Today, I cherish every sister who comes to this party, because you are willing to seek God's will. Here, I want to share with you some leadership and experience from the Lord; Pray that God will show us his will through His Word.
First, seek God's will:
Marriage is a human need, but when many people seek the road to marriage, they only seek their own hobbies, not God's wishes. If you can seek God's will, you will take the first step on the right path!
This is the principle of the Bible. When we need it, the Lord will provide for us. If you know this, no matter what happens on the road of life, God will fulfill his will according to what you see. But although some people are also seeking God's will, they still don't know why. There are three basic principles:
1, Cupid:
"Love God" is the key to everything. If you love God and encounter anything, you will clearly know that there is a Lord leading you. As long as you follow the guidance of the Lord, you don't have to hesitate or struggle. What should be put down is easy to put down and what should be dropped is easy to drop. "Love is the shortest way" is also "the way to avoid detours". If a person has been doing things according to his "viewpoint", then he has been taking a circuitous road; I believe some of you here are experienced in this field. If anyone loves God, he is known by God. In the original Greek, "knowing" means "knowing in person" and "knowing in person". You love God, and God knows all your needs and how to decide all your paths. You should love him, practice connecting with him, live in love, give yourself to him, and he will give you absolute supply!
2, simple:
Simplicity is not ignorance. Matthew 5: 8 says, "Blessed are the pure in heart, and they will see God." If you don't have your own requirements for everything, open your heart and be very simple and clear, God's will will will be easily revealed, and as long as one meets God, all problems will be solved. Some people pray for a long time; But the more he prayed, the more confused he became, because he kept spinning around in his own needs and didn't meet God. If a brother or sister makes some arrangements for her, she will feel anxious when she comes back. I don't know if God prepared it, because she hasn't met God yet. The condition of meeting God is a "pure heart". A pure heart has no conditions of its own. Everything in the Bible is possible. You must practice being simple to God.
3. Diligence:
The most obvious example of unmarried women in the Bible is Rebecca. In Genesis 24, we see how an unmarried woman fulfilled God's will through the guidance of the Holy Spirit. When Isaac was forty years old, his mother died and he was lonely. His father Abraham sent an old servant to his own family to marry Isaac (unbelievers and unbelievers can't stand the same yoke). When the old servant arrived in Hecheng, it was getting late and the women came out to fetch water. The old servant prayed to God and said, "God of Abraham! Please be kind to Abraham ... so that I can meet a good opportunity today ... I said to that woman, please take down your water bottle and give me water to drink. If she says, "Drink, and I'll give your camels a drink." May the woman be the wife you promised to your servant Isaac. 」
Before the words were finished, Rebecca came out with a water bottle on her shoulder, and the servant came forward to ask her for water to drink. Rebekah not only gave him water to drink, but also brought water to all his camels. The servant looked at her intently, knowing that Rebekah was what God had prepared for Isaac. With Rebekah's hospitality and kindness, God showed him the way. In church life, I saw many sisters being seen immediately because of her hospitality. More than twenty years ago, an elderly sister came from Brazil to attend a special meeting to marry her son. She has a very big farm in Brazil, and she asked my brother to help her find it. Just at the party, there was a sister who was only a freshman sitting next to her. My sister is very hard-working. She helps her turn over poems, pours water for her and accompanies her to the party. After the party, the elder sister came to my brother and said, "That's her, that's her! My brother invited this little sister, told her the reason and asked her if she would agree to this. The elder sister was frightened. She never thought this would happen to her, but because she trusted my brother's introduction, she was as simple as Rebecca. She said, "I'll go!" After the party, she dropped out of school and went to Brazil with her sister. This family is now very useful in Brazil and has a good witness. In church life, everyone is watching, but you should start with your hospitality and show your life naturally. The Holy Spirit is working there.
If young sisters want to be controlled by God, especially in marriage, they need kindness and enthusiasm. A mean and lazy young woman should be single. When people ask you to do one thing, you must do two things for them, and the second thing is far more than the first. You should not only give a man water to drink, but also fetch water for his ten camels. If you do this, you can have your husband and your Isaac. This is advice for all young single sisters. Rebecca is definitely. Although she has never met Isaac, she is willing to go to him without hesitation. She didn't say to her mother, "Mom, I've never met Isaac. Maybe I should write to him first, then invite him to our home, and then decide whether to marry him. " Rebecca didn't say that. Although her brother and mother hesitated to ask her to stay for at least another ten days, she said, "I'll go." She has absolute faith in God. In the past 40 years, I met some young sisters who thought too much about marriage. As a result, they became mental problems. Some people will spend days, weeks, months or even years thinking about whether a brother is the one God prepared for her. Such a sister came to me, and I said in a reproachful tone, "If you think he is that brother, marry him blindly;" If you don't think he is the brother, forget about him and don't talk about it. The more you think about it, the more you annoy God, yourself and me. How can I tell you yes or no? If I say yes, you will say that I don't know him; If I say no, you will feel unhappy because you have fallen in love with him. Either marry him or forget him. " I told them seriously. Young sisters, if you want to get married, you must learn to be kind, careful and absolute. I hope we can all: 1. Love God, because it is the shortest way. Second, simplicity, because only simplicity can meet God. Third, diligence can bring all actions.
Second, the implementation principle:
1, dedication:
Dedication refers to your transfer, which is the basis of spiritual experience and the first priority. Say to the Lord, "Lord! You are my Lord, I trust you, and I don't believe in relying on myself. " Some people can trust the Lord in everything, but marriage is in their own hands. You're thinking, I'm going to be with this person all my life. Why can't I see clearly? But can you see more clearly than God? I hope everyone present today will do the same and tell the Lord, "Lord! I have no choice but to trust; You are the Lord, you show me, you choose for me. In the matter of dedication, we must be absolutely careless, otherwise things will be blurred and the result will be tripped. Your Lord is most concerned about your needs. If you need it, you should pray and ask the Lord to create it for you. Customize an Isaac to match your Rebecca. This is God's way.
You should miss your family, live a church life with your brothers before the Lord, and share the blessings of life. People often have many illusions about love. "Only love, no marriage" and "Marriage is the grave of love" are all wet. Marriage before God is getting better and better. Every "gift" is the best. I spend my honeymoon every day. Don't envy the thoughts destroyed by Satan and live the life ravaged by Satan; What you need is a pure life before God, a life in which God prepares the Garden of Eden for people, that is, a church life, that is, a life of serving in the church. If you don't love and serve God, it will be difficult for God to give you such instructions in the church. If you have the heart to serve God in the church, it is very special. God can arrange one for you from heaven. You should stop and look at the life that God has planned for you. It is really the life in the Garden of Eden. You should love God, serve God, and give yourself to God in your marriage. This is a very necessary condition.
2, to learn to take the initiative to find a brother and sister to walk:
This is good protection for you. Some people usually don't come to traffic. If she comes, it's not to "flow", but to "stamp". She's already seeing someone outside. It's not appropriate. She came to seek your consent and approval. This is like some children making friends outside, "uncooked rice is cooked into mature rice", and parents should give permission; This practice is not good. There are so many caring brothers and sisters in the church, you should take the initiative to seek transportation. Be sure to establish a family style so that every young unmarried sister has a mother-like sister as your protection. We may not be able to do anything, but we can pray; Don't say that no one in the church cares about you, it's because you don't come to parties often, you don't give others a chance to care about you, and others don't know where you are. You are active, active; These sisters are willing to welcome your traffic with open arms, and they all hope that there will be an open door and a smooth traffic pipeline in the church.
3, in the process of communication, don't take the initiative:
A man who seeks God's will will never take the initiative. For example, an unmarried sister was introduced to her by a brother. As soon as we met, her sister immediately refused and said how to introduce such a brother to me. She didn't think it was appropriate, and there was no contact from then on. Although this senior brother is not very good in appearance and eloquence, he actually loves the Lord. This kind of brother with connotation is often seen only by wise sisters. As a result, the Lord prepared a good sister for him. Ten years later, this family has become a very practical and conscientious family and an example for the local church. On the other hand, the sister who refused, after several years, still didn't find the object, hurriedly married a foreigner, and finally ended in divorce. When a brother or sister introduces you or is guided by the Holy Spirit, practice putting yourself in the hands of the Lord. Practice without mentioning anything, even if it is broken, it will be broken by the other side. You just pray to the Lord, "Lord! I don't mention anything, I am willing to let you show it; Although I don't want to break it, if it is yours, I will keep silent; If you didn't send it, please ask the other party to take time off. " It didn't hurt you at all, because you didn't want it either. What if you don't succeed and you like him again? You must learn to forget him, don't always keep it in mind, and tie a knot in your heart. Emotional marriage is a great experiment. You should learn to be simple, "yes, yes, no, no", so that neither side will get hurt. With the introduction of brothers and sisters, you should learn to respect each other, learn not to compare, and learn to wait for God.
My brother and I have been married for 30 years, and he likes my presence at any time. He said, where my sister goes, I will go. How happy this is! Is your connotation, your fragrance and your inner nature really cute? There must be pursuit and enjoyment in order to spread. As long as you have it, it will soon show up. You must put yourself in the hands of the Lord and let him reveal his will without taking the initiative to mention anything.
Iii. Principles of communication with foreigners:
In the church, it seems that sisters are always more than brothers, just like the small shadow of the church life in Bethany, which has become the normal state of church life in past dynasties. So what should we do? We should realize that communication with foreigners is also an opportunity, but in communication, we should pay attention to the following points:
1, in communication, don't invest your emotions first, learn to wait for the Lord and trust him.
2. Pay attention to each other's personality.
Only after people fell down did we see that our ancestors were irresponsible men and good women. When the snake seduced Eve, it didn't ask Adam if he could eat first, so he ate. This depraved temperament has been passed down from Eve to the present. No matter how low-key, humble and gentle you are, you are still at the forefront in essence. You should have this understanding of yourself. Adam is eating the fruit of the knowledge tree of good and evil. What did he say? Adam said, "The woman you live with gave me the fruit from that tree, and I ate it. Adam seems to mean that I won't eat until you give me this woman! You see, men are born irresponsible. The foreigner is more obvious at this point, because he didn't get salvation from God, and he didn't get life from God. You see, he seems to be very responsible. It's just an act. Some people are responsible for saving face, but in essence, he is irresponsible. A woman's weakest organ is her ear. If I say something nice to you, you will be fooled. You saw the snake seduce Eve without seducing Adam first. The weakest thing for a man is his eyes. He likes to watch. If a man marries you because you are beautiful, one day he will not want you because you are no longer beautiful. If you dress up like a different person every time you go to see him, you should be careful. He won't know you when you return to your original shape. You must keep these points in mind.
If you want to be a spouse, you must save him first:
This is a necessary and sufficient condition to measure whether it is the will of the Lord; Don't say, I will save him later, because you put your feelings in, and you are afraid of losing him. If he can't be saved, you should know that it's not God's will unless you have to suffer for yourself. You should communicate with your brothers and sisters and bring them to the party. God has created a spirit that makes people seek God, and he will also long for God. You should tell God, "Lord! If this person is prepared by you, Lord! Tell him to be saved! " What are you afraid of? Are you afraid of losing God or losing him? You should love God and love God's will. "If someone loves God, this person is known to God." You should believe in God from the bottom of your heart, and you will find that God has given you more than you ask and think. You should learn to put it in the hands of the Lord and let him show it. I don't choose. I believe that you will come to the end of the road and be rewarded in church life.
4. Protect your body with holiness and glory:
When dealing with foreigners, you should protect your body with holiness and dignity, and you should not retreat step by step for fear of losing him; The more you respect and protect your body, the more people respect you and the more people value you. The more I want to find you; If you lose him because of this, it proves that he is irresponsible and God has not prepared him for you. Why are you trapped in the trap of depravity? Marriage and family are the source of God's blessing. Don't put yourself on trial. You should know that God cares about you as much as you care about yourself.
5. Take the initiative to seek transportation:
In church life, sisters are often limited by traditional ideas that sisters should be passive rather than active. You should take off your veil If you think your brother is suitable, take the initiative to find a brother and sister to transport, and they will protect you. A sister told me that a brother likes her, and from all indications, this brother likes her. I see, impossible. This brother has already met someone and has no feelings for her. This sister has been fantasizing in her mind that this brother should be …, be careful, she will be insane. A sister fell in love with a brother, so she desperately begged the Lord to give her this brother, and she also thought that the Lord would definitely give her this brother. This is the responsibility of "she", not the "Lord", which is wrong. If you like a brother, you have to talk to an older brother and sister. They will help you check and protect you. Maybe God will show his will.
May the Lord establish a healthy marriage road in the church, with everyone in health and transportation. Let's fully understand God's will in marriage under the protection of God and set an example in the church.