1. handshake requirements
Usually, shaking hands when meeting for the first time, meeting after a long separation, leaving or seeing off is also the most common.
Some special occasions, such as congratulations, thanks or condolences; When the dialogue between the two sides has satisfactory similarity; Or when the original contradiction between the two sides has turned around or been completely reconciled, it is customary to shake hands as a gift.
When shaking hands, take a step away from each other, lean forward slightly, stand at attention with your feet, extend your right hand, put your four fingers together, cross the tiger's mouth, open your thumb and slide down, and shake hands with the recipient.
Holding each other's hands with palms down shows a strong desire for dominance and silently tells others that they are in an advantageous position. Try to avoid this rude handshake. On the contrary, shaking hands in the palm shows a person's humility and respect. If you reach out your hands, you will be even more humble. The equal and natural handshake gesture is that the palms of both hands are vertical. This is the most common and safest way to shake hands.
It is impolite to shake hands with gloves, except for ladies. Of course, you can take it off in the cold outdoors. For example, when both parties wear gloves and hats, they should generally say "I'm sorry" first. When shaking hands, the two sides look at each other, smile, greet and exchange greetings. Don't look at the third person or appear absent-minded.
Except that people who are very close can hold hands together for a long time, it is usually enough to hold hands two or three times. Don't push too hard, but it's impolite to use your fingertips casually. Generally, the time should be controlled within three to five seconds. If you want to show your sincerity and enthusiasm, you can also shake hands for a long time and shake them up and down a few times.
When shaking hands, the hands are separated as soon as they touch, and the time is too short. It seems to be going through the motions, and it seems to be watching out for each other. And the time is too long, especially holding the hand of the opposite sex for a long time or meeting for the first time, which seems a bit hypocritical and even suspected of "trying to take advantage".
Between the elders and the younger generation, after the elders reach out, the younger generation can reach out and shake hands, and between the superiors and the subordinates, after the superiors reach out, the subordinates can hold hands; Between men and women, after the woman reaches out, the man can reach out and shake hands; Of course, if the man is an elder, follow the above method.
If you need to shake hands with many people, you should pay attention to the order of shaking hands, from pecking to pecking, that is, elders first, junior first, teachers first, students first, ladies first, unmarried first and superiors first.
If there are many people communicating, you can just shake hands with a few close people, nod to others, or bow slightly. In order to avoid embarrassing scenes, before you take the initiative to shake hands with someone, you should think about whether you are welcomed by the other person. If you have noticed that the other person doesn't mean to shake hands, just nod your head.
On formal occasions, the order of reaching out when shaking hands mainly depends on position and identity. In social and leisure occasions, it mainly depends on age, gender and marriage.
When receiving guests, this problem becomes special: when the guests arrive, the host should first reach out and shake hands with them. When guests leave, they should first reach out and shake hands with their hosts. The former means "welcome" and the latter means "goodbye". This order is reversed and easily misunderstood.
It should be emphasized that the order of the above handshakes need not be demanding everywhere. If you are a respected person or an elder or a superior. When people with low status, young people or subordinates reach out first, the most appropriate way is to reach out and cooperate immediately. And don't ignore it and let the other party make a fool of themselves on the spot.
When shaking hands, you might as well say some greetings. You can hold the other person's hand in a direct and positive tone, and hold the other person's hand when strengthening important words to enhance the other person's impression of you.
2. You should shake hands:
Meet an acquaintance I haven't seen for a long time;
Say goodbye to people you know on more formal occasions;
When welcoming or sending away guests in social occasions where I am the host;
When you visit others and say goodbye;
When introduced to people you don't know;
In social occasions, when I accidentally meet my relatives, friends or boss;
When others give you some support, encouragement or help;
When expressing gratitude, congratulations and congratulations;
When expressing understanding, support and affirmation to others;
When learning that others are sick, lovelorn, unemployed, demoted or suffer other setbacks;
When giving gifts or prizes to others.
3. Eight taboos of shaking hands
When shaking hands, try to conform to the norms and avoid violating the following rude taboos.
1) Don't shake hands with your left hand, especially when dealing with Arabs and Indians, because in their eyes, your left hand is unclean.
2) When communicating with Christians, it is very unlucky to avoid the cross between their hands when shaking hands, which is similar to the cross.
3) Don't wear gloves or sunglasses when shaking hands. In social situations, only women can shake hands with gauze gloves.
4) Don't put your other hand in your pocket or hold anything when shaking hands.
5) Don't shake hands with a straight face, say nothing or make a long speech, bow and scrape, and be too polite.
6) When shaking hands, don't just hold each other's fingertips, as if to keep a distance from each other. The correct way is to hold it in the palm of your hand. Even for the opposite sex.
7) Don't pull the other person's hand, push it, or shake it up and down.
8) Don't refuse to shake hands. Even if you have hand disease or sweaty and dirty, say "I'm sorry, my hands are inconvenient now". So as not to cause unnecessary misunderstanding.