First, the problem of food and clothing has not been solved. Some of them are people who have returned to poverty due to illness. They used to live a normal life. Because of serious illness and chronic illness, they can't afford medical expenses, borrow money everywhere and live a hungry life. Such people will be more and more unhappy.
Second: because of the idea of comparing with others, their desires are not satisfied, and these people are increasingly unhappy, and their desires are difficult to fill!
Third, the distribution of public resources is unfair and the stratum is solidified. The rich are getting richer and the poor are getting poorer, which also makes some people feel less and less happy.
This is my own opinion, thank you for reading, goodbye.
Now, people realize that they are too busy. In order to compete for money, I went to Shenzhen twice a few years ago and found that people from all walks of life who work outside the home are very busy. There are happy smiles and busy ones. For example, although my sister doesn't come and go with me now because I believe in God, she still works on Sundays and goes home once a year to make a big gamble on money. Last time I introduced the gospel to my relatives, she came out to stop me. This is what happens to God who resists! In fact, as a sister, a friend and a relative, my heart is the same for them, just because I don't want people to come to God in the dark with joy. It is precisely because the people I contact are different from social people that all selfless love touched me. We generally choose ordinary people who are selfless in heart and sow the seeds of love to the world, so we are happy, happy and optimistic people. People can't be happy without God. Although I cried many times to bring people back to God's home, I know I am an ordinary person and a nobody, but I can change God. God knows my heart, God knows me, and God is my true confidant. I think God knows everything. I can't escape god's eyes. God likes innocent and lively people. "God said: At this time, a rational person, a person with normal human nature, will choose what to do and what to do to reverse his negative situation, so that he can have peace and joy in his heart and live in front of God.
What is happiness? Where did our happiness go? It is also a problem that everyone encounters at present. Let me elaborate on my views. From the planned economy before the reform and opening up to the market economy today, our life has undergone "earth-shaking" changes. Porridge and pickles have become exquisite delicacies. Low and shabby brick houses and thatched huts have become reinforced concrete tall buildings. Walking and cycling have become private cars shuttling through the streets. The shabby clothes and patches in the shopping center were replaced by a dazzling array of exquisite fashions. Ordinary people are rich, but many people say "I am not happy" and "I am not happy".
Where is our happiness? Why are we unhappy? What is happiness? Everyone's understanding of this problem may be different, and there will be various versions of the explanation. The so-called "thousands of people and thousands of faces" personal understanding, happiness, is a temporary or sustainable spiritual experience and emotional perception from the deep heart. It needs us to calm down and understand it with a peaceful and quiet heart that is indifferent to Zhi Ming.
China has a large population, so it is impossible for everyone to enjoy what developed countries do: medical care and old-age security. With the increase of a series of living costs such as mortgage, car loan, personal pension, children's education expenses and medical expenses, we are busy on the bright and endless road of "seeing money" every day. There are few opportunities to calm your heart, to experience and discover, and to find a little happiness and happiness in life. Many people have lost themselves and the ability to appreciate and control happiness. Environment is born of mind, in fact, everyone is a happy producer.
With the improvement of living standards, people's material pursuit has already surpassed the stage of just satisfying food and clothing. People are impetuous, and many people ignore spiritual needs in the process of pursuing material satisfaction. Looking back on the reform and opening a house, it is a great satisfaction and happiness to eat meat in jiaozi during the New Year. In today's society, it is more about comparing and showing off wealth, and people's values have been seriously distorted. It should have been a happy thing for friends around to change cars and rooms. The attitude of many people is really "envy, jealousy and hate". Many people's happiness is based on: a brand-name bag, a brand-name fashion, a good car, a big house, these material satisfaction and the satisfaction of comparing with others. You think you will be happy with these things, but when you have these things, you will find that your friends have surpassed you and once again fell into the whirlpool of hardship and depression. The most famous allusion in the Three Kingdoms period, "When you were born, how could you understand it?" Zhou Yu is probably the best example. Even many students compete with each other at school. What car does your father drive? What brand of schoolbag do you use? Are you wearing a famous brand? Under the influence of such social atmosphere and values, a few people can be independent and achieve "indifferent ambition, self-cultivation", and "contentment has become" eat, drink and be merry "
A good word warms three winters, and a bad word hurts June. When others are in trouble and need help, offer a helping hand. Even a smile and a kind word will make you feel happy and satisfied, reflecting your own value and sense of existence. John Foces, an American psychologist, found that when a person actively helps others, even a trivial smile and greeting, the brain will secrete dopamine, and the dopamine content in the blood will also increase, thus making people feel happy. It is a fine tradition of China to help others, help the poor and help the needy, and be courageous. Lei Feng spirit is also a treasure of the Chinese nation. However, in today's declining social atmosphere, I am afraid that few people dare to help the fallen elderly or unconscious pedestrians in Lu Yu without any witness. The incident of helping the elderly to be blackmailed has also been reported by the media many times. Our society needs more courage, helping others, more positive energy, and the joint efforts of the whole people to improve the health and harmony of society.
Raising children for old age has become an empty talk for many people. Many people seldom visit their parents for months or even years. I even neglected my closest wife and children, busy with work, entertainment and even enjoyment all day. Don't you know that only when a person gets along with his parents, wife and children, that kind of affection and love flowing in his blood is the source of your happiness. Go home often if you have something to do, and don't neglect the people you love the most.
The first ray of sunshine when I get up in the morning, a breeze, a breath of fresh air, the crisp birdsong on the way to work, and a bunch of bright flowers on the roadside, swaying in the wind, are beautiful. It will make people refreshed and happy. This kind of happiness is everywhere in life, because you haven't settled down to discover and enlarge it. In life, we should learn to create our own happiness, or the interest of life.
In life, many people covet their existing fame and fortune and are always worried about losing these things. They can't eat well and sleep well, and they are nervous, just like living in hell, full of troubles and impetuousness. Many people keep pursuing what they want, but they can't get it. How can we be happy? Learn to let go, let go of fatigue, obsession, greed, fame and fortune, and you will be suddenly enlightened and happy.
How can we improve our happiness and find a happy and busy job? It occupies most of our time. I set aside one day a week to be with my family and enjoy the happiness brought by family and love. Every week, I take time to accompany my children, play ball games with him, show him around to relieve the pressure of study, and cook a delicious meal for my family. This is also my biggest hobby. Seeing my son's happy smile, happiness arises spontaneously, which is also the sense of accomplishment and value as a father. Having an old man at home is like having a treasure. I visit my parents more often and chat with them. When I am unhappy, I talk to my parents. When I am confused, they will give me a lot of good advice. Their concern made me more confident and felt the preciousness of my family.
Excessive pursuit of material satisfaction will make people become puppets of money and live in the present. Know how to let go: let go of fame and fortune, let go of comparison, let go of fatigue, know how to cherish the life in front of you and cherish the people around you. A rich life is everyone's yearning, but the unrealistic pursuit of material satisfaction will make your mind more and more empty after a short period of satisfaction, which will only make your mind fall into the "quagmire" of material desires. I always ask my son, are you satisfied with your present life? Are you happy? My son will answer happily: I think I am happiest with you and my mother. Children talk nonsense, and my son simply answers, Want Want is a simple truth that many adults find difficult to understand. Isn't it the greatest happiness to be accompanied by relatives and see their families healthy and happy?
Running and playing ball every morning has become an indispensable part of my life. Exercise can not only strengthen the body, but also make people feel excited, happy and energetic through dopamine secreted by the brain after exercise. You can also make many like-minded friends and expand your social circle. There are many healthy and beneficial hobbies like this: outdoor hiking, listening to music and calligraphy, writing, photography and reading. . . These spiritual gratifications can make you feel happy and have a sense of existence.
Helping others can not only make people happy, but also reflect their own value. Since 20 13, I have participated in various public welfare activities: "The Second Large-scale Public Welfare Activity of Caring for Autistic Children in Baotou City" expressed condolences to the sanitation workers of "urban beauticians", participated in "unpaid blood donation", donated clothes to the disaster-stricken areas in Tibet, and organized a daily charity donation activity to help children from poor families. These seemingly simple activities not only make me feel happy and full, but also reflect the value of life. A single spark can start a prairie fire. Grassroots like me can also infect and drive more people to join the public welfare through their own actions. At the same time, I have made many loving and positive people. I always say to my son: help others achieve themselves. I give, I am happy. Once my son wanted to donate blood with me, but because he was young and weak at that time, the staff of the blood bank did not agree, and his son was somewhat disappointed. This is also the best education parents have ever given their children.
A flower, a world, a leaf and a bodhi, many people in life are addicted to the internet and mobile games, immersed in the satisfaction of the virtual world. Instead of wasting your life in games, it is better to cultivate some healthy and beneficial hobbies. In my spare time, I will grow flowers, feed fish and enjoy tea. Every time I calm down, a cup of fragrant tea is refreshing, watching the flowers and plants I take care of, the fish swim around, the pressure of work is released instantly, and I learn to live a life of decompression and wisdom.
It's better to take Wan Li Road to read thousands of books. Travel is the best way to relieve stress. It can broaden your horizons, take your family, travel, let your mind fly, and find other fun during the trip.
To sum up, there is no shortage of happiness in life. Many people are unhappy because they lack a childlike heart that understands life and a pair of eyes that can discover beauty. I am an ordinary grass root, not even a grass root. However, I use my own way to find every bit of happiness in my life and make my life full of fun with my heart. I also hope that we can discuss and communicate together. Let those friends who lose happiness, ignore happiness and turn a blind eye to happiness find their own happiness. Everyone should criticize and correct the limitations of writing and the improper use of words.
Why are people more and more unhappy now? Anyone who is unhappy should ask himself, what is the reason for unhappiness? What is happiness? Is it infinite material satisfaction? Or is there a place for the soul? Is there a shortage of doctors and medicines? Still sick? Can't afford to go to school or life is nowhere to be found? Just like treating a disease, we should distinguish between deficiency and excess of yin and yang and treat it according to syndrome differentiation. Finally find out where the root cause is? So as to prescribe the right medicine. If you don't know why you are unhappy, it's hopeless! If you are only distressed by the envy of the pursuit of material comforts, then I can tell you bluntly that the pursuit of material comforts is endless, and only Conan dreamed of the West. The whole world knows that China has made remarkable achievements in reform and opening up, and its material life has been greatly improved from rich to strong. If you want more than you can fill, it's really ... In fact, happiness and unhappiness are born from the heart, and heart disease needs heart medicine. Put these down and you will become a happy person.
Being happy or unhappy is a state of mind. Some people can still live happily when they are poor, while others are still worried about adequate food and clothing and cannot be happy. Remember the story of the fisherman and the little golden fish? The endless desire of the fisherman's wife is also well known to the world. When the fisherman released the little goldfish, the little goldfish asked the fisherman, what do you want? I can satisfy you. The fisherman said he wanted a piece of gold and the little goldfish gave him a piece of gold. He took it home to his wife, who complained that he wanted too little, so the fisherman went back to find the little goldfish and asked for a manor and land for his wife. After the fisherman asked for the manor and land for his wife, she was still not satisfied, so the fisherman went to her again to ask for a high official and generous salary, but the fisherman's wife was still not satisfied. This story also shows that human desire is endless. If we don't know how many times our material life is higher than in the past and before the reform and opening up, we should be content. However, some people still say that it is difficult to have happiness, but they just miss the hard and painful life of everyone in the past. This is also the mentality of China people who suffer from injustice instead of poverty. However, according to my observation, the old people are in good spirits now. Go to the park to see them full of energy. Compared with the lifeless life of the elderly in the United States, they should be in a state of spiritual happiness compared with the elderly who are still working hard in Japan. So, why do some people say that they are unhappy? Is that each has its own troubles. In fact, happiness is also very easy, that is, it is necessary to adjust your mentality and satisfy your present life, because happiness is more conducive to health than worry, and complaining about others will only cause depression and become sick, but it will not change the status quo. A positive attitude towards life is what you should have.
Personally, people nowadays are more and more unhappy because:
Increasing material satisfaction can never make up for the increasing lack of spirit.
People often say that "the contented are always happy", but in fact this is just a polite expression on behalf of one person, not the truth.
Some people say that happiness is a temporary cessation of desire. Once the desire lasts, there will never be happiness.
People are forced to receive a lot of redundant information every day or independently, but there are not many information resources that can make people think. More information makes people more and more addicted, no longer cherish time, but habitually kill time; The private life of many stars has become a topic for people after dinner, instead of returning the focus of life to themselves; I don't think much of many bad habits, such as staying up late, brushing my mobile phone all day and playing games. These habits make people feel bored doing everything. When people are immersed in these things all day, their physical function will decline, and they will no longer have a desire for life. When facing difficulties and challenges, they will subconsciously choose to use these things to escape. The most direct manifestation of this is the sudden decline in interpersonal relationship and ability to adapt to work and social life.
Why have topics such as self-discipline, self-control, introspection and self-improvement become hot spots in recent two years, and even many books close to these topics have become bestsellers? This is because we need these in our lives. When people are extremely short of something or ability in their lives, relevant voices will definitely appear in your life, reminding you that "it's time for you to change".
The root cause of people's unhappiness is that they continue to bind themselves to their lifestyles, including but not limited to those listed above. The less they make changes and take actions, the more they will solidify the existing life track.
For most people, study, work and life are full of unknowns, powerlessness and helplessness. Really, anyone can talk about grounding gas all day. China people have been learning these things since childhood, but they didn't understand the truth when they were young. When they grow up, people inexplicably think that they have learned, and their grades in junior and senior high schools are not bad. Naturally, they don't need others to repeat these truths to them. However, how many people really apply what they have learned?
You see, Li Bai's poems are very bold and emotional, and there are not too many constraints on his own poems, saying that he must become the greatest poet. His love for poetry is immeasurable. Today, when we look at people around us, most of them have a negative attitude towards life. People's hearts are full of anxiety, confusion, complaints and so on. These are all problems caused by negative emotions, and even more serious symptoms such as depression and anxiety may appear.
In fact, happiness needs us to experience and discover, not to chase and find. Once people learn to focus, they can feel the happiness and satisfaction brought by focus; If you get up early every day, you will find getting up early is a very happy thing. You can have breakfast, see aunts and grandfathers hanging around hand in parks and communities, and see children and mothers skipping rope and exercising in communities.
For those who think that life is to suffer first and then be happy, they simply can't understand how easy it is to get happiness. If a person is used to living a bitter life and thinks that everything is bitter, then happiness will only get farther and farther.
Many people agree that "self-discipline is terrible". In fact, self-discipline is just doing what should be done repeatedly and finding pleasure from it.
With the continuous development of society, people's quality of life is constantly improving. According to this reasoning, people should be very happy and have a happy life. However, in reality, many people become unhappy and have no smile on their faces. More often, they show a wry smile.
After a busy day, I went home and wanted to have a good rest. In chatting with relatives, I felt the pressure of life. How much has the house price gone up now? When will I have the capital to buy a house of my own? How did the tuition for children to go to school become so much this year? How can a better school find a relationship to let children go to school smoothly? Parents are old, so it's time to take care of them more. When questions like this slowly appear in front of you, your mood becomes quiet. I am filled with sadness at the thought of these problems.
Life is not easy, even if we are unhappy, we should live with a smile in the years to come. I hope that in the near future, there will be happiness if there is pain.
Why are people unhappy now? I think this is an inevitable process of social development.
First, from the general environment, most people are still making money, making money, or making money to fill their stomachs! Feed a family and make girls happy! As the saying goes, money is hard to earn and shit tastes bad, which is not unreasonable. This process will not be happy, even if there is, it is also a pleasure in suffering! Just like Pockmarked Zhang in "Let Bullets Fly", we stood to earn money and killed the teacher's sixth wife. We don't work as hard as Pockmarked Zhang, and most of us still earn money on our knees like Master Tang. How can I be happy!
Second, the explosion of life brought by social development and various recreational activities has made friends who used to play with sandbags and pee mud find their own fun. From drug abuse and whoring to reading, reading newspapers and listening to music, different personalities have different hobbies, so if there are fewer like-minded people, it is inevitable that they will entertain themselves, do their own things and share the same interests. And the ends of the earth! So our perception of happiness is even a little numb. Liveliness is the loneliness of a group of people!
Third, people nowadays are basically lofty. Whether you admit it or not, people who are arrogant, low-key and connotative after flying can become a kind of scarcity. Besides, you keep a low profile, others say you pretend, and so on! In short, people's hearts are getting old, right and wrong are reversed, and personal quality can't keep up with the pace of the times, which is inevitable. Maybe this has nothing to do with happiness, happiness is a potential influencing factor. We are unhappy, not because of superficial inappropriateness, but because of the inner gap! Happiness has nothing to do with vulgarity, so don't force it, and don't treat it with special respect!
In a word, we are unhappy. The question is whether we can stop and think about it. Happiness is simple after all, but complicated is people!
China culture has always emphasized "self-cultivation, keeping the family in order, governing the country and leveling the world", and these responsibilities will always give us more or less, forming an invisible pressure. And we are faced with a lot of pressures, such as the pressure of work, the pressure of starting a family, the pressure of raising children, the pressure of interpersonal communication, etc ... Under these heavy pressures, we are too busy to have time to relieve them. Over time, these pressures not only bring unhappiness, but also harm our health.
Life is like a dream, some people say it very clearly, some people say it very vaguely, and everyone is destined to go with success or failure, accompanied by gains and losses. If you want to be happy, you must reduce your desire, calm your mind and enjoy the present. Life is beautiful, and we must believe everything. We can look forward to tomorrow!