Maternal love is an unreserved affirmation of children's lives and needs. However, it should be added here that the affirmation of young children’s lives should include two aspects: on the one hand, we must care for young children and be responsible for their growth in order to maintain and develop weak lives. On the other hand, it goes beyond the scope of protecting life, that is, to make children love life and make them feel: how good it is to be alive! How wonderful it is to be a little boy or girl! How wonderful it is to be alive in this world!
These two aspects of maternal love are evident in the Bible's Genesis. God created the world and people, which is in line with the care and affirmation of life. But God does more than that. Every day after God created man and the world, God wanted to know what was going on and whether everything was okay. Similarly, the second aspect of maternal love is to give the child a feeling of "how good it is to be born in this world." Mothers should give their children a love for life, not just a desire to live.
The same idea is also expressed in another symbolic story in the Bible:
The land God promised (the land is always a symbol of mother) flows with milk and honey. Milk symbolizes the first aspect of maternal love: concern and affirmation of life; honey symbolizes the sweetness of life, love for life and happiness in the world.
Most mothers have the ability to give "milk", but only a few mothers can give "honey" in addition to milk. In order to be able to give "honey", she should not only be a good mother, but also a happy person, but this goal can only be achieved by a few people.
The influence of mothers on their children cannot be overestimated. Both a mother's love of life and her fear of life are contagious, and both can have a profound impact on the child's overall development. In fact, we can indeed see in children and adults, who only gets "milk", and who gets both "milk" and "honey".
The greatest love is the love that a mother gives to her growing child
Fraternity and sex are relationships between equals. On the contrary, the relationship between mother and child is by its very nature It is said to be a relationship between two unequal people. In this relationship one person needs help and the other person gives that help.
Based on the selfless characteristics of maternal love, maternal love has always been regarded as the highest form of love and the most sacred emotional connection. But it seems that what is worthy of praise in maternal love is not the mother's love for the baby, but the mother's love for the growing child.
Most mothers really love their children when their children are still young and completely dependent on them. It seems that this attitude in the mother is due to an instinct that is also found in animals. But no matter how powerful this instinct is, what is more important than this is the human factor and psychological factor: because the mother always regards the child as a part of herself, the mother's love and infatuation for the child are likely to satisfy narcissism. a way.
Another root may be the mother’s desire for power and possessiveness. A child who is weak and completely obedient to his mother is a natural candidate for an authoritarian and possessive mother.
Although there are various explanations for mother's motivations, the most important motivation is the pursuit of what we call "beyond oneself". This pursuit belongs to the most basic requirement of man and is based on man's consciousness and the fact that man is dissatisfied with his purely biological role and cannot bear to be just a pawn thrown into this world. He must feel that he is a creator, a being who can transcend the passive position of a created being. There are many possibilities for fulfilling this requirement, and the most natural and fundamental way is through a mother's care and love for her creation. A mother transcends herself in her children, and her love for her children gives her life new meaning.