For example, we take investment as the background. Under what circumstances are we? Make an investment decision. Generally divided into three situations. The first is the emotional state, the investment made because of emotions. Just say one person. I asked you to invest in a project. How about this project? Because you are very, very excited. I am very excited to hear about it. You're excited. So because of this stimulus, I made this investment. There are not a few such people, so this is a phenomenon. Besides, it can be extended in the family. You see, a quarrel between husband and wife is a divorce. Why do we choose divorce? Because of our emotions, because we are anxious, because we are angry.
There are some lesbians who make decisions because of their emotions. For example, I heard that many girls will make a decision to buy brand-name bags when they are angry. The decision to spend hundreds of thousands of dollars on watches, what was the decision made through or because of emotions? In other words, when you clap your forehead, it's all because of your emotions. The second kind of person. Decisions are made because of things. What do you mean? This kind of person, in our life, makes decisions more rationally than the first one. He told the story because it was very logical. In line with the future development trend, he believes that there are great investment values and opportunities to make decisions here. So there are many such people.
Now, there are many such people. Every day, I am doing something about patterns. Like what's new? What's new in internet plus? Wait, then, what is his profit sharing method? What are his chances of starting a business? Look at it recently. Just insist. I heard someone. Let's talk about live broadcast. I see the live broadcast in the community every day. What you said is also the slogan of live broadcast on XXX platform. On the video website, we are still talking about live broadcast. So many people made this investment decision because of this incident. Through my judgment, the model is good, the logic is clear, and the chances of making a decision are great.
The third kind of person, I think, is the smartest person. It is because of the feeling that the decision is made. Many people will say, teacher, why are these things you said so unreliable? How can you make a decision because of your feelings? That's all I'm telling you. I remember an interview with Warren Buffett, the world stock god. Ask, this Buffett, you pick stocks. What is the basis of choice? After all these years, you have become a stock god. Buffett's answer is very surprising. He said I was dependent, but that was a feeling, nothing else. Look, many people who have speculated in the stock market know that. Gub generally has fundamentals and data. Basically, it depends on analysis and logic. You said it depends on the feeling. Is this rare?
But in fact, people who do great things do it by feeling. This means, sir, how can I do this through feeling? Because it is simple. Important things happen either in your chair or in your position. As far as you know, only now is it in line with your identity, your background and your knowledge. Your environment, your experience, that's all. Then, what you really want to achieve that ideal is actually in an unknown world. In an unknown way. So, if you know logic, planning and experience. Come and choose, then your choice must be similar to the known result. So, I'm a little detour here. You can listen to it twice I think this sentence is very important to everyone.
Then I have to make a personal point today. For everyone to learn and share, whether it is running a business. Still running a family. Even the interaction of all friends. The business sense is right. Many people don't understand what business feeling is. For example, we grew up. Talk about this from husband and wife to enterprises. Young men and women fall in love, or husband and wife. You just look at one thing and say, I can change everything for her and for him. I don't like this. I am careless. I've been dressed since then.
He doesn't like me smoking, so I quit smoking. He didn't like my drinking, so I gave up drinking. He doesn't like me being so busy, so I go home early every day to accompany her. He likes spicy food, but I don't like Chili, so I learned how to eat Chili. Come and cater to him. I am very, very kind to him. But you will find that this girlfriend finally ran away and left with someone else. So, why do many people ask me, is this the majority? Are entangled in the surface of things. Maybe it's not something he doesn't like.
I often joke with my assistant. I said as long as it's human. Nothing else is a problem, that is to say, one person. If he feels this way. You smoke, and he likes your faint tobacco smell, just like the song "Taste". You just drink. What will he say about you? Smoke is an article, wine is a poem. Yes, I am very happy. How can we be short of wine? Ten hobbies in ancient times, piano, chess, calligraphy, painting, sword and poetry, catechu hops. If you think something is wrong, smoking will become harmful to human beings. Drinking wine will make you an unprofessional person, so I say this. It all comes from something that feels wrong.
We tried our best to solve each other's problems. Instead of solving each other's feelings This is our consistent mistake. Even in the interactive relationship, we have no core at all. Then some couples, or men and women in love, will have this phenomenon. My husband, I really love him. I love him. Love can give up everything, even life. But why did I choose to leave me? Why? He still does this to me. This is as cold as ice. I have answered many similar questions.
I am here. A word to tell you is that I feel something is wrong and my efforts are in vain. Because of two people, nothing feels right. In marriage management, please remember. You need to manage, not I love you. But to make you feel that I love you deeply. Ladies and gentlemen, I repeat, this is not to run away from I love you, but to make you feel that I love you. The direction of your business is the feelings of the other party, not your sincerity. If you just say I love you, you and I will love you in my way. Then I think eating Chili is the most beautiful food for human beings. As a result, you have a runny nose and tears on your face.
This is based on selfish departmentalism. Therefore, to truly love each other, we need to master each other's feelings. The other person can perceive and feel that you love him. This is the direction of your business and your business thinking. This is very, very critical. So ... most of us have actually made a mistake, that is, we feel that we are paying attention. I gave it to each other. Why doesn't the other party understand? This thing is very simple. For example, a sheep and a lion want to be friends. Yang wanted to treat the lion to something to eat, so she prepared the freshest grass. I want to treat the lion to a good meal.
The lion is very dissatisfied [angry]. Why? Because the lion thinks Yang doesn't care about his friends at all. Because if you care. It is impossible to feed him grass. If you care, you give him meat to eat. So, everyone, what you pay is not what the other person wants. Then you don't control this feeling well. Even in the interaction, especially in the emotional interaction, you remember. This kind of emotional management is more important than the real I love you. You see, we often say this. This flower was planted in cow dung, and the cabbage was arched by the pig. Good girls are afraid of hungry wolves whining, but you are afraid of pestering them. So we say this to ask why.
We always talk about it. There will be many people now. Say love in the city is ok, you will find that love in the city is not so much together, but what is it? This woman has a good appearance. Men have no hair, and even men are a little ugly. You will see many such phenomena in the street. But why do you want to combine? It's simple. It's my wife. It feels right. He is with him. He feels very down-to-earth He is with him, and he feels very, very safe. Let me give you an analogy. I have a good friend by my side. He is married for the second time. Then, it is described in four words, and then ugly, not too high, not very good-looking.
As a result, I married a wife. Second marriage, remember the second marriage, married a wife [yi tooth], ten years younger than himself. And very, very beautiful. He is over 1.7 meters tall and has a good figure. What is the most important thing? This southerner has little money and is ten years older than others. This woman has good family conditions and background. What about outsiders? The two people didn't match, and then I found out. Say why everyone thinks it's not right to be together again, once. Where is his wife? Today is my birthday. Invite our friends to his birthday party. After I arrived, I knew why through a simple conversation.
Like when you make a wish. He will lie next to his wife and say what he wants. I have to be inside, because I want to be with you. Oh, his wife was so moved and excited that she smiled from ear to ear. See if it's true or not. Everything this man said. They both make each other feel comfortable and energetic. You see, today, I was in the process of communicating with that teacher Shao. Teacher Shang, I have been sending it to all the group owners recently. Make this video. Training. Did you watch my live broadcast when Mr. Shao said it? I said I saw it. Come on, where do you think I need to adjust?
I said, from the perspective of things, I'm not wrong. But people don't feel anything after listening to it. For example, when we meet a community, what should we do first? What is the second thing? Then you have made the logical flow of this matter very clear. But remember, interpersonal communication needs feelings. We often say that we should let the other person feel the temperature, which is both a temperature and a feeling. So what does it feel like? I feel very excited about what I said. I want to try this method quickly. Do you have this impulse? It is better to let others have this impulse, your business briefing. That is, what needs to be adjusted is defective.
Then let's talk about entrepreneurship again. Listen, I have another student. He is. When he studied the Book of Changes with me, he was very special about this. When I was active in front, later, I found that I was not so active. Then I am very active on another learning platform. Look at me. I'm a good observer. I was just thinking about him, why. Active on that platform. He is on that platform. I took a course which seems to have been circulating in China for many years. It's called coaching skills. Then, as a student, I have to tell the truth from my qualifications, background and ability. Everything is average, and everything is very, very average.
So how about studying my course here? Very simple, let him see himself slowly, and then slowly improve from here. As a result, when she went to that platform to study, it was still. I took a class and can be a coach in the future. When I am a coach, wow. No matter how great the fun is, no matter how big the entrepreneur is. In his group, he asked people to point out your problems, point out his problems, and the other party reflected. God, he feels great. I do. Not good at all, guys. Therefore, the interactive relationship between managers and people is not that you increase the strength of the other party. It's that you make her feel great, which is very important.
In the past, I put forward a point. I said, what is the purpose of communication? The purpose of communication is to make the other person feel stronger. If someone feels smaller and weaker after communicating with you. Guys, even if you're telling the truth. What does that truth mean to the world and each other? Purebred ones are. Use truth to hurt others, and use truth to sting others. So this is totally unacceptable. Then, in all the interactions, I tell you that I am actually manipulating a feeling. I'm running this feeling.
In our past teaching. This happens all the time. When we say this, our customer service department will respond. Say, sir. We have many students today, so a student today. He complained again, alas, he was very excited. Oh, I really can't hold it anymore. Let him do it first. then what I said, what happened? The average opponent will state this matter again. Then, it will follow each other's things to describe. Remember, you can't solve any problems at all. What happened must have caused inner discomfort. Right? I don't feel so good. If I feel comfortable, I'm fine.
So, when the class is over online, you just say that you called him over and I told him. Listen, as soon as we met. You called them both red-faced, and he was satisfied as our student. He thought the master was going to criticize me. If you want to talk about me, then the first thing you say when you enter the room and wait for everyone else to go out. Be wronged. Tell me about it. Oh, this sentence, after going down, many of our classmates went to see it and burst into tears. Master, it's my heart. Look at that. Not yourself, if you talk to him about it. You may talk nonsense day by day, and you have lost your identity background. You don't understand either. But you feel right when you travel to each other's place. He feels that someone is supporting him behind his life. Nothing happened.
So, they just said, let you solve the problem very quickly first. Because I have never solved the problem. I have always only solved it, and I feel that your problem can't be solved. Have you ever heard of anyone who can solve this problem? Just like in the family process, two people grow old together. How long is this life? This kind of life takes decades. In the past few decades, you have solved this problem, and there will definitely be another one. So, haven't you always wanted to keep the relationship in your life so good and unchanged? Then you will run it forever. It's all about each other's feelings. Instead of running an event.
For example, someone told me that my husband and I often quarrel about our children's study. Then, both of them put forward this different opinion and standard about children's learning. Ladies and gentlemen, I don't think this is a problem for children to learn. Then it's more likely to be your feelings. All the questions. In fact, it is just a trigger point, or an exposure point. That's because your sensory frequency is different now. It's the key that you adjust that feeling. You see, in an enterprise, what is personality charm and what is leader charm?
Leadership charm, that is, when you show up. Everyone feels hopeful. As soon as you come out. Everyone feels that there is no hurdle to cross and no goal to walk. This kind of feeling is a trait that leaders should have. So, whether adults or children. You must control this feeling. For example, you often watch that movie about the war in that country. In the last two years, there have been many performances of this thing. In stark contrast. Just shoot Chiang Kai-shek and Jiang Zhongzheng. Jiang Jingguo, and the following ministers of the humerus, how do you feel when you speak?
The first point is that the people below are very, very serious. Oh, I dare not laugh and laugh. Either stand there and call the headmaster, or feel everyone is very stiff. And look at Chiang Kai-shek, which basically appears on TV. I'm not talking about my own strategy, or scolding. Or what you said is your own opinion. So look. Over there. Almost everything Chiang Kai-shek said was very special, very rigorous and unsmiling. This is how he feels about running a business. You need to change back to Chairman Mao's team.
Pictures of Chairman Mao's speech. What are they? Chairman Mao said two words, Premier Zhou said two words and Ren said two words. This Liu Shaoqi spoke a few words, and everyone laughed and talked. Alas, even without good food and wine, you can have a meeting anywhere with a cigarette. You see, the atmosphere is more harmonious. So look at this feeling. It has been decided who will win the hearts of this class. It is good to run a country, a business or a marriage. In fact, they are all business feelings. So far, this epidemic has broken out all over the world. On the premise of fighting the epidemic.
Our country is using the largest energy. Protect all the people and citizens of China. And in the original, they are all overseas in this country. Let them * * * through the difficulties. So what is this feeling like? Each of us began to have a sense of national honor, and our country began to shoulder the world mission. Look at the so-called Americans, the most powerful country in the world. What are you doing? When the president spoke, he told the governors below to buy as much as possible. Do you think this attitude and feeling is right? So, I don't know if this class can make you very clear.
I especially hope you don't focus on business interaction. And put it on each other's feelings. If it feels right, you can trust me. How do you say that sentence? There are five words floating in the sky, nothing. If it doesn't feel right, I believe you can say it. Your breathing is wrong. So if you understand this lesson today and feel good, give me a reply.