around, I can often hear some parents' complaints:
"Our child said last week that he liked painting, but after signing up for her class, he began to lose interest."
"It's the same in our family. It's said that dancing is so tiring and hard that I don't want to practice."
"Our family is crazy about playing. We are uncertain, we can't sit still, and we don't know what he really likes."
In reality, most parents have been faced with such a situation, and they are eager to spend all their money to help their children cultivate their interests, but children often give up after three minutes of enthusiasm.
children, especially if they are not supervised and forced, will easily give up things that require long-term investment and choose the simplest, happiest and most indulgent way.
How to keep children interested and "keep warm" for three minutes has become a difficult problem for parents. In fact, as long as you master the method, interest can be cultivated. Doing these things may be difficult for your child to give up.
First, be patient and persistent
Children are curious about anything new, and three minutes of enthusiasm is normal. As an ordinary family does not have strong economic strength, it is not worth the effort to let them try and make mistakes. It is a better way to stimulate their interest from the depth.
When they encounter difficulties, experience failures and become emotionally unstable, fidgety, cringe and give up, parents should patiently build a harmonious family atmosphere, and help their children to stabilize their emotions, build their self-confidence and overcome the immediate obstacles by telling stories.
Many adults may not find their own interests in their lifetime. If you are lucky enough to have found your baby's interests, please give your support and encouragement. You might as well let go and let them go, and you may get unexpected results.
second, let children taste the sweetness
A sense of achievement is one of the key factors for children to persist in their hobby learning. If a child who learns Go always loses chess, his enthusiasm will be dampened, but if he is allowed to lose and win, the situation will be very different. Therefore, parents initially play chess with their children, simply let him take a few steps first, and then compete fairly after his chess skills improve; In addition, every step, don't rush the child, inspire or give some positive hints, so that he can achieve the happiness of an epiphany. This sweetness must be tasted by him. Gradually, children not only like playing chess, but also can treat failure peacefully.
Third, sustained development, a breakthrough
I saw a news before that Liu Yifan, a sixth-grade student, won the first prize of the brush in the primary school group of the "Maliang Cup" National Children's Painting and Calligraphy Competition.
She started practicing calligraphy at the age of six. She said, "I didn't know much about calligraphy at first, but I saw the calligraphy teacher's handwriting was beautiful, so I wanted to learn it, and I fell in love with it when I wrote it." Because she likes it, she works hard. She will practice calligraphy persistently every day and copy the works of the master. Her handwriting is getting better and better. She said, "She is slowly praised by more and more classmates and teachers, and she has a sense of accomplishment and the motivation to continue practicing."
Interest helps them invest, investment helps them achieve, and achievement turns into motivation, which becomes a virtuous circle and keeps breaking through.
Of course, children's self-discipline in Liu Yifan may be very rare. As parents, we should not expect their children to be conscious. Even if they are interested, they may slowly spend their time in the boring future. At this time, appropriate coercion is essential. Remember, sometimes Excellence is forced out. In order to maintain a sustained interest and make a breakthrough in interest, it is a shortcut to maintain a certain frequency and practice hard, and the moderate persecution of parents is the catalyst.