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? A person's life lasts for decades, year after year, and he does not realize that he is in his old age. After retirement, although you should not work from eight to five, work at sunrise and rest at sunset, you should relax yourself, which means the beginning of old age. How to make one's old age healthy and happy is extremely important for every elderly person. I think the elderly's life after retirement should also have a clear goal and careful arrangements.
Retiring from sixty to seventy is the first ten-year goal, seventy to eighty is the second ten-year goal, and eighty to ninety is the third Ten-year goals. These three ten-year goals require long-term planning and short-term arrangements. Many people say that if they live to be eighty years old, they dare not even think about living to ninety years old. Of course, people are old and frail, but there are many uncertain factors, which exist objectively. Generally speaking, you must have confidence in yourself and have courage. It is necessary to adjust goals and prepare mentally in all aspects.
A person's life has gone through various stages of innocent childhood, ideal youth, arduous youth, struggling middle age, and stereotyped adulthood. This is a sign of life's maturity, wisdom, and perfection. In these turbulent years, fame, fortune, and halo are all passing by. When we have passed two-thirds of our life, it is like a drama approaching its climax. Whether it is good or bad is secondary. We should all face it calmly and leave it to future generations to comment.
? People are old and retired. Now they should have a basic goal for their next thirty years. The trajectory of life should be to do whatever they want, let nature take its course, pay attention to the mountains and rivers, take care of themselves, and live. The principle should be to talk about fame and fortune, learn to give up, love life, know how to cherish, put personal health first, strive to stay old and strong, and finally achieve the third ten-year goal of longevity. Good death.
? 1. The first ten-year goal has been basically achieved
? I quit the second line in 2006 and officially retired in 2014. Over the past ten years, I have reviewed and summarized, My approach and experience.
? (1) The guiding ideology is, one center, two transfers, three basic tasks, and improve the level of seven aspects.
After retirement, I will focus on taking care of my son and grandchildren. There are two transfers. One is the transfer from small and medium-sized cities to big cities. Where they are, you have to transfer there. Put down your hobbies, pack your backpack, take your dependent wife, lock up your warm, spacious and bright house, say goodbye to your hometown, drive your free car, and come to this strange place, shouldering a special mission. , devoted himself to the battlefield without retirement policy, and stood the last duty for his sons and grandsons. The second is to shift the focus of work. Poor parents in the world. The past history of directing others to do things is gone forever. Now we find things to do by ourselves, do things we want to do, and we must do them with due diligence and wholeheartedly create good things for our children and grandchildren. working environment and living conditions. The third is to clarify one's three basic tasks, ① look after the house, take care of the children and cook, ② buy vegetables, mop the floor and wash peas, ③ take the grandchildren to kindergarten and pick them up from elementary school on time. Although this work is tiring, I am willing to do it to achieve a harmonious family. To enjoy three generations under one roof, for the lifelong ideal, we must continue as always. Through these years of training, my wife and I have achieved the following seven levels. ①Have the level of a teacher and insist on tutoring children’s homework every day. ②Have the basic abilities of a doctor, so that children can stay home even if they have minor illnesses. ③Have the patience to be a nanny and be meticulous. ④Have the skills of a healthy chef and be able to select ingredients and make new recipes. ⑤ Have the spirit of Lei Feng and only focus on dedication. ⑥Have the physique of an athlete, buy groceries, and pick up and drop off grandchildren; ⑦Have the skills of a professional driver, making it easy to recruit and get in and out. All these things were done with conscientiousness, hard work, and due diligence.
? (2) Looking back on these years, I have the following experiences.
? Over the years, I think that a busy life is also a kind of happiness. It leaves you no time to experience pain. Running around is a kind of happiness, allowing you to truly feel life. Physical and mental exhaustion is a kind of happiness. This kind of enjoyment makes you have no time and emptiness. The whole process is an experience of life, allowing you to truly understand life.
? Over the years, although I have been promoted to a full-time grandfather and downgraded to a paid nanny, my lovely grandchildren are bright and intelligent, and they have realized the happiness of family for me, and finally we have three generations living under the same roof. Happy home.
? Over the years, looking after the house for your son, taking care of the children, cooking, buying groceries, mopping the floor and washing peas have made your back and legs so tired. Go to bed, ask for advice three times a day, update the fortune list, buy vegetables and food, run around on two legs, and enter the kitchen as soon as you enter the house.
? Over the years, I have been taking my grandchildren to kindergarten, elementary school and junior high school all year round, year after year, day after day, with perseverance and joy, no matter the wind or rain, week after week. , I have never been late or left early, and I have persisted as always for my lifelong wish.
? In the past few years, I have retired from the position where I have worked for most of my life. I was really uncomfortable at first. I really expected to be liberated, relaxed, and relaxed, but who knew that I was a third-class citizen and a little kid? Their status is extremely fickle. Today they design a recipe, tomorrow they research on health, they consume regardless of the cost, they rush to take risks, and they are crazy about online shopping.
In the past few years, whenever I go out, my eyes have darkened. I rarely communicate or negotiate with my friends. I often think of my friends, colleagues and some good neighbors from the past. I am so far away from my hometown, so what can I do? Woolen cloth. Whenever I hold a cup of tea, I sit on the chair on the balcony and think carefully, I gave birth to you and I raised you, we don’t care who cares, who can we help if we don’t help? What do you want to do with your life? My son is happy. It is my glory. When I think of this, I let go of my old heart and am willing to stand on the last duty.
2. Moving towards the second ten-year goal
? To strive to achieve the second ten-year goal between the ages of seventy and eighty is to walk into the seventies with head held high, The seventieth year of life marks the entry into the twilight years of a person's life. The goal of this decade is very important for the elderly.
? I realize that life is wonderful because of struggle. If you want to move, you can move. Life is full because of pursuit. After seventy years old, you still have to have certain pursuits, but the situation is different. Life is beautiful because of happiness. To be healthy and happy, to feel at ease with pleasure, to have a good attitude, and to have a brilliant sunset because of freedom and ease, maintaining a good attitude is the first priority for people over the age of seventy.
? During these ten years, we must also have clear guiding ideology. I want to stick to one center, two basic points, and strive to achieve three no-minds, four forgets, and five possessions. We must overcome six incompetences and strive to cultivate our seven hobbies. ① One center is to take health as the center, ② two basic points are to live a more unrestrained life and look at things in a confused way. ③Those three don’t care. They will no longer care about their grandchildren after they graduate from elementary school. They will no longer interfere with their sons’ jobs and young people’s careers. They will not express any opinions on the purchase of fixed assets at home. They will have the final say. Let them go and rest assured. . ④Four forgets: forget your age and don’t talk about your age. Forget the glory and achievements of the past, and do not compare with others. Forget past possessions and capital, many things may not be yours, forget past grudges, and no longer have trouble with yourself and others. You are responsible for yourself and strive to have five possessions: 1. Have a good attitude, 2. Have a warm-hearted wife, 3. Have a few close friends, and (4) have your own warm and free home. (5) The key is to have your own capital. You don’t rely on others for your retirement, you have to rely on yourself. This is the key to realizing my brother's second decade.
? In these ten years, six things must be overcome in terms of living habits: ① Don’t eat when you are hungry, eat less and eat more, ② Don’t drink when you are thirsty, because water is the source of life. . ③Don’t sleep only when you are sleepy, and develop a good lunch break habit. ④You can’t rest until you are tired, so you can’t hold on. ⑤ Don’t go for a check-up only when you are sick. Comprehensive check-ups should be done at least twice a year. ⑥You can’t regret it when you are old, you must consider everything.
During these ten years, you must cultivate your hobbies in seven areas. ① Use your brain to compose to prevent Alzheimer's disease, write more thoughts about life, and strive to complete the second edition of "Unforgettable Years" within ten years. ② Sing to increase your lung capacity. As the times progress, sing more popular songs. ③ Take a walk, insist on walking in the morning and evening, and walk slowly in the rain. ④ When learning to dance square, don’t focus on dance postures, just practice your body. ⑤ Be pretty, pay attention to your clothes and body shape when you get older. ⑥ Laugh, laughter is a manifestation of self-relaxation, and laughter brings health. ⑦ If you want to strive to be slim when you grow old, you must form your own unique characteristics in these seven aspects. That is to be more happy and less troubled. No matter how much money you have, just be happy every day. Go to bed when you are tired and laugh when you wake up. The taste of life can be seasoned by yourself.
3. Entering the third ten-year goal
From the age of eighty to ninety, each of us has our own dream. I can totally imagine that pressing this When I reached my ten-year goal, I suddenly realized that time was as graceful as a clock hanging on the wall, as if the river was rushing eastward, rushing in and roaring away, as if most of my life had been taken away overnight.
? In these ten years, I think there is no need for too much sadness and self-compassion. We should still maintain pride and self-confidence, because our generation grew up in the bitter memories of hunger and poverty, and was tempered through hard work, learning from Dazhai in agriculture, Daqing in industry, planned economy, and the pain of reform and opening up. It has passed the test of various periods of my country's economic development. You should maintain enough confidence and pride in yourself. At this time, although our back is already slightly hunched, it is because we have carried too much weight in the past. Although our body has left many scars, it is the hardship of building a socialist economy. Although we have silver hair, flying freely in the autumn wind, we I have gone through wasted years and devoted a lot of life. There should be no regrets.
In these ten years, you should stay away from the world of society and prosperity, enjoy the unprecedented relaxation in the world, and make all your dreams come true.
In these ten years, I want to hold hands with my wife, appreciate the strength and prosperity of our great motherland, and share the fruits of reform and opening up. Get together with old friends and colleagues and talk about half a century of friendship. Stand in the corner of the park and watch the old sisters twisting their steps, singing and dancing softly, and listen to the old brothers playing and singing with their roaring voices and Beijing accent. Jinyun. Get close to busy places, look for happiness in many aspects, discover beauty in the ordinary, and cultivate your temperament through participation. Let yourself add a piece of scenery to the world.
In these ten years, loneliness, aging, and disease may all come inadvertently. There is sunshine and shadow in this world, there is happiness and pain in life, and there must be all aspects of it. Judgment. When there is no rain in the heart, there is a bright sun in the sky above the head. When the heart is as wide as the sea, the wind and waves are calm in front of you. Orchids live in the deep valleys, and loneliness is also fragrant. Look at the mountains and green pines in the distance, and contemplate the green bamboos in the mountains. If you are not afraid of cynicism, you will never believe in tears in life. Hope rises every morning, and you will treat your home as your own palace. Listen quietly to the grass growing green, if the wind blows the green grass, enjoy watching the fish and the frogs croaking. If you go out, dress yourself up like a handsome boy or goddess, and you can reflect your beauty and style everywhere. The golden autumn has reached its peak, and the sunset is red. , take living as your goal, focus on health, take happiness as your partner, and let faith and courage be your guarantee.
The author Zheng Hanbing
wrote in Wuhan.