In these three years, I spent more than 15 hours with myself every day on average. In this 15 hour, besides sleeping time, I still have about 8 hours to play and live by myself.
You ask me, are you afraid of loneliness? I've always been scared, and I'm scared now. I'm afraid of doing everything alone, even cooking alone, walking alone in the street, especially when I see the crowd, I always feel lonely.
In a strange country, renting a house, moving, settling down, buying daily necessities, cooking spices, cleaning the room alone, all without the help of a second person. Even if I am too tired to keep my back straight, I still lie in bed at night thinking about why I came here with a lot of negative emotions, but I have always been instantly cured by one sentence: "What are you afraid of? You are your own hero. "
I recently entered the fourth year, leaving behind the days when I lived with my good friends in the previous year. This is a new beginning. A man moved from another city, with seven cartons, large and small. Even the courier didn't want to help me move into the elevator, so I slowly moved all seven cartons by myself. On the day I arrived by train, I had nearly 60 kilograms of luggage and two boxes. It happened that the elevator at the railway station was broken, and fate sometimes played tricks on me, but I always believed that it cared so much for me.
Yesterday, I heard a friend say to me, "To tell the truth, the life you are living now is what I yearn for." . You really turned your life into a poem.
I used to think that to live a poetic life, it must be in the room of a beautifully decorated and elegant house, where all European retro furniture is placed and there is a small garden full of roses. I may be the hostess of the garden. However, the dream of girlhood will eventually be broken.
Life is like a poem, and these four words are in front of my eyes now: the truth of being alone.
If I am asked to end a person's life immediately, I should be reluctant. Because a person's life has given me the richest inspiration in life, I have written countless things and people that make me feel with my magical brain perception. They gave me different experiences and enriched my soul.
Life needs truth and a sense of ceremony. Even if it is a person's day. You can still live a colorful life, and the plain life is a process of collecting good things.
Living alone, what kind of sense of ceremony can help us increase our happiness.
1. Buy your favorite room decorations to decorate your room. The house is rented, but your life is not. You have to understand that coming back here every night is your home. I believe that things and people are always related. If you are kind to her, it will give you unimaginable energy in your life. Gradually, you become an energy body.
2. keep the room clean and tidy?
In a messy room, the guest's mind will definitely not go anywhere regularly. With a confused mind, it will be difficult to persist in doing things for a long time, because when you see messy things, you will start to lose your mind. Unless you are really an artist who can live in a cowshed and paint with peace of mind, you should clean your room regularly and use the principle of parting to throw away things that are no longer needed or move them to other places.
3. "Little happiness" in the refrigerator
When I live alone, the electrical appliance I care about is the refrigerator. The refrigerator is not about size, even if it is a small refrigerator, I want to make sure that there are no expired fresh things in it at all times. Food brings heat to people and prepares us physically for continuous charging. Think about what it's like to go home hungry and open the refrigerator every day. I think there should be more sense of loss.
4. Several things to improve happiness.
Candle: I really can't express my love for candles. Reading in bed after a bath at night, the fragrance of candles smells good, and the body after a hard day can finally have a good rest.
Bouquet? I am a person who likes buying flowers very much. I always feel that with flowers, there will be more happiness in the room. Because you see them in bud every day, you learn how to take care of them. A beautiful bouquet is definitely the "only magic weapon" for happiness.
Beautiful tableware and cups: When I lived alone a few years ago, I always bought a lot of plates and bowls. Later, my father told me that it is best to prepare only one person's bowls and chopsticks when living alone, which actually restrained my idea of friends coming to the party to a certain extent (because living alone is really inconvenient for a group of people to get together, so I gave up temporarily), and it will also reduce my appetite to a certain extent and make my eating life more reasonable.
I have been practicing the "micro-habits" in my life these days, and I have to do many small things that I can do at the moment. Cultivating these micro-habits is not only to manage your time more scientifically in life, but also to make yourself independent and self-disciplined. After all, to live a poem, you must first have an independent personality and thoughts, and no longer be attached to anyone.
When you really live alone like me, you don't need any dinner to tell you that you are not alone. You will automatically switch to "Yes, I am alone, but I live better alone than most people"
My micro habit: (digital micro habit)
1. Keep going to bed early and getting up early, and get up at 5: 30 at 22:30.
2. Drink a cup of honey water and eat a collagen every morning on an empty stomach.
3. Listen to a book every day (cultivate your reading and thinking ability)
4. Read paper books for 35 minutes every day.
5. One Laimei fitness class every day.
6. Communicate with your parents at least once a day.
7. Use the debris time every day to think about the goal progress of the week.
8. Drink a glass of milk and eat a peach every day?
9. Take a editing class every day.
Don't underestimate everything above. In fact, the average time I spend with them is no more than 30 minutes, and the smallest is only a few minutes or even seconds. But in the long run, the changes brought to me are enormous.
As for my life, more and more friends recognize its truth and beauty, but it is really difficult to live alone here. It is precisely because it is difficult to have trusted relatives, friends and lovers around me that I want to live my life more self-disciplined. Because I believe that when I get better and better, when I really end my life one day, I will not be afraid, but will be happy. Because I have the ability to live a good life for one person, I can live a good life for two people and run a good family.
Pay attention to the things around you, feel your mood at all times, and sort out the thinking direction of your brain.
We can all live like poems.
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