness that belongs to children's childhood will be mercilessly deprived.
Overloaded education is easy to cause children's bad psychological problems;
Moderate pressure can be transformed into a driving force for children's progress, while excessive pressure will make children feel at a loss, fall into deep anxiety, and even fall into self-doubt because parents have too many expectations that they can't achieve well.
Therefore, when parents overload their children in the process of their growth, in addition to anxiety, they may even lead to a series of bad psychological problems such as inferiority and loneliness.
Overloaded education can easily lead to children's dissatisfaction with their parents.
While other children are enjoying happy play time, they are dominated by all kinds of overloaded studies arranged by their parents; When other children are taken to playgrounds and aquariums for entertainment by their parents on weekends, they shuttle through various training courses under the shuttle of their parents.
Such an unequal arrangement will make children feel unhappy, which will lead to dissatisfaction with their parents. If this kind of dissatisfaction accumulates in children's hearts for a long time, it will even become the fuse to induce the deterioration of parent-child relationship.
It can be seen that the real long-term consideration for children is not enough to realize short-term "competitive" crazy education. On the contrary, it needs a step-by-step "marathon" scientific guidance. On the contrary, it will give children more time to know the world more accurately. "Rome was not built in a day; Water drops wear the stone, not the force of dripping. " The Excellence of children is by no means an overnight event, nor is it a short-term lead under the guidance of parents' "competition", but the ultimate champion that lasts for a long time.
Children's Excellence is accumulated over time, and appropriate study plans are made according to their age;
"When the water is full, it will overflow, and the monthly profit will be lost." The same is true of education in the process of children's growth. Therefore, in the process of children's growth, parents should not arrange overloaded learning tasks for their children.
According to children's actual age, combined with children's cognitive level of things, make a set of learning plans that are easy to be accepted by children and suitable for children, and encourage children to grow up step by step.
Knowing the new and not forgetting the old, let children understand the importance of accumulation.
There is a saying in the Analects of Confucius: "Review the past and learn the new", which shows that the acquisition of new knowledge cannot be separated from the review of old knowledge. Therefore, when guiding children to master new knowledge points, don't neglect to encourage children to review the knowledge points they have mastered.
The Excellence of children is not a short-term cluster, but a long-term accumulation. Therefore, in the process of children's growth, parents should also consciously guide their children to understand the importance of daily accumulation, so that children can make accumulation a habit in their daily life and study.
In addition to following the principle of gradual education, let children understand the importance of accumulation in the process of education and guidance for their growth, parents should also pay attention to the following points in order to make long-term plans for their healthy physical and mental growth.
Pay attention to the cultivation of children's self-confidence;
As the saying goes, "self-confidence is half the battle", a child without self-confidence will be timid in doing anything in the process of growing up, lacking the courage to take the first step, thus missing many opportunities and getting farther and farther away from success.
Therefore, in the process of children's growth, parents must pay attention to the cultivation of children's self-confidence. For example, they should praise and encourage children's good things in time, and don't criticize and blame children's inappropriate things. They should help their children improve under patient guidance.
Do not neglect the cultivation of children's "adversity quotient";
Emotional quotient determines how far a child can go, and "adversity quotient" determines how long a child can go. Therefore, in the process of children's growth, parents must not ignore the cultivation of their children's "adversity quotient". When children encounter setbacks and failures in the process of growing up, as parents, they should first let their children know that this is a normal phenomenon in life, and at the same time encourage them to respond positively with patient guidance.
Only when children have a super adversity quotient can they calmly face any setbacks in life and face their own life with a positive and sunny attitude.
It is important for parents to be strict with themselves.
Children are the most intuitive shadow of their parents, and everything they say and do in the process of growing up will be subtly influenced by their parents' daily life. Therefore, for the sake of children's better growth, as parents, we must strictly restrain our words and deeds in our daily life and strive to set an excellent example for our children.
I hope that parents can realize the importance of long-term education in the process of educating their children, and don't bring many disadvantages to their children's growth because of rushing. I also hope that every baby can grow up healthily and healthily under the careful care of parents and the guidance of scientific education concept.