What about keeping a spare tire, falling in love with two people at the same time, not taking responsibility, shirking responsibility, etc ...
Although He Shuhuan is scum, his scum is completely insignificant in front of Xu Zhimo.
When we mention Xu Zhimo, we must think of the song Farewell to Cambridge, the romantic love between him and the talented woman Lin Huiyin, the vigorous love between him and Lu Xiaoman, his talent and his talent ...
Everyone who knows him knows that he also has an original wife, Zhang Youyi. Their marriage is a victim of feudal society. Finally,
There is no denying that Xu Zhimo is a rare talent with dazzling talents. Emotionally, he is devoted, love is love, no love is no love, and he can give up everything for love.
but he gave the most heartless and indifferent side to the most innocent original wife.
So today, I really want to stand in Zhang Youyi's position and accuse Xu Zhimo of love rat's behavior.
When Xu Zhimo saw the photo of Zhang Youyi for the first time, his mouth curled down and he dropped a sentence: "Country bumpkin!"
let's see if this evaluation is relevant.
on family background: the Zhang family is a local tycoon, whose ancestors worked as local officials in the Qing dynasty. Zhang Youyi was born in a large family and was a well-deserved lady.
On appearance: Zhang Youyi has delicate facial features. In that era when there was no ps and no plastic surgery, such a face value was at least above average. However, judging from this photo, her eyes are big, but her spirits are not enough, and her lips are thick, giving people a feeling of being simple and honest and old-fashioned. Perhaps this is why Xu Zhimo thinks she is "rustic".
On knowledge: Zhang Youyi was born in a scholarly family and studied in Suzhou No.2 Women's Normal School. Although she dropped out of school after only three years because she was going to get married, she still hired a tutor to study English, geography, history and so on.
On personality: Xu Yan, Xu Zhimo's nephew, commented on her: "Strong personality, strict discipline, especially when she is big, full of means; Very opinionated, very opinionated, and quite active ... "
On personality: Liang Qiushi praised her for her" presence ",and the charming Luo Longji even fell in love with her at first sight.
It can be said that Zhang Youyi was definitely "rich and beautiful" at that time, not "country bumpkin".
At that time, Xu Zhimo's eyes were blinded by prejudice and turned a blind eye to these advantages of Zhang Youyi. And never understand Zhang Youyi, even don't want to say a few words.
Xu Zhimo is a young man who has been influenced by western education and trendy ideas. Faced with the shackles of this feudal dogma, he naturally hates it.
But judging a person who has never seen him by a photo alone is full of the stench of male chauvinism and self-expansion.
At the age of 18, Zhang Youyi gave birth to their first son. Later, Zhang Youyi came to London to accompany her and soon became pregnant with her second child.
At this time, Xu Zhimo was pursuing Lin Huiyin and had no time to take care of Zhang Youyi, so he asked Zhang Youyi to abort the child.
In those days, abortion was risky. Zhang Youyi said, "I heard that someone died because of abortion."
Xu Zhimo said coldly, "There are people who died by train. Do you see that people don't take trains?"
The tone was full of ridicule and disdain, as if the life and death of their mother and son had nothing to do with themselves.
Later, Zhang Youyi didn't have an abortion, and Xu Zhimo filed for divorce. When Zhang Youyi refused, he left, leaving pregnant Zhang Youyi in Shaston.
a woman, pregnant, abandoned by her husband in a foreign country, has no support at all. What's terrible is that this husband actually speaks plausibly, without any sense of guilt.
Later, with the help of his second brother, Zhang Youyi moved to Berlin to give birth to a baby, while Xu Zhimo, knowing where Zhang Youyi was going, ignored it at all. He only went to Berlin when the divorce procedure was about to be completed, forcing Zhang Youyi to sign a divorce agreement. Just because Lin Huiyin had returned to China at that time, he was eager to return to China to pursue Lin Huiyin.
But he never asked Zhang Youyi how to raise this child and how their orphans and widows would survive.
At that time, Zhang Youyi's heart was already broken all over the floor, and she even wanted to die with her children. But in the end, she still stood up strongly without giving up her parents and her children.
When Zhang Youyi was most miserable and wanted to end his life, Xu Zhimo finally followed Lin Huiyin back to China.
Marriage is sacred. Unlike love, it is protected by law, and it is responsible in marriage.
As a husband, Xu Zhimo cheated during pregnancy, forced his wife to have an abortion, and was cold and violent ...
As a father, Xu Zhimo went abroad to study as soon as his eldest son was born. The second son died unfortunately when he was three years old. He never saw his father several times, and he never enjoyed his father's love for a day.
It can be said that in this marriage, Xu Zhimo didn't fulfill his due obligations and shoulder his due responsibilities in any role.
Zhang Youyi treated Xu Zhimo sincerely and silently.
She was distressed that her husband couldn't study, so she asked her second brother to find a school for Xu Zhimo and tried her best to persuade Xu Zhimo's father.
She is filial to her parents-in-law. Even after her divorce, she still takes good care of Xu Zhimo's parents. Even the funeral of the two old people was handled by her.
After the death of his youngest son, Peter, Xu Zhimo was deeply remorseful and very sad. Zhang Youyi did not care about his indifference over the years, but extended a warm hand to Xu Zhimo and tried every means to comfort him ...
But Xu Zhimo only thought about himself from beginning to end, and never thought about Zhang Youyi.
Many people are puzzled. Since Xu Zhimo didn't accept Zhang Youyi at first, why did he have a baby with her?
The reason is that Xu Zhimo wants to study in the United States, but his father means that he can only go abroad if he completes the task of carrying on the family line.
After the birth of the eldest son, Xu Zhimo stayed with his son for only one month, and he couldn't wait to go to school.
Zhang Youyi herself knows that she is just an autumn fan to Xu Zhimo, and when she is useless, she will be torn by her master.
Maybe you just don't love it. No matter how much the other person pays for yourself, you won't realize the value of that friendship.
In their relationship, we can also see a lot of love rat in Xu Zhimo: while enjoying each other's kindness to himself, he is shirking his responsibility by "not loving".
between the beds, he doesn't care about the danger and hardship of raising children, just to complete the task and get permission to study abroad.
I left her alone in Sarston, and I never thought about how a woman who was about to give birth could give birth in a foreign country without friends.
When he divorced, he never thought about how much bitterness and supercilious ridicule a divorced woman would experience with her children in those days.
from beginning to end, he always puts his own interests first.
It's not so much that he hates Zhang Youyi, but rather that he really resists the marriage in feudal times, which is "parents' orders and matchmakers' words".
But is it Zhang Youyi's fault that Zhang Youyi married Xu Zhimo? She did not obey her parents' orders, and she was not a victim. She doesn't want much. She just wants to live in peace and have a warm support. I just never imagined that the person I married wouldn't even pretend to love myself.
Finally, Zhang Youyi, who was black and blue all over, experienced darkness and helplessness. After continuous study and hard work, she was finally reborn from nirvana. She became the president of a commercial bank, trading stocks and doing business, and achieved something that even men should envy.
Later, she met Su Jizhi, a gentle doctor, and spent the rest of her life peacefully with Mei.
Zhang Youyi said: I want to thank Xu Zhimo for divorcing me, which helped me find myself.
Having said that, I don't know how many tears and bitterness are behind it.
as long as she can get a little happiness and enjoy a little love in this marriage, she doesn't need to arm herself and turn herself into a strong woman.
what woman doesn't want to be held in the palm of her hand and cared for all her life? Because no one loves and has no one to rely on, I have to arm myself.
No matter how tough a woman looks, she is a little girl who is eager to be spoiled at heart!
who can live without experiencing several love rat?
Although we can't completely avoid love rat, we can choose to do something to minimize our injuries.
In love, don't love each other too much, just keep seven or eight points of love, and use the rest to love yourself, because only by loving yourself can you get better love from others.
Girls should also strive to become strong and have certain financial resources, so that they can have capital. When they meet love rat, they should bravely say "fuck off" to him, instead of being afraid that they will choose to compromise because they have no money.
If you meet love rat unfortunately, don't miss it and leave bravely! Like Zhang Youyi, arm yourself with knowledge and ability. Only when you become better can you win respect and get a better home.
Life is very long, and love is only a small part of our life. After being sad, forget it! Then get up early, read books, make soup, exercise, study, travel … enrich yourself, and you will find that life is so beautiful and colorful.
Finally, I'd like to give you a poem that I like very much: If you are in full bloom, butterflies will come; if you are wonderful, heaven will arrange it.