When you meet people, it is important to know each other, and your heart is not rebellious, so that friendship will last forever.
Meeting is fate, and there are good and evil in fate. Good fate should be guarded by heart, and bad fate should be resolved as soon as possible.
People who consume you, no matter how good the relationship is, no matter how much you like it, you should stay away.
I won't tolerate those who abandon me.
The ancients asked, "How can you repay evil with good?"
Palliative will breed traitors, and those who leave Germany have to guard against it.
There is a saying that being kind to bad people means being cruel to yourself, which I deeply agree with.
Rhododendron is widely known, but little known is that it is also a kind of "parasitic bird".
Cuckoo will lay their eggs in other birds' nests and take the original eggs out of the nests and throw them away.
Other birds will unwittingly hatch their young for the cuckoo.
The hatched cuckoo will also rudely push other eggs and chicks out of the nest.
It was not until the cuckoo grew up that the "parasitic" birds realized that other people's children had worked hard to support themselves.
As the saying goes, "If you are not my race, your heart will be different."
The appearance of some people is bound to consume you.
You put a lot of energy, others may just take part in accidental amusement; You tried your best to be enthusiastic, but in the end you made a wedding dress for someone else.
A true friend is a hypocritical person who supports each other and never gives up. Once it has no use value, it will turn away from you.
Tao Te Ching said, "Those who know others are wise, and those who know themselves are clear."
When you get along with people, you must learn to read and read, and distinguish between good and evil.
People with ulterior motives will always give away the clues, so you must stay away as soon as possible.
People who disturb my heart are not afraid of coming.
Zhuangzi said: "The sorrow of the husband is greater than the death of the heart, followed by the death of the person."
It is easy to escape from external evils, but it is difficult to get rid of inner pain.
What is more terrible than physical death is sadness, discouragement and giving up.
Tao Yuanming, a great poet in the Eastern Jin Dynasty, wrote in his last poem "Give My Life":
"Life is so bitter, what is death?"
If a person regards death as a relief, it is conceivable that his life is not happy.
He is a gentleman who doesn't bow down for five buckets of rice. The result of being lofty to the bone is that a person can't bear the consequences at home.
He grows beans in Nanshan and picks chrysanthemums in the east fence. The bean field is barren and the chrysanthemums are bald, leaving him to laugh alone.
The world thought that he had escaped all the people and things that consumed his life, so he said, "Building a house is in the territory of the world, and there are no chariots and horses. What can you do? The heart is far from being biased. "
But I never thought that what he failed to escape after all was his deep sensitivity and fragility.
Laozi said: "Being good" is nothing more than the truth that "benevolence is beautiful" and "being close to sages and far from villains".
Moreover, he said: "Good heart" only requires us to cultivate an invincible heart.
Harmful people, sometimes even if they avoid it, will still burn scars in their hearts.
Learn to "live by its light, live by its dust", get along well, and live in harmony while being different, which is the person with realm.
Mind your own heart, those who consume you, please stay away.
In the Book of Changes, Gangua said, "Respond with one voice and seek the same spirit."
What kind of person you are, you will attract what kind of people, and you will be with what kind of people.
Life is alive, there is no need to invite everyone into your life.
You can meet people who have made you, but you can't ask them. When you meet them, you must cherish them.
People who consume you are not worth wasting your life. Remember to stay away as soon as possible!
You are good enough. You don't need a circle to prove anything.
I believe everyone knows that the circle is very important, but the circle that suits them is more important, which many people don't understand.
A circle that suits you is equivalent to what we often say about getting married. If you are too different from this circle, many times you will be humble inadvertently. You feel that everything is embarrassing, and everything seems to make you feel uncomfortable.
This circle is not suitable for you, maybe it is really excellent, and there are some people worthy of your admiration, but your identity has not matched it yet. Even if there is a good opportunity in front of you, you may not be able to seize it. What's more, many times people in the circle are not so easy to get along with. If you squeeze in, you will only get more rejections. In the eyes of others, you will look different and even be bullied unfairly.
"Birds of a feather flock together, birds of a feather flock together" is not only a plausible statement, but also more suitable for describing circles.
At school, students with good academic performance can always play with classmates with the same good academic performance, and naughty students can always play with naughty classmates. These are two completely different circles. It is difficult for a good student to study hard and blend into the circle of naughty students unless he is willing to give up studying. If he can't, he will only be laughed at and can't play together at all.
Don't look at other people's circles, you want to get involved, the topic is not in a channel, the thoughts are not together, people can squeeze in, but the heart is always excluded. When you want to squeeze into an inappropriate circle, have you ever wondered why you have to spend so much effort to squeeze? You have your own circle, where you can play freely, so why go to a circle that doesn't suit you?
Sometimes, even if there is no circle, a person is his own circle. Even if no one else is around you, you still have yourself. If the circles around you are not suitable for you, you might as well be yourself quietly. There's no need to waste so much time catering to others, you're still being pushed around.
In life, there are many kinds of circles, and there are many excellent circles. But you should know that if you don't have the same ability, even if you squeeze into a good circle, you won't be an excellent person. You don't have the ability to match, and you will always be an outsider in it. You don't understand what others say and do.
If you are poor, you have to squeeze into the circle of rich people. Only by pretending to be yourself and catering to others in various ways can you say a word occasionally in that circle. What others are exposed to is far from what you know, and you may not understand what others say. Isn't that asking for trouble? You are integrated into a circle of rich people, the purpose is obviously to improve yourself through these circles, but others don't know your purpose, how can you succeed easily?
We often say that the happiest thing in life is to get a bosom friend in your lifetime and meet people who share your interests. Indeed, when you are surrounded by people who share your thoughts, you can get help in many things, and what you say will be understood, understood and even listened to. This is the circle you should have the most. This circle really suits you.
There is an old saying: "It takes hard work to strike while the iron is hot." A person is already excellent, so there is no need to worry about not having an excellent circle around him, let alone squeezing his head into a circle that is not suitable for him. If you are good enough, there will naturally be many people around you to cater to you, and the sovereignty of choice is in your hands. Therefore, it is not suitable for your own circle, don't push hard, and try to be yourself. When you are fragrant, the butterfly will come.
Text/Yang Puyi