A parent said: This article has changed my mind a lot. I only regret reading it too late: Take your time, son. You are unique and different, and you have the right to use your thoughts to dominate your growth.
Take your time, son. Spring blossoms, autumn bears fruit, and maturity takes time. The lives of prodigies and superman are not always ahead.
Life is not a sprint, nor a middle-distance race, but a marathon-no one has ever rushed to run a marathon, because they will never "lose at the starting line".
So son, you must take your time! Let the children grow up slowly, which is probably the most urgent and last thing to do at present.
1, don't let the child run in the wrong direction.
Let children learn in advance to avoid "losing at the starting line".
However, illegal learning will eventually bring not only the speed of the game, but also the problem of deviation or retrogression.
Children have their own growth rules.
For example, when you are 3 years old, you will have intuitive thinking, and when you are 5 years old, you will have image thinking. Children in large classes will begin to sprout logical thinking, and 8- 12 years old is the best memory period.
"Let imaginative and creative children remember Chinese characters and recite the addition within 100. Although he doesn't understand, he can do it. What are the consequences? The imaginary space is full of solidified knowledge. "
A study shows that children who know more Chinese characters before school will be ahead of other children in the first grade.
2, but in the second grade, the level is the same as other children.
Taking painting as an example, only 8-year-old children can observe copying from the perspective of adults. Before that, children's painting was only the self-expression of intuitive thinking. Let children learn painting skills and tell them that the sun should be round and the clouds should be white.
Not to mention that this is a curb on imagination, at least it is a waste of time. "Art education suffers greatly from the pre-test education in society. 8 strokes of apples, a few strokes of color, the purpose is for the exam. "
Fang Xiaofeng, a professor at Tsinghua Academy of Fine Arts, said at an academic conference that the direct consequence is that students have strong fund-raising ability and weak expression ability, and of course they can't produce a master.
Experts in preschool education say that many children now start to learn roller skating at the age of three. In fact, the child's bones have not developed well, and roller skating will hurt the body.
The same is true of learning ballet too early, which is a challenge to children's periosteum and so on. The mission of the interest class is to send children to famous schools. Children are versatile, but they don't like their hobbies.
"Many piano 10 children swear never to touch the piano again. They don't think music is a lifelong companion because music takes away their playing time. " A teacher who specializes in teaching piano said helplessly. "Sometimes parents kill their children's interest just because they are too early and too anxious."
Gao, the headmaster of Times Primary School, told a student's personal experience.
"When the child came to sign up, he asked me, do you want to learn the Olympics in your school? I said no.
She clapped her hands and said, great, I want to throw up when I hear the Olympic math.
In junior high school, the teacher discovered her talent in mathematics and began to expose her to Olympic mathematics. Finally, the child was fascinated by the Olympic Mathematics and won the grand prize. "
A group of children from Zhejiang province who also studied Olympic Mathematics participated in the international Olympic Mathematical Competition and won the first prize. After Jae Yu came back, the deputy director of the Education Department in charge of basic education asked the children to talk about their feelings. A child said, "I will never touch the Olympiad again in my life."
The educational circles have realized the serious consequences of advanced education and intensive education. A few years ago, the Ministry of Education published the Guide to Learning and Development for Children Aged 3-6 for public consultation.
The guide specifically lists the learning and development goals of children of all ages. For example, preschool children aged 5-6 only need to "add and subtract within 10 by physical operation or other methods", and it is not indicated that children of this age must read.
It can only be said that "I am interested in writing symbols in reading and living situations, and I know that words represent certain meanings".
Experts believe that the main purpose of the "Guide" is to curb "pulling out seedlings to encourage".
In fact, in many countries, higher education is forbidden.
Scholar Yang Peichang wrote, "The German Constitution forbids preschool education, so don't treat children's brains as hard disks".
He said that many countries in Europe have similar legislation, and Germany even wrote this article into the Basic Law, prohibiting parents from making up lessons for their children outside kindergarten teaching. "It is very inhuman to let children enter the fast-running channel from the beginning."
The father of the 8-year-old said that education in Germany is gradually accelerating: kindergartens do not learn professional knowledge, but only teach some basic moral norms and learn to get along with people. The important task is to have fun;
Primary schools only learn some very simple knowledge (for primary schools in China), and middle schools begin to enter the running channel, but they still jog.
Because there is no unified college entrance examination in Germany, the pressure on students is not too great. When I went to college and became a real adult, I began to enter the fast-running channel.
At this time, there was finally competition, and everyone's differences appeared.
"Now our problem is to run in a hurry. Kindergarten learns primary school things, primary school goes to middle school, and when you go to college, you have to make up for what kindergarten should learn, such as behavior habits and character cultivation. " Feng Gang said, "The typical sesame is lost and the watermelon is lost."
These high-scoring children who came out of the exam-oriented education, "when they arrived at the university, they suddenly didn't have to take the exam and had no sense of direction."
Ni Mingjiang, then executive vice president of Zhejiang University, described this state as an "astronaut".
He said that these "favored children" have two problems. First, they are used to following exams and leaving papers, and they don't seem to know how to learn new knowledge; Second, the dependence of thinking, a considerable number of students are used to doing rather than asking why;
Accustomed to being instructed to do rather than taking the initiative; Accustomed to doing under good conditions rather than creating conditions to do it.
"In high school, students were tied with 10 rope. They can't put all this 10 rope up at once as soon as they arrive at the university, which will make them feel at a loss. We must try to put them in one by one. "
"If you start from kindergarten and need to run in kindergartens and primary and secondary schools in 12 for several years, then you will be exhausted when you arrive at the university, and everyone wants to have a rest.
6. What kind of people should education cultivate?
Case introduction:
A, Male: 18 years old was admitted to the Department of Physics of Peking University, and after graduation, he entered the Department of Physics and Astronomy of the University of Iowa for postgraduate study. 28-year-old, obtained a doctorate through defense. ......
B, boys: children of poor farmers, admitted to provincial key high schools with excellent results. During high school, he was rated as a provincial three-good student and won the second prize of the National Physics Olympiad. Later, he was admitted to a provincial key university to study biotechnology. ......
C, boys: excellent physical education in junior high school, long-distance running skills, entered key high schools, failed in freshman and seventh subjects, and dropped out. ......
D. girl: seven years old, divorced parents, living with her mother, with excellent grades and strong organizational skills. She successfully entered the provincial key high school and began to be the monitor from junior high school.
Until he graduated from high school, he was the best debater in the high school debate, an outstanding student cadre at the provincial level, and had a harmonious relationship with his classmates and teachers. He was admitted to Macau University of Science and Technology. ......
E, boy: at the age of 4, he was elected as the ambassador for the Olympic bid; He studied piano at the age of 4 and studied under Han Jianming, a famous piano professor at the Central Conservatory of Music.
At the age of 8, he studied calligraphy and studied under Tsinghua University Fang Wenzhi; He won numerous awards, joined the national ice hockey team at the age of 10, attended the high school attached to the National People's Congress and studied in the United States. ......
Q: Which of these students do you like best? Arrange them according to your preference? Why? What angle are they arranged at?
These people are real cases, this is just a brief introduction, and there is one more thing to explain:
This is just an example, not all people who have experienced this are like this. We just use these cases to illustrate the problem we want to explain.
The first person is Lu Gang:
19911Lu Gang, a China-born doctoral student studying at the University of Iowa in the United States, shot and killed three professors and vice president Ann Clairey, and Shanlinhua, a China student who received her doctorate with Lu Gang.
After shooting five people, Lu Gang immediately shot himself on the spot.
The second place is Ma Jiajue.
The third place is Han Han.
The fourth is about a student in a key middle school in our province.
This is a real case, a very excellent girl with strong organizational skills, good at getting along with people and good popularity.
She is recognized as a good student by all the teachers and parents in the school. At that time, she graduated from high school, and her mother made a speech in the whole school as the parents of outstanding graduates.
No one thought that, in the eyes of outsiders, this excellent child actually committed suicide by jumping off a building.
The news spread to schools, children's teachers, principals, etc. They all felt that their education was a failure.
The fifth is Li Shuangjiang's son Li Tianyi.
7. Answer a few questions first:
1, why should we have children?
2. As parents, what kind of children do we need?
3. What kind of education should we give our children? That is, what is the most important education for children? Or what is the core of education?
4. What is the education that children lack most at present?
It is every parent's wish to make children happy, but in the process of children's growth, with the continuous expansion of our utilitarian heart, we entrust our unfinished wishes to our children and let them complete them for you;
Because your work is not satisfactory, you must let your children surpass you in the future;
When you see your neighbor's children admitted to a key high school, you are busy applying for an Olympic math class for your children, and when you see your colleague's children admitted to Tsinghua, you are busy looking for a teacher to help your children.
Let children lose their childhood, happiness, freedom and health, and finally be overwhelmed, and take the most extreme approach: destroy themselves! By that time, it will be too late to regret everything!
Therefore, it is our hope that children will grow up happily and healthily, so it doesn't matter how well they do in the exam!
Let children cherish life, not only their own life, but also the lives of others, so living is the most beautiful thing. No matter what kind of things are compared with life, everything is a "floating cloud". The most important thing is to live a healthy and happy life, so the ultimate goal of education is to cultivate a sound personality.
The most important thing for us is to cultivate a person with a sound personality who can face the society alone. This should be the bottom line and the most basic.
Then, according to the children's own abilities, they can realize their self-worth and make greater contributions to society.
Finally, I would like to share with you a passage by Zhang Quanling, a famous CCTV host, in Weibo as an encouragement:
"Take care of yourself, don't give your child any trouble when you are old. Educate your children well, and don't give trouble to the society when you are old. "