Parents' answers seem official, and they are also thinking of their children from their own perspective, but can children really fall in love when they grow up? Can you really be a partner? Facts are often realistic and cruel!
"When you were young, the two brothers grew up to be strangers."
This proverb actually illustrates the present situation of most brothers and sisters. Take the example around me. Some time ago, when I was drinking with a friend, she talked about the recent situation of her brother and sister, which deeply moved me.
"I once said that I am a good brother and sister. My parents died in an accident, and my brother never cared about me again! "
As mothers, we both thought it was not easy to raise children. I don't know when it started, and the topic began to favor the friendship between brothers and sisters. For the first time, we talked about her pain and made her cry.
My friend is born after 90. She is sentimental and wants to get closer to her brother, but the reality is cruel. My brother always said that he was far away and busy, and he didn't want to associate with himself at all, which made her feel very lost and couldn't help but feel sad.
In fact, I believe many people feel the same way about what she said. When I was a child, everyone grabbed something to eat together. Those happy years seem to be just around the corner, but now our brothers and sisters have become strangers. Most people may not be able to overcome this sudden change.
However, many people are now facing this cruel reality. When parents are alive, children can go home to see their parents together, because parents, brothers and sisters will also contact each other. After the parents left, brothers and sisters all had their own lives, and no one had time to take care of each other, and there was less contact.
So how to improve the relationship between brothers and sisters has become an aspect that parents pay more attention to now. I believe that as parents, we don't want our children to become the most familiar strangers in the future.
Therefore, we should learn from the past and instill some brotherly thoughts in children when they are still young, so that they can love each other more in the future.
First, let children strive to enhance their personal values.
If you want to make the other person willing to associate with you, you must first improve your personal value.
Although we all say that blood is the closest relative, when there is a conflict of interest, it may still affect brotherhood. The so-called brothers settle accounts clearly, even if the other person is your relative, it is impossible to say things entirely by past feelings.
After the death of parents, what really keeps the two families in touch is mainly their own personal value. If you say that you are doing well, you will naturally attract others. But if you usually borrow money from your brothers and sisters, then of course others are afraid to associate.
Second, let the children meet as often as possible.
Why do you feel close when you are young, but not so close when you grow up? The reason is that we meet less.
Some people may go home for the New Year when they grow up. When their parents are alive, their brothers and sisters will go home once a year. After parents leave, we don't have to get together, and we don't have to take vacations for years. In this case, the frequency of meeting is less, and of course the feelings will naturally fade.
In order to avoid this situation, parents can let their children meet as much as possible, and they don't have to get together. You can also enhance your feelings through video calling or chatting, which is also very helpful for the feelings between brothers and sisters.
Third, try to be equal and not biased.
There are also some brothers and sisters who choose not to contact each other when their parents die. In fact, part of the reason is that they or the other party have accumulated grievances for a long time.
For example, some families will have a serious preference for sons or an eccentric second child. Maybe children have their own ideas, but because their parents are still alive, they don't want to be too obvious. When parents die, neglected children will want to cut off contact.
Therefore, in order to avoid this situation, parents should treat each other equally from the beginning, and should not be partial to one side, let alone partial. Let children feel that everyone is equal and taken care of by their parents, then there will be no gap between brothers and sisters, and their feelings will naturally be closer.
What does it have to do with children in the future? This actually depends on the parents' initial practice. If the children are left alone by their parents when they are young, and the brothers are estranged, then when they grow up, it is very likely that their feelings will fade and they will gradually lose contact. Therefore, parents should do a good job in education, effectively improve the relationship between children, and let children really have a care and a companion in the future.
We all hope that our children will be a loving family in the future. No matter what the parents' reasons are, we also hope that they can support each other and accompany each other, but the parents' hope is only hope, and the children's real inner thoughts may not even be understood by their parents.
In order for children to become companions in the future, parents should educate their children from an early age, let them have very deep feelings, and make contact with each other a habit in their lives, then the brotherhood between children will continue.
Comment Director: Almighty Hot Mom
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